Brilliant
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Good to hear you’re feeling so much better, maybe you’ll even get out for lunch and a glass of wine tomorrow! You deserve that after all the pain.
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Brilliant news,Corinna xx
Hi, so pleased you are feeling so much better. Months ago I was in pain and couldn’t go out, just a short painful walk to the recreation ground just around the corner with the dogs. Pain and grief is not a good combination. Being able to get out is my way of coping. I don’t particularly need company as long as I can get out and walk and go to the allotment. Today while walking the dogs I have chatted to five people. One being the local Mayor, who Brian and I had served on a committee with. So I am satisfied but to be shut in at home with pain doesn’t bare thinking about. Good luck for a continued recovery Pat xx
So glad your felling better Sadie x
Great idea!!!
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Morning, fantastic news expect you’re feeling tons better being pain free
So pleased for you
Jen☆
So good not to feel pain
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Corinna thinking about you today my thoughts and blessings go out to you,
Love and hugs.
Blessings
Jen☆
Thankyou xx
Is anyone receiving messages!
For the past 4 days nothing came !!
Hope everyone is all right!
Sadie
HI Sadie I thought the same I don’t post often but I do still like to read the posts. Dawn
Hi Dawn, maybevthey all went away on holiday together
How was your weekend? Did you find hard having an extra day?
Sadie x
That seems a really good idea I think.dawn
HI Sadie I’m away with my daughter and grandchildren which has helped it’s the weekends that I hate I work Monday to Friday and Saturday is the day john passed away in November 18 Since coming on this site I have made friends with a lady on the site and we go out over the weekend we help each other through how grief we understand when we are feeling down we can just talk to each other when we need just a hug we are there for each other we arrange with two other ladies who have also lost there husbands and meet them. So this site has helped me in a big way without it I would not have met 3 lovely friends who I can turn to when I’m feeling that nobody understands what I’m going through. Love Dawne
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HI Sadie I’m away with my daughter and grandchildren which has helped it’s the weekends that I hate I work Monday to Friday and Saturday is the day john passed away in November 18 Since coming on this site I have made friends with a lady on the site and we go out over the weekend we help each other through how grief we understand when we are feeling down we can just talk to each other when we need just a hug we are there for each other we arrange with two other ladies who have also lost there husbands and meet them. So this site has helped me in a big way without it I would not have met 3 lovely friends who I can turn to when I’m feeling that nobody understands what I’m going through. Love Dawne
Morning Sadie, hope you’re more mobile now.
Having battles with sleepless nights, trying all manner of solutions and recommendations. Also trying to keep focussed on the final disengagement reports, bit difficult due to the lack of sleep.
Not looking forward to tomorrow, it’s 12 months since Alan’s funeral. I don’t know where this past year and 2 weeks have gone, just seems a complete blur in the densist of fogs. The lack of contact with some friends and family have certainly given me something to contemplate. It’s a very sad situation when the passing of a husband/wife/partner results in the elimination of the surviving spouse from social events and activities.
I’ve said a along that I feel like I’ve contracted leprosy and what I’ve gone through is highly contagious. Certainly makes you think doesn’t it? One person asked why I’d stopped phoning her she was a little taken aback when I replied that there’s only so many times I’d phone someone who persistently said they were busy and would call me back, she said she was offended, my response was that I was the offended one and after 11 calls to her between June last year and March this year not once did she return my call. Upshot is, another fair weather friend bites the dust.
I know everyone has their own lives and families, but it is very upsetting when you’ve been a great friend and supported them when they were at their lowest, and when I needed some support, they just weren’t interested. Too busy getting on with their own lives. From now on, that is what I have decided to do as far as those select few are concerned, their are family members amongst this sorry bunch too. I started to feel I was becoming an embarrassment to them, yet can’t think why. Just makes me feel worthless and really upset.
Sorry for offloading my feelings and thoughts Sadie, was the main reason for keeping a low profile these past few days.
Blessings
Jen☆
So sorry that you are feeling this way, Jen. I too have similar experiences but truth be told I haven’t made much effort myself. I know enough to realise that unless a person has experienced this heartbreak for themselves they just don’t get it and expect more from me than I can give, or want to give for that matter. At the outset of this nightmare I spoke to a few people who assumed so much rubbish that I quickly lost patience and decided pretty soon afterwards that I would save my breath for those who do get it, albeit a very low number. Others don’t know how to be, how to react, what to say or, not say. I’ve asked myself several times, again back at the beginning, I don’t do it now, if I was ever that person. Did I ever assume or, expect the impossible from a recently bereaved widow or widower. Thankfully I can say I didn’t. I can admit to realising I had little if any idea of the full strength of their anguish and pain but, I certainly didn’t avoid them, stop contacting them, chatting to them like I knew how they felt, quite the opposite in fact! We never stop learning do we. Often our lessons are painful and soul destroying but, is there anything out there that can hurt us more than the losses of our much loved husbands, wives etc. I very much doubt it. Disappointment in others, yes, but not the pain we all live with each day. Their insensitive behaviour and avoidance of us cannot touch that. Keep doing what you do, Jen. Do it knowing you’re the better person. Love to you x
Dawn it is lovely you met these ladies and you became friends
I was thinking about this today - create a “club” of widows who met and did stuff at the weekends! Weekends are hard - the last few days have been a challenge for me
Sadie x