Good morning, I’m hanging on every word you say and totally understand how we’re all feeling. Unless people are in this situation they cannot even begin to know what its like. The days are long and empty and the nights longer still. I stare out the window at people going about their busy lives which makes my life seem even more empty and pointless. My situation is so similar, we were married in October 73 and had 47 amazing years together, plus 2 more when we were courting , I too have 3 daughters who are very supportive but I find myself in bits daily when I should be the so called strong one supporting us all…I simply cannot be that person. my life.our hopes and dreams have all gone…there’s nothing left. I look through photographs, come across cards we’d given each other and so many memories just overwhelm me. Got to stop now I’m becoming too emotional can barely see through the tears.
Take care
Oh we are so similar in terms of years married, wanting to be strong, sons and daughters who want us to be the old mum again
I dont want to be sad like this so any recipe for a bit of happy cheer would be so welcome.
Im trying to be positive but the snow and ice arent helping.
Keep safe and warm everyone x
Dont be sorry at all we know how you feel greif is such a lonely place im 2yr in and still cry every day ,im sat ere wondering if i moved house would it help but really dont think i could so many memories with my husband ere and i do love my house it hard to try to focus on the futures living without our loved ones , because its 2 yrs since my lovely husband unexpectedly passed away friends dont seem to understand why im still a mess most days my grief counselling tell me to open up anď talk to friends about how im feeling but i told him they dont understand so ill just keep taking one day at a time take care
To be honest tinatina if I told my friends after nearly 6 months I really wouldnt have any so i dont hold with grief counsellors view. Yes friends know Im sad but i try not to lose it in front of them.
I open ip to my daughters and my son. Not 100percent because they are grieving our loss badly too and we would all like to be in a happier place. They want their old mum back. Id like her too xxx keep safeand warm x
Every single part of my life has changed. My life wasn’t exciting, but what I wouldn’t give to have it back. It was comfortable and I had my very best friend. We drove each other nuts, but oh my goodness I miss that unconditional love. 24 weeks today and I miss him so much.
Sometimes I think I’m going mad. It’s 15 months since my husband died but I just can’t accept that he’s gone. I seem to be spending my time re/living the 55 years we were together. I’m really trying to make a new life but failing miserably. Is it just me?
Lots of hugs xx
Nala and mbg Im with you all the way
Heartsand
I know how you feel I feel the same and I’m 63weeks in
It’s just so hard that I won’t see him anymore I talk to him but he never answers.
Take care x
I know that feeling, relationship with mum even a paramedic said once I get you two fight like cat and dog. Mum was a Sagittarius and I I’m a Leo, bother 
signs.
I keep looking for signs that he is still with me. The occasional robin but is that just coincidence. Sometimes he’s in my dreams but just in background , I just don’t want to go on like this anymore and fed up with pretending to family and friends that I’m ok. I’m certainly not ok xxx
I look for signs too but never get any x
Look at other things to help you with your grief, counseling a spiritual church
I go to spiritual church every sunday it really does help sometimes i get a message , ive also got to know some lovely people who are there for the same reson my friends aren’t believers i go on my own
@Tinatina hi I am glad you get comfort at the spritualist church . I never got a message there yet . I have had some strange happenings at home . I have some battery operated candles and they can only go on altogether . I was having a stressful
time and one suddenly lighted up on its own . That was definitely my Andrew
I go now and again to the spiritualist church, I have had my mum and aunty come through, I really don’t expect my husband to come through cause he didn’t believe in that ! But sometimes when Im lying in bed I feel like someone is touching my feet, its happened a few times and I always pull my feet away , wouldn’t surprise me if it was him, he knew I hated my feet being touched 
When my mum came through, can’t remember all she said but the one thing was the the guy laughed and said “she’s telling me I am very nosey, stop asking so many questions “ thats when I knew that was my mum, just said what she thought 
. Funny people say that about me now I’m older, clearly had a good teacher in my mum and my husband he was the same, very blunt at times speaking to anyone and I would cringe lol x
What I find with the spiritualist church it doesn’t matter if you don’t get someone coming through its interest listening to others, some so emotional that Ive seen the whole room in tears xx
Jol
Bless you i had a medium come to my home Sean Ford from Rotherham he was absolutely brilliant told me so much nobody could have known, he gave me messages from my husband even told me about my mum having dementia he said my husband said its hard for me i definitely believe in spiritual ,ive had a few things happen in our home too if you local to Rotherham in west Yorkshire id definitely recommend Sean Ford sending hugs
Gorgi
It is lovely to see other people get messages , the nice thing is we get to meet new people and they are all going for same reason sending hugs
@Tinatina wow I am from Rotherham my love . I will search for him but I have an appt for the end of January with another fantastic medium . She brought all my family including Andrew and is was so comforting. Thanks so much for the tip . Xx
I’m pleased you guys are finding support with spiritual church. I belong a spiritual group on FB. I saw a Robin today outside my window I was hoping it may stick around but it was busy in it’s daily routine. I saw a post on here of a Robin that flew into someone’s house and perched on the shower rail. No doubt made her day, I think you feel so vulnerable and alone after you lose somebody. You feel guilty and if you see a daughter and mum in the bank it reminds you.