hmm…well said… 
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People don’t really know what grieving feels like until it happens to them…one day! My friends seem to be saying they do understand but their actions say otherwise - sadly that’s reality unfortunately 
At least we have this forum to let it all out to one another who understands what each of us is going through…thank you everyone for reading and sharing…take care 
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Angel1309
You have said exactly how i am feeling.My dear wife Passed 4 months ago.The pain and grief is still so raw.The lonelliness the emptyness.The empty house.Living alone eating alone.It is all so painful.As you say people dont really know what grieving feels like until it happens to them.They say they understand but unless they have been through what we have and are going through they dont.What has really hit home is up to my wifes funeral people were phoning me quite often now hardly anyone bothers.I know people have their own lives and families but it really hurts me.Thank goodness for this site everyone is so understanding and knows what we are all going through.Take care
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Brummy,
I am afraid once the funeral is over. They move on, they have said their goodbyes. We have not and probably never will. For us this pain will be with us,until we meet are loved ones again. All we can do is try and keep their memory alive. Thankfully we have this site, so we can be with people who understand the grief and help each other. Take care
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All so true, It’ll soon be 5 years since losing the love of my life and the pain is still so real. Like you say the lonliness and empty house situation can be really hard to cope with. I don’t go far, usually just food shopping or a tea room for a coffee which breaks the days up a bit but as soon as I’m home and close the door behind me that awful feeling of isolation is back. Its a little bit easier with the lighter nights as there are still people passing by my window and noise of activity but when the dark nites are here and everything goes quiet a lot earlier its awful…I can’t wait for bedtime, for the day to end. I know its wrong and should cherish every day but without Val there’s just no point anymore. When Val was really poorly her sister would phone for an update but since she’s been gone I’ve not heard a single word from her. Yes, its a 2 way thing and I could contact her . but in a way I think she just doesn’t realise what its like .I hope with time things will get a bit easier for you though we all know it will never be the same. Take care
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Nightwish1
Thank you for understanding how i am feeling.It is true what you said.They move on they said their goodbyes.I feel like i will never move on.i am trying but its so hard.Being on my own now is really painfull and i get upset at the slightest thing.I do like to believe we will meet our loved ones again.Its that thought that keeps me going i think.Thank goodness we have this site to help and support us and understands what we are going through.Take care
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george73
Thank you so much for your understanding.I am so gratefull for this site.I feel the pain will never go away.Being alone is so difficult.We had no children.My wife has a sister who does phone but she had a brain hemmorage and is in a poor mental state.You cannot have a proper conversation with her as her attention span is so limited.i dont drive.My wife couldnt either so have to rely on the buses.Ther are ggod facilities here in the village but i usuall go into town to shop on a saturday.I do have work colleagues but they are just tat colleagues not friends.As you say as soon as you come home close the door the feeling of isolation returns and the feeling of being alone too.I know what you mean about waiting for bedtime.As you say without our loved one there is no point anymore.Nothing will ever be the same again.I loved my wife with all my heart and will until the day i go.I just cannot see a future without her and now being alone for evermore.I just wish i could have said goodbye to her properly.She passed so suddenly.Take care
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You are so right it is so lonely and empty at home and were ever you go you are without them .sometimes I’m in town and it suddenly hits me he’s not here anymore he’s not going to come home from work later he can never come home again .It makes my feel sick it’s like someone has cut me in half and nobody understands unless it’s happened to them even family
Take care
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Pam it’s been nearly 9 months since i lost Chris we were married for 50 years he was my husband my best friend my everything. I still get that awful sinking feeling when i come home knowing he won’t be there. I hate my own company and feel lonely all the time even with people. The thought of the future alone terrifies me.your right to start with friends and relatives used to call round invite me for meals and ring me, thats all stopped know i guess they think i should be over it they’ve no idea the pain we are all in , they won’t know until it happens to them.
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Same as me my daughter would have t hers for dinner and my grown up granddaughters would come see me and now I feel so alone it’s been 20 months since I lost my steve and I miss him every minute off thee day
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I know how you feel. I lost my beloved last year i feel the same. It’s not the same knowing that when you come home from work they are no longer there. I cry most days. The worst is at night so lonley not having my beloved by my side i feel so sad .
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Duk45
I know exactly what you mean when you come home from work they are not there.I only work now to pay the bills.What future now my dear wife is no longer here?so lonely and empty thats my life now.As you say the worst is at night no longer having my dear wife next to me.Take care
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When my wife passed in a hospice the nurse brought a small crocheted throw type thing and placed her hands on it. I’ve had that throw in our bed ever since and I put it up behind my back which gives the feeling that someone is there. Might sound strange but I get comfort knowing that she touched it after she passed
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george73
Thats a lovely thing to do.I have her dressing gown next to me and her pyjama top i hold onto.It does help to comfort me.Nightimes can be so difficult and painful.I cry every night sme nights not as heavily.I just wish she was still here
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Thank you very much . Very much appreciated. 
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Yes, thank goodness for this site… 
I dread to think how I would have coped without it for the past 25 months
you too…take care
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Morning all.
Slept really well last night,amazing what a clear conscience and a/c can do for you.
Ron.
So sorry for your loss Angel.I understand what you are going through ,as i lost my husband ,who had terminal cancer over a year ago .Thinking of you.
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@lucycat thank you for your kind words…please take good care x
A full night sleep can surely make a difference…although it’s rare, sadly 
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