It’s all we have!
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Absolutely! I find solace here most nights especially after a long hard and lonely day!
Thank you everyone who reads!
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Sadly, so true. Here alone, watched a bit of TV but can feel the emptiness building now and tho its still early I’ll be off to bed shortly to escape the reality of what we are all experiencing. Good night all, take care
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I keep remembering what my mum said last to me, having a tearful moment at the moment. Think I’m suffering from depression. Maybe we all are who knows ?
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I am really sorry you are feeling so low. Keith. I think the majority of people on here have had a very difficult time this Christmas. I hope we can all find a little joy. You take care
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It truly is hard losing someone close but we need to concentrate on what our loved one would want for us and that would be to try and find happiness in the small things and not dwell on our sadness, we will not ever forget them and will think of them every single day but we must also find happiness amongst the living, in friends, family members even neighbours, I have one neighbour who has been a great support to me since I lost my husband in May 2023, take care and talk to someone close about how your feeling, thinking of you at this sad time xx
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With the respect I don’t think the word “must” should occupy the language and landscape of grief.
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There’s a big difference between living in a Dreamworld and reality. Reality is I don’t have a family, not everyone does. We could cure a lot of evils of this world if we more caring, compassionate.
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I think sometimes we just have to take the plunge and reach out to others who will equally be in need of support. I went to see a couple of people on their own on Boxing Day and it was a struggle, sure, but I felt better for being with them for an hour.
BUT, it’s awful and there is no magic cure for grief. And I’m currently sitting in the car at Tesco remembering the time Bridget was with me just before she went into the care home. She was very ill with dementia and wouldn’t recognise me. Memories like this spring up out of the blue and make me very sad.
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Yes, memories appear without warning.
That was good of you to visit others.
Take care x
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Peter11
Its hard even though we got family and friends around grief is such a lonely place , the pretending we ok is exhausting
So many memories of being with our loved ones not being able to make more memories with them hurts so bad ,
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Never felt so low as I’m feeling now. Christmas was the anniversary of losing Val, I’ve had this awful norovirus/food poisoning sine Christmas Eve and am absolutely physically and emotionally drained. Been alone all day, just had enough. Off to bed to escape, dont know how much more I can handle. As you say grief is such a very lonely place Goodnight all, take care
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So sorry you are ill. I hope you are better soon.x
Yea there’s no help out there really there’s cruise and I thinïk there’s something’s on here. But what happens when you end the call ? grieve isn’t a part time thing and you can’t plan your calendar by it either. I think bed might be the best thing for you and hopefully you feel better tomorrow. I listen to music a lot to help me but I’m still alone and not really happy. I hope get better soon I know how much health can be a burden on daily life. Not had a easy year myself and lost a lot of the year to the hospital. I still got to face trips to the hospital and a stay in hospital if I can deal with it, won’t be easy for me. Sending you hugs to get through life.
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I apologise if I have caused offence with what I have written, It truly was not my intention, I am so sorry for any upset I have caused & I am so sorry for your loss x
So sorry to hear you have Norovirus, I have had that in the past and it is a horrendous bug, I hope your feeling better soon, try to keep hydrated xxx
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Sometimes that’s easier said then done, besides losing my mum I’ve had another serious set back which has made me think of mum even more and think of my life with her. Life’s been really bad since and I’ve had no control over it, at the time I wasn’t sure if it was a blessing or a curse? was I suppose to join mum earlier, I needed her but she wasn’t there no more.
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I know, nothing is easy when grieving, it can be the loneliest place to be, no-one can truly understand our grief because it is personal to us. Though by joining this forum I hope you can at least find some comfort in the knowledge that you are not totally alone and there is always someone here happy to listen, I know I did when I joined, I lost my husband to cancer in May 2023 we were married 47 yrs and I don’t think I will ever get over the loss I just learn to live with it every day and its so, so hard.
My thoughts are with you and everyone on here because supporting each other helps us all to get through this the best we can xxx
Gorge73
Just keep taking one day at a time thats all we can do , i keep trying to focus on how lucky i was to be married to such a wonderful husband and the lovely memories that will stay with me forever they say deeper the love deeper the grief it is so hard without our loved ones its like we to learn how to walk again , im glad Christmas over with its exhausting fake smiles pretending im ok when i just want to scream in pain take care
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Hi, just got up and not sure how I’m feeling yet. I had telephone counselling with Cruse but , like you say when you put the phone down you’re back to being without the one person you so desperately need. I know such organisations have the best intentions but nothing will ever be the same. You mention health struggles which is another worry when you’re alone, what with trying to keep your day to day stuff going and the doctors/hospitals etc all piled on top of our already drained state. I really hope that whatever your health worries may be that things will sort themselves out and that we can all hopefully look forward to a more peaceful, healthy New Year. Take care, and thanks for caring
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