So very well said
It certainly resonates with me.
Thankyou x x
If your anywhere near Aberdeen on your holiday It would be nice to meet up, I hope the weather is nice for you because it can be a hit or miss in Scotland xxx
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Oh my goodness thats horrendous, sometimes these days hospital staff can be so uncaring I think they need a reminder they are dealing with a much loved person and the stress they can cause is unnecessary and very uncaring. As an ex nurse and laterally a support worker with the elderly for 36 years, compassion & caring for the person and their relatives was top of the list in any part of my job, from when I first started my ethos was always to treat patients/residents in the way I would want my mum or dad to be treated and I stuck by that my whole working life till I retired( earlier than I should have because I couldn’t work with the uncaring people in management & the uncaring staff they were employing, it was making me ill with the stress of it ).
I do hope you can get past the horrible hospital staff and grieve for your beloved wife the way you would want to, because she wouldn’t want you to dwell too much on the hospital but remember all the happy years you had together instead, take care x
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Hi @Georgi
They would have been lovely but I’ve just looked and Aberdeen 150 miles away.
We’re doing a coach tour and its only just in Scotland. Peebles will be our base. Do you know it?
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Oh my goodness every word you wrote there I’m sure rings true for all of us on this forum , well said and I liked calling it the Grief Ninja, well done !
This is why I so like this forum every day someone says something that is so true and resonates with all of us, thank you for that, don’t know I would have coped without this forum xxx
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Thats a shame, but yes we are up on the north east of scotland but I hope you can unwind and enjoy your time away xxx
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Thankyou.
I am allowing myself to look forward to it
Although I do feel guilty.
Stupid though, Roger would have wanted me to go, he told me to have a holiday
Big hugs
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I certainly hope that is true and I have a feeling it is as in my job with the elderly that I did for 36 yrs on night shift we once had a gentleman who on that night was very unsettled so we were spending time trying to settle him he was looking up at the corner of the ceiling and speaking to someone with his arm out stretched , we couldn’t understand what he was saying but he was smiling the whole time, he eventually settled and we were able to leave his room, when we returned a short time later that man had passed, I have always thought he was speaking to relatives of his that nt who had already passed, I will never forget that nt xxx
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Every single word was/is true,i was a real sceptic on these matters,but my experiences in recent weeks have totally turned that upside down.many hugs for you ps love Scotland.
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Funny same here I have arthritis in various places from working in nursing then with the elderly for 36 yrs when I had to take early retirement a yr before I was due to because my issues were getting worse, have to say they are a bit better being retired till I do too much like weeding !!!
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I was dreading to stay home alone on the first anniversary of his passing on 2nd May so I ran away to Paris to stay the night but found myself crying in the hotel room on the night 
I kept telling myself it would have been worse had I stayed at home, most probably fell apart in the home that was filled with beautiful and loving memories
Hope you have a peaceful day on the day - sending best wishes x
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Totally resonate with that. I am not single or widowed, I am married until I go too - and hope very much he will be there to greet me when the time comes 
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I am sure he would totally agree you deserve a holiday after what you have been through xx
I am so sorry it must have been so traumatic for you to go through months of hoping and uncertainty and then ended up losing him - so heartbreaking.
Sending much love and hugs 
x
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Thank you 
, love to you and all of us on here. Xo
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That’s me to a tee,my neighbours must think I am running out of clothes even though I have a wardrobe full,it’s wear,shower full washer load,dry,iron (only where nessessary) then repeat,think I am turning into a slob.
Our 36th wedding anniversary today 
, couldn’t possibly be moping around at home alone so I ran away to Nice trying to celebrate for both of us the way we used to do! We celebrated every year but last year was still so raw I crashed out at friends couches instead! From this year on, I will try to carry on our tradition and hope he will be by my side celebrating with me….till the day we meet again my love 
Best wishes to everyone x
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I hope your day is as good as it can be, that you find some peace and can recall the good times without too much pain.
It is incredibly brave and positive that you have gone away. I’m sure your husband would be so proud of you and I think it’s a good tradition to uphold if it feels good.
Xxx
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Good for you @Angel1309
I hope you enjoy your break and remember he is with you, always in your heart.
Have as good a day as you can
Remember we are all thinking of you
Love and hugs
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Well done @Angel1309 a wonderful thing to do.
Sure yr husband will be there with you.
Try and enjoy .
Xx