Yes I know what its like trying to get any kind of help these days but I didn’t mean help for the grief which of course would be welcome if available but I meant help for her son tho I realise that will be hard too but we have to keep trying I guess, it must be really difficult coping with that as well as dealing with losing your life partner xxx
I have not looked for grief counselling myself, its not something I would do, but I do take comfort from this forum, it definitely helps even when I don’t contribute just realising other people have the same thoughts & feelings helps xxx
Yes it does and realising everyone on here is going through grief. Just wish there was more people going tbrough what im experiencing. Xx .
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What is your experience ?
I am not being nosey just thought it might help to talk about it xx
I am not being nosey, I just thought it might help to talk about it xx
@N8658 so sorry for your loss . At 5 weeks I was in a terrible place . The pain was so intense it was like a great knot in my stomach. He went suddenly . He was my everything . The first weeks are so hard I really feel for you . The shock is immense . It gets less intense but it still hurts . Take each day as it comes and be kind to yourself x
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There is this online.
Don’t know if you have seen it.
It may or may not be some help.
Perhaps just have a look?
Love,
Rose xx
Im on waiting list for counseling such a long wait for help but it helps on ere everyone feeling the same loss , hopefully one day it will get easier ,suppose all we can do is just take one day at a time
18 months on and everything is a effort i no longer find interest in gardening decorating even cleaning everything seems pointless anymore etc
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I have had 2 telephone counselling sessions and hoping they help. The lady is very pleasant and offers advice with coping strategies etc.
I waited a couple of months so pleased to be getting some help now.
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I’m waiting for counselling, I was told about 8 weeks wait, must be 4 weeks ago. Unfortunately my brain doesn’t function properly snymore, and I can never remember anything!
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I am having counselling over the phone Ive had 5 sessions I have found it helpful to talk
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I think talking does help x
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I’ve read an article which saying as time passes you may one day be able to learn to live with grief, meaning you will be able to get on with your daily life while simultaneously still grieving on the inside - so perhaps, that’s what’s happening to you? So I assume it’s normal!
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Thankyou. I hope so too.
I hope it helps you
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I waited 6 months they are so busy and I would off waited longer for face to face but I think it do help x
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I had my 3rd telephone counselling session today. What my counsellor says makes a lot of sense. I really try to take it all on board but since Sunday I having lots of tears and those feelings of that immense loss of yr partner is consuming me much of the time. The agony of the loss of a partner is exhausting too.
Thinking of all others on this special forum who are feeling the heartache.
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Not good.
This is the time when he would he would tell me it would be ok.
Really lost, anxious.
Feel so aline and separated from him at the moment.
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Dear @Ilovehorses
I so resonate with what you wrote.
I too have little motivation to do things in house and garden.
I work full time so Mon - Fri filled with work…
About now in the week I think right at the weekend ’ I WILL SORT THIS OR THAT, TIDY THE GARDEN ETC’
then the weekend comes and all that goes out the window. The weekend comes and all the issues with dealing with weekends alone, Sunday evening comes, and I think to myself , ‘oh I didn’t do anything again’’
Occasionally I do do something , but like you it’s not usually more than about an hour ( can’t cope with more than that). Pleased with myself briefly… And then exactly as you say the feeling WHAT’S THE POINT ?
Life alone is so rubbish isn’t it.
Work makes me tired and weary but my grief just totally exhausts me all the time.
Few people can understand the difference between these two feelings.
Take care my darling
I often read your posts and I can see you try really hard to be positive about how we deal with these bloody awful cards we’ve been dealt.
Time for me to paint that smile on my face, go to work and have to lie when I’m asked 'how are you? ’
Love strength and hugs to you
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Thank you everyone.
Like many people on here, I needed to tell people how I felt. It is a real ease.
So far, today is better. I really hope it continues.
It is so difficult when we are in the depths of one of the dips on the rollercoaster.
The dips are truly horrendous.
Also, we can never be certain when they will end.
I hope I can look back on this post if/when I’m in a dip in the future and that it reminds me the dip will end 
Thank you again, love and hugs,
Rose xx
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Thinking of you Rose.
I think I am getting over my current little dip but still have the tight, knotted stomach. It will pass but oh how horrible it is .
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