Hi @Martin2 hope your day goes as well as can be.
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Half way through the day no one visits sat watch tv same as any other day you would my children live miles away
They don’t must be the norm WhatsApp text happy birthday have a lovely day umm think I’ll have a shower an go out look at some caravan. Think then can take the dogs out. With me weeks or weekend away from house Got to be more to life then this .have I become that strange to my kids a grand kids. Maybe better off keeping my self to my self x
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Nearly six months since my husband passed, everyone’s life carries on, my loss is ‘old ‘ news in people’s eyes. You’re strong, you’ll cope, he’s not struggling now, they haven’t got a clue what’s it’s like walking in an empty house, waking every morning for it to hit you again.
Sunshine, longer days, he should be here to enjoy them.
It’s hard, I will manage and carry on and grieve behind closed doors.
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It’s nearly 6 months for me and sometimes I think I should be over it .But when you’ve been with someone for over 41 years it’s hard you just keep looking out for them x
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Hi @Pam14 @ Sue155
Yes, 10 months on still feel the same.
I survive get by but like you say, when you’re been with someone for over 38 years more or less. The silence coming home to no one being alone is heartbreaking 
Every day goes by and my pain is still there i miss him everyday but i still exist in this new world without him and it is very hard.
I dont have any family around and friends dont live close by trying to get out and make new friends hard when you’re older but i still try.
Hopefully in time it is easier to deal with but early days i guess.
Take care
Lynne x
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I don’t remember having so many aches and pains as I do now or is it just because I’m getting older. I was always quite a confident person when my hubby was alive but now I’m not very confident at all and am always second guessing nearly every thing. Anyone else feel the same as me xx
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Glad days done no visitors how popular I am. Of to bed tv night all
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Hi @AnnieG1
I agree with what you say.
I had ovarian cancer treatment 3 years back and my husband was always with me in the follow ups now the last two 3 monthly checks i did alone and that was hard. Fingers crossed so far results tests have been good. This weekni have had a cold virus unable to shift had antibiotics and now paracetamol to try shift but 5 days on feel terrible i misd him looking after me on my own not quite the same.
Take care
Lynne x
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Hi @ Martin2
I know how you feel no one been i touch lasr week spoke to a neighbour 2 days ago.
Lonely and not feeling great.
I just want to wish you happy birthday and you are not alone we are all here to speak listen to you.
Life is so different trying to live without them but there has to be a reason why we are left behind.
I will try my best to help others who are grieving and upset.
Take care
Lynne
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So sorry you had such a bad day Martin.
I’ve had an up and down day. Started off in bits, now the funeral is over its so final. Spent the day with friends but now I’m back home alone. I’m crying again so I might as well go to bed and watch tv, maybe I’ll even get some sleep
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Hello lynn. Sorry that you are not feeling too great neither am I as I had my second shingles jab yesterday and now very sore and tired. Like you I have not seen many people this last week and have only been out to walk my dog. Another long lonely Saturday night. For some reason this always seems the worst of the week although the rest are all spent on my own too. Making new friends is very hard to do. As is finding places to go out to on your own. Hope your weather improves and you are feeling better soon. Sun is shining in Fife just now but very windy still. Take care xxx
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Hi @Pakapa
Yes sun shining here too in Edinburgh
Just resting as have tgus lousy cold i just cant shift been a week
I had my 1st shingles vaccine 6 weeks back and like you suffered sore arm for a few days. Not had my 2nd one yet.
Hope you get through the weekends like me they are harder to deal with.
Take care
Lynne
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Hi @LynT
Too true who do you call when you have no family around. Basically you are on your own and loke you say we are not the only ones in this situation.
Life now so different from being a couple and looking after each other.
Maybe have to set up network group to set up uk wide to help others like us.
Life is tough
Take care
Lynne 
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@Martin2 so sorry your birthday has been so awful but happy birthday anyway. People and families seem to be so occupied with their own lives nowadays. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Take care. Ann
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Good good morning to all up early sun out . Let’s get out and do something Hope you all have sort of nice day x glad yesterday gone take care all
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I feel your pain hun they say it gets easier it doesn’t we just have to learn to deal with it day by day grief is love with no place to go I lost my angel 8 months ago feels like yesterday he passed suddenly aged 51 I listen to his music often as he was a DJ and done a few radio shows I had a massive panic attack last night but as soon as I watched his videos and put on his engagement ring I began to feel calmer it was stoke he was with me when I drifted off to sleep people shouldn’t tell you to move on etc you do things your way everyone grieves differently all the best xx
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Hi Martin still in bed chilling not been well had a massive anxiety attack last night felt I couldn’t breath then decided to watch a video with my beloved and me in when he was DJying at a local pub made me smile and cry all at once as soon as
I put on his engagement ring with mine I felt a bit better and drifted off to sleep 
nice tina came to visit you in your dreams my angel hasn’t yet but he’s visited me at home xx
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It’s hard I no get you self up make nice cup of tea. And little steps we all try an help you through here
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@Jol like you I’m no longer afraid to die as I see it simply as a gateway to my wife. Whether it is or not, hardly worth worrying about - it’s ultimately what I place my faith in that matters. I should add that doesn’t mean I’m seeking that outcome, more that I’m not scared by it.
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Hi Hazell,
I too lost my husband last May, married 47 years. I took ill health retirement in Aug 2022 due to various issues with arthritis and migraines, which have all flared up again since losing my husband last May to cancer. The migraine’s especially have come back with a vengeance!
Wake up in the morning hoping it will be a pain free day, but the stresses of being a widow & living alone take their toll, add missing your husband too and most days are not pain free xx
We just have to hope it will get a bit easier in time but how much time I have no idea xxx
Take care and yes go for early retirement, stresses of being a widow are enough without adding work into the equation!
Though I know some people on here are happy to go to work for the distraction, guess it depends on the job you do also xxx
Take care everyone, one day at a time xx
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