Well done @Martin2. Get off in that and try and enjoy it. Your dogs must be a great comfort.
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Just had the phone call. Rogers ashes are ready for collection. Now I’m in bits again.
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@Bailey2 so sorry , it’s nearly eleven months for me too . Nothing gets easier . The longing for him is so painful
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@Martin2 Well done you. We had caravans since our youngest was born and then changed to a motor home when we retired. Such happy memories. I’m sure you will enjoy getting out and about in it. take care,
Ann
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I found it very hard getting my husbands ashes but at least I got him back home
Sending hugs x
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Thankyou. I’m going to my sisters for a couple of weeks. Think I’ll collect him after. Dont want to leave him home alone
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Hi @Martin2 well done you. I know how hard it is but I hope you get out and about in your new purchase. I’m sure the dogs will love it.
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Beautiful picture and treasured memories glad you have a safe place now
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Thinking of you & sending big hugs 
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Wow hope you have fun as you can x
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@Martin2 that’s a great move . I hope you can get to some nice trips to the coast for some fresh air walks with your lovely dogs
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This one I got has a motor mover. Yaa makes life so much easier thinking about. Though I still be alone there what am I doing
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Well done you, that will get you out and about, enjoy your weekend adventures with your dogs , they will love it xx
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@Ilovehorses . I feel your pain . My husband always painted the fence and the decking and shed . The wind has broke some fences the decking and shed are rotting and need replacing. The fence is covered in cat scratches. Hardly saw that when he was here . I feel so useless without him
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Sending hugs xx
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I’m away with family it’s not the same as being with Steve .i wished I had more confidence with driving so I could go away but as you say you would still be on your own it’s so rubbish isn’t it x
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Our lawnmower is in the shed , my wife’s funeral is on Friday and she’s coming home before we go to the crematorium, so me and my daughter wanted to do the back garden for her ( as she will come in through the back patio doors ) . My wife had put the key to the shed somewhere and we have no idea where , couldnt find it so I had to break into my own shed , in floods of tears because I couldn’t ask her where the bloody key was .
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So sorry for everones loss. I’m fairly new to this, only 61/2 weeks and since the funeral it seems like my grief has started all over agsin. I made a promise to my husband, he wanted me to go on and live my life, but I don’t know how to. I miss him so so much and the heartbreak just doesn’t seem to be easing. I’m trying to take one step at a time, filling my days with things to do or places to go. But I still have to return to my empty, lonely home. He’s not here and I don’t want to be.
I’ve found this forum to be a help because I can write down how I’m feeling and no one will judge, no one will say I should be getting over it. I never will but I hope in time to learn to live with it
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This amazing forum certainly helps enormously I don’t know how I would have managed so far without sharing my thoughts and traumatic experiences here.
Thank you to everyone who read and responded 
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I had the celebrant visit today to sit down and plan for the funeral which is next week and they were brilliant but I was a mess. She was professional enough at the end to say we should consider my resilience, particularly when having to leave my wife behind. I acknowledged that today that felt like a very real risk but I would focus on that on the week ahead. However, in the safety of this forum she is bloody right to raise it. My son is a key player either in distracting me or providing support (or both) but also that this is about my wife and celebrating her life not my grief so I’m hoping the combination help.
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