I meant to say ’ I will make a good life’ not a laugh
S x
Reading all the messages on this site really helps as everyone is going thru the same sadness and loss. 24th June Monday would have been mine and Daves anniversary but we will not be going to have a nice lunch like we normally do. So I will just go with his sister and just sit with Dave. it has been 8 mths 2 wks since losing Dave and it still feels like yesterday.
This site and everyone who post helps as it means we are ot alone Family and friends are really great but no one understands unless there have had to face losing the love of there life. Lots of Hugs Queenie xx
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Sadie…
…well we only have one chance of doing it…
" quoting: " I will make a good life…"
Jackie…
Evening De,
It was good to read your message and so sad too as I feel just like you. I just exist from day to day. I have no family at all.
I am so very lonely and hate this life. I would love a sign from Mike like you would like a sign from your late husband to let us know they are all ok.
I was with Mike 42 years and can’t stand this life alone. Like you life is meaningless.
Keep messaging as I find it does help and just knowing there are others out there helps. Very good wishes to you De Love Suex
De, be reassured he is ok
A friend of mine told me to talk to Jack and tell him I am ok even though I miss him and also to tell him that from here I was supporting his transition to another realm . As we need the support they also need ours because they are also unsettled - I did this for several days and then after a while I had the most beautiful dreams of Jack embracing me and holding me
Maybe you should try it
Live
Sadie xx
Hi Shelia Thank you for asking like Lotties Dad he has to go into hospital 2nd week july to have gallbladder removed and part of pancras fell so sorry for him he is a lovely Brother and since Colin passed he has been their for me all the time unlike my Daughter.who hasn’t even asked how he is so upset with her like you Shelia have helped out with a lot of money to get her new house straight , That’s the end of it now my money is now my money, Been in garden a lot today had the gardener for 2 hours yesterday that don’t sound good but you know what I mean but still lots to do the place is to big but will wait until my Brother is well before I decide what to do about moving he is my concern at the moment, Do hope Lottie is getting stronger and you are not doing to much we can forget our old we are,Off to London with my friend tomorrow get train to London then getting boat up the thames, she then goes to Italy with her Daughter and family and that’s how it should be Will close now Shelia this computer wants looking at it does its own thing, Take care have a nice weekend if you can lots love Pammi xxxx
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Hi Brenda
Hope you don’t mind me messaging you but just read your message to Maryjane. I was sorry to hear the sad loss of your John a year ago. I lost my Mike 4 months ago.
I am alone with no family so like you the flat is so empty.
I have been out most of the day never saw anyone to speak too will sit alone and watch TV tonight all alone. I do hate this lonely life. Wonder whether it gets better.
I find this web site is so comforting… If it wasn’t for reading other peoples sad stories and being able to reply or message I don’t know what I would have done.
Shames so many people live in Scotland or miles away as it would be so nice if all the people who message due to being lonely, sad or low could get together.
Anyway once again hope you didn’t mind me messaging. Take good care Suex.
Hi Queenie
Just read your message and sorry this anniversary will be so sad. I lost my Mike 4 months ago and I hate this lonely life. I have no family at all but luckily you have.
This site is so comforting to me reading peoples messages and knowing there are others out there feeling like me. It makes you feel you are not totally alone.
Be stron on the 24th Queenie, its hard ah! Love Suex
Hi Just read your message, I lost Colin 18months ago after being together 59 years, Its so lonely I agree I ride round on buses every day just to get out, we had a car since I was 16 right up until Colin passed so being on buses was something new Have one Daughter who I don’t see much of at all and a friend who I meet one day a week as she has a busy life with a large family, I have a large garden that I like to sit in and read but It makes me sad as its something we used to do together, We just have to push ahead but its easier said than done, It would be so lovely if we could all meet but it cant happen we seem to all be spread out everywhere so we message and it does help as we are all in the same boat , it isn’t the life any of us wanted I feel I don’t live anymore I exist because inside part of me is dead , As I keep saying its Amputation without the blood, Take care . Love Pammi xx
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You’ve summed it up Pammi
Dear Brenda I’m so sorry to hear that you too are suffering this awful loneliness and especially having lost your dog too. I love my little cat so much and would be totally depressed without her. You would think your daughters would have more empathy with how you feel but, as they sound like mine, it’s hard when they don’t. My parents-in-law lived in Muchalls for many years so we used to go there a lot. Keep in touch if you would like to. Jacqi xx
Jackie, I have Alan’s ashes in a beautiful engraved pewter urn in prose of place in out lounge, and they are visible from every aspect of the room. We’d planned and paid for our funerals in the september before he passed in the following May, little realising we’d be contacting the village funeral parlour so soon, the only thing we hadn’t made provision for was our ashes, it was when I went to discuss them that the prominent thought of keeping them with me until it’s my time, that I made the decision. I could not scatter bits of him all over, I know others have done so, again this is personal to each and every one of us. Do what make you feel close to Richard, whether it is in the county you now live, the county you both lived before or the county where you feel you belong (if this differs).
Our lives have been turned upside down and inside out, we now have to look to building a new enforced life in the best way we can and live this new enforced life for both ourselves and our departed u
Husbands/wives/partners. We owe it to them to do so.
I agree with what Romy says, she’s a very profound lady ☆
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Dear Sue and Sadie. Thank you so much for your replies. I honestly thought I was progressing… how wrong I was!.
I cry my eyes out when I am on my own, but in any company I looked as if I am coping. The longer it is, the more real it becomes. The sadness and fear I feel are so deep and asked myself if i can Iive without my darling whom I shared 30 wonderful years. He wad everything to me. And and as we didn’t have children, I am feeling so guilty and empty.
We both have lovely families but no company can replace my husband. its so different isn’t it.!.
I am so down in the dumps today and thinking that in a few weeks it could have been his 61st birthday and in August our 31st wedding anniv.
I pray every day for forgiveness about what i could have done better and pray that he is ok. Which is do important to me,. He loved life and was as shocked as I was.
I hear what you say dear Sadie I will try that. I so much want to have one happy second with him again.
Thank you and I am sorry that i dont have the right words to support you both today. But i feel your pain too.
XX De
Almost 9.30 pm, getting darker outside, time to lock the back and front doors, pull down the blinds, draw the curtains, my home is so quiet, so cold, so empty…
Dear Sue . Sorry you feel like me. These feelings you wish no one had to go thru. Life is cruel. (Sorry replied to your post together with Sadie).
Fingers crossed for the messages we are waiting for.
Love De. Xx
De…
…I so agree, “quoting: " The longer it is, the more real it becomes…”
I too think I am getting worse as the days go by…
Dear De
Grief is not straight forward - we go forward yhinknwe progress and then we slide back - it is the way it is !
So you are progressing !!
I think we all regret a few things. I wished at times that I had been more pacient. I wished this and that but a friend of mine said to me " you were not a perfect wife , and you hurt Jack sometimes. Jack wasn’t a perfect husband and he hurt you sometimes but you loved each other!! And liove is all it matters!
I had a very emotional day because I was sorting out some letters Jack wrote me and pictures - I did cry a lot . As I read those loving letters and look at the pictures of so many wonderful times it highlights how grateful and blessed we were to have eac other and having created the family we did and also makes the pain greater
Grief is the price we pay for live
Hope your tomorrow is better
Safie xx
I send you a loving hug Sheila!!
Safie xx
Sheila…
…no apology needed…our bereavement behaviour does not follow a pattern…we are all over the place…
Jackie…(((hugs)))
Evening Pammi
Thank you for your message.
Sorry to hear about your loss after being together 59 years, how wonderful.
What a shame you have no car now.
You are lucky to have a garden and able to sit and read. I am in a flat with no balcony.
As you say we are alive but inside we are dead well I am anyway…
Looks like we are in for a spell of sunny weather so get that deck chair out and sit in your garden and relax.
Take good care Love Suex
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