That ‘WE’RE HERE FOR YOU’ and also with the addition of ‘WHEN YOU’RE READY’ in my opinion is meant by few!
It is said by others because it is what they think they should say or what makes them feel better.
Actions are the proof.
Gosh, that has got me going but I absolutely believe it.
Rant over!
Positive version, I am so grateful for my GENUINE friends. Few but greatly prized!
Love Rose 
xx
Oh Rose you have put into words what I couldn’t,outside of my daughter and sister(who has here own medical problems) the rest have been worse than useless,not heard anything from her side of the family since the funeral,so called friends on both sides have done a disappearing act bar one,I am a cynical,suspicious person by nature,but seeing the love and compassion on this site has restored a semblance of hope,my very best wishes Ron.
Hello Ron,
it is very sad to realise that your impressions of people were so wide of the mark.
Some, well a few, of his family have kept in contact.
The others have disappointed me beyond belief. I still can’t believe they could be so selfish and callous, even though I know it has happened.
However, the positive part is this site.
There are so many kind and caring people. Plus they are people who understand!
Take care, continue to share.
Big virtual hug,
Rose
Absolutely - actions are all that count really.
I have had lots of people messaging that we’ll meet up and then when you say yes you dont hear from them again.
Or they tell you all the wonderful things that they are doing and that’s why they haven’t been in touch and Can we meet up next month when they have some time.
I just now don’t reply.
But I have 3 friends who are consistent and keeping with me even in my bad days and my best friend has messaged me every single day since my husband died. And is always there for me. She doesn’t understand really but she is there. And that means the world.
And my kids are always here too. But they need me so that’s slightly different.
Sun is shining here so I’m gonna go and walk the dog and see if I can hold onto some positivity.
Love to all us strugglers. Xxx
My husbands sisters are just beyond words words! They have done nothing to help and they have basically kept contacting me over the will and wanting things. As my husband made them the executors. When bad things happen, you really find out who really cares!
Yes once the will comes out the vultures descend, be careful though as I found to my cost if your husbands estate had any real value,nothing should be distributed until probate is granted if needed, please take care feel the support on here kind regards Ron.
I try to keep busy much as i can its hard to get motervated but we got to push ourselves its when we stop it all comes flooding back i lost my Husband also my lifelong friend within 16 months my friend truly understood grief she had lost so many family members i really miss them both ive got other friends but they dont understand how i feel
So true N865 its awful how heartless some family members can be , dont let them wind you up , its shocking how some people react he was your husband do things at your own pace sending hugs
@RoseGarden “We’re here for you, when you’re ready.”
Probably means - when we’ve pulled ourselves together, and there’s no danger of us causing them discomfort by us crying or losing control. They want us to be back to normal asap, it’ll make them feel better.
I think you’ve hit the nail firmly on the head
Sending hugs x
I am sorry and I feel your pain 
It’s still so raw at 8 weeks I can remember at 8 weeks I was still numb and unable to accept that I lost my angel and soulmate 
Sending so much love and big hugs xx
It is so hard to get motivated but I guess we’ll have to keep trying hard and harder until it becomes our routine - in the end it is totally worth it to not let grief consume us 
I am so sorry for your losses within such short period of time so heartbreaking for you
Please take care - big hugs
Some people can be so heartless! The last thing you need right now is unnecessary nuisance you should be allow to grieve peacefully!
Thank you,I really struggle when talking to people to go from we to I,and my phone has gone remarkably quiet,calls,txts,e mails seems to have dried up,even the blumming scammers seem to have given me a wide berth,big virtual hugs back.
My life is very quite most off the time I spend six days out off the seven on my own and don’t speak to anyone unless I go to the shop
It is a very lonely life that most off us live without are soulmates
But I guess we have to stay strong for are selves x
I still say we a lot. I can’t help it.
In my brain we will always be we and us
Sending hugs x
Yes I still a speak as if he’s still here.
I’m still a part of we - not sure that will ever change.
Sending hugs xx
I was like that when my husband died, I did not want to face the reality of it all, it was too heartbreaking , so I threw myself into things just to get out of the house and to ve with people,mostly my family and grandchildren ,I look after my youngest 2 days a week which I love .
I have a couple of good friends and my sister and I are really close , she lost her husband 3 years before I lost mine , so we are in the same boat so’s to speak.
But, the lonliness is always there ,that ine constant in your life , the one you knew wouldd be there for you through thick and thin .
It’s a lot different this year, I think it all caught up with me , I am now on anti depressants, and trying to live without him but its horrible , I miss him so much.
My youngest grand child starts school in September , so I am going to have a lot more time on my hands , I know I will have to do something , I am retired , 70 , next year , but a young minded 70, though my joints are getting worst , suffer from osteoarthritis, that came from me working all my life, nursing, childminding , working with the elderly , then working with learning disabilities.
I don’t drive, and live in a village , so.depend on my family or friends to take me out , or use the bus.
So finding it really hard at the moment on what I will have to do with my life now that i am on my own, the loneliness is a killer 
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Thanks for listening, and thank you for this group, it has helped me a lot in my moments of despair.
Love to all of us walking this lonely road without our loved ones xo
I know how you feel,I lost my wife just over eight weeks ago,and since then it’s been like walking through a London smog with no idea where ime going,I used to love cooking for us but now I don’t see the point,it’s mostly one person ready meals,I know it’s not healthy but at the moment I can’t turn it around.sending you virtual hugs.
I know how you feel about cooking.
I’ve never been super healthy, but now its just one junk meal after another.
Which is probably why I’m putting on weight 