@Ilovehorses
That’s what I mean, to me it’s full of gossipy noseyparkers and if they can’t find things out about you they won’t bother with you any more.
Someone suggested I join FB “to see what’s going on”. I’m really not interested. If I want to see what’s going in I make a phone call or drop by and visit someone. I certainly don’t want everyone knowing all about me unless I tell them in person.
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I hate being alone doing everything on my own my daughters tell me I have to get out and try but I say it’s no fun on your own .The only people that understand stand how you feel are those who are going through it. I don’t even get invited to any my daughters for dinner anymore feeling really sad and lonely all the time x
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I don’t think we can rely on our kids for our social life. When I’m away she misses me as we do things on her day off sometimes, but it wouldn’t happen if her boyfriend also had the day off, I know.
Steve and I were only a couple for 13 very intense months. I’m gradually remembering how I was single in the past, and I need to get back in that mindset. Be selfish. Try new things and most of all, go out of the house.
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It’s so hard to go make new friends when you have been married to someone for 41 years and known them since you were at school together. Life is just so sad now without him x
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Hi @Pam14
Yes, it is so hard to make new friends these days
I have joined a few clubs.
Book club exercise club and volunteer, but it is hard when you only relied on each other for over 38 years +
Today, I volunteer at the shop, so at least out of house for a few hours
Take care
Lynne
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I have joined a group one morning a week I guess I really need to push myself out off my comfort zone x
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We would have been doing so many fun and beautiful things together! This time each year we would have been discussing and planning our summer holiday together now I can’t even bring myself to think about it - so heartbreaking 
Take care everyone x
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Couldn’t agree more 
That’s a great idea! I too ought to get to that mindset - be selfish - get out and about enjoy being liberated
I agree it’s hard to make new friends, we were so inseparable and so much into each other and needed no one else then! Now life is meaningless without him
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Me too trying to tell myself to be grateful that I am still breathing and that we had 37 most wonderful years doing all things that we both loved, travelling places together - but then this loneliness creeps up on me so heartbreaking
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It is very hard hopefully in time we will get there who knows one day at a time maybe is the way to go
@Ilovehorses well done in going out to the pub on your own. My wife used to send me off to on my own to watch the football and after she died I still used to go but recently I have become more anxious about going (just me and the dog) so just stay in.
I didn’t speak to anyone yesterday, no neighbours passing and not when walking the dogs. Daughters usually call at some point but I know they were both busy yesterday.
Might have to make more of an effort today…
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Hi @PJ64
Yes those days when you see no one nor talk to anyone are really hard. Maybe going back to watch football would help. But I know how you feel. Doing things you used to do seems wrong now, but I’m sure your wife would still want you to live your life and do the things she knew you loved
Big hugs
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Sat at the crematorium reflection grounds. My wife’s ashes are due for collection tomorrow but I wanted to come up and tell her ‘see you soon’. Just felt right.
Time to get back in the car and get back to the house.
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@KMCG hope you’re ok. Hope you’ve got someone to go with you tomorrow. Its not something you should do alone
My husbands ashes are ready for collection, but because I was coming away my lovely undertaker is looking after him for me. I will have my Grandaughter with me when I go to collect him. Then I’ve got to decide what to do with him, he said he wanted to be scattered, but he didn’t say where
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I’ve still got my husbands ashes at home with me can’t bring myself to scatter them yet so he sits on the side by a photo off both off us with a candle
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Difficult isnt it, I shall be the same. I always was indecisive and Roger would tell me to make a decision. Now I’ve really got to, and I can’t . Maybe something will come to me, I did think of taking him to Looe. He loved it there, but then I’d have to come home and leave him there. That will break my heart
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That’s what I’ve been thinking and if it’s to far away I wouldn’t be able to go back there to visit him it’s very hard
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My husband still at home with me
… And he will be until it’s my turn, then we can be put together, and interned by the tree I’ve had planted in the memorial gardens of the crematorium where his service was (and where mine will be too).
He never spoke about what he wanted, except that he wanted to be cremated .
But home was his favourite place of all. So its a very easy decision for me to keep him here.
And I don’t have to go out in cold and rain or even sunshine to visit him, because he’s right here.
It’s all so personal, and nothing is right or wrong or better. It’s about what feels right.
Love hugs and strength
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