Thats so sad and must’ve been awful for you, they are grown men and should be more considerate as they must know you made their dad happy!
I don’t understand why people have to be so spiteful at such a very sad time for all of you, I hope you can get past this and not let it get to you too much, take care and look after yourself xxx
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I am so exhausted by all this, it’s been 14 months non-stop one thing after another! I’ve stopped taking there calls for a couple of days and I am now feeling a little more at peace and able to focus on other things a little better.
You are right I should really try to ignore them completely - I am so willing to do just that - still a work-in-progress though.
Thank you so much for you kind support - very much appreciated xxx
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I totally understand where you’re coming from and to be treated like that, when all you did was make their dad happy ! They should not behave in that way . You dont deserve that and out of respect for their dad , they shouldn’t. I had a situation with my late husbands family. They have been abhorrent to me and treated me like nothing. Even said they dont want anymore to do with me from his sisters. Some people are just vile and inhuman. Big hugs xx
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Hi @Angel1309 . Why do still need to have contact with them? My mum has behaved dreadfully and upset me a lot since Steve died, I simply don’t speak to her any more. I can’t deal with her. Peace. X
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So sorry you have to go through this on top of trying to grieve the loss of your beloved.
sending big hugs 
Hi @SadGirlfriend I have tried to keep a distance but they are the only family members I have left and I don’t want to end up completely alone that is why I’ve put up with them until now. Having said that, I have almost reached the end of my tether recently and have told them I need time alone to grieve peacefully - so have not heard from them for a few days and started to feel a little better, although I think it will take a bit longer for me to recover from this setback as it completely floored me at the weekend. I believe one day, sooner or later if they keep on like this I will definitely cut off all the communication with them for good.
It’s better to alone, lonely but at peace! xx
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You honestly think that you are a nasty person and I find myself questioning out lives together based purely on their attitude now and I hate that. I feel that those kind of people show complete lack of empathy for a partner/spouse of someone who has passed and deserves respect at the very least but sadly in many cases those individuals can see no further that the end of their vile, spiteful noses. Meanwhile the effects of their cold -heartedness is hard to comprehend.
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Karma - enough said.
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Don’t apologise, you need to share.
Some people really surprise and disappoint don’t they.
I do understand.
I am sorry they cannot see the love you had for each other.
Love and hugs xx
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I can fully relate to what your saying,my wife passed a little over ten weeks ago,our son didn’t put in an appearance until the funeral two weeks later,only two members of her family showed up at the funeral,my sister didn’t even do that,my brother is an “ime here if you need me” most of family and friends have gone radio silent,and people wonder why I am a cynic,I really hope you and everyone else finds some solace.
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I miss my husband like crazy every thing keeps going wrong at home my family are helpfully but they just keep asking for money I just hope when the money is gone they will still want me
Thinking of everyone who is grieving and going though crsp with there family x
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I don’t think you are being cynical.
Take care,
Rose
Sounds so familiar…how heartless some people can be…they don’t really understand what we are going through losing our beloved because they are so wrapped up in their own little world of wanting money. Money is the root of all evil…I keep repeating that but it’s so true.
Best wishes to everyone x
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Overcame with emotion at the end of my yoga class yesterday tears kept welling up my eyes. Yoga seems to have this emotional effect on me, and everyone I guess.
This morning I woke up feeling weepy missing my angel so much 
my love I will live my lonely life for both of us, feeling you beside me makes me feel loved, comforted and protected. I hope you are at peace free from all suffering now my angel 
Sorry I am going on a bit - one of those mornings 
Take care everyone x
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I know exactly how you feel. Its just awful waking up every day feeling so unhappy because we have lost the love of our lives , I just go through the motions every day, but only feel half alive .
Will I ever be happy again .
Love to you and all of us walking this lonely road . Xo
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That’s exactly how I feel just trying to get though each day just surviving each day as it comes someday feeling very vacant as if I’m not here it’s all a big nightmare and I’m going to wake up
Hopefully, we will all feel better one day and not so alone x
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Yes. Woken up this morning feeling so sad, exhausted and wondering what point there is in getting up.
It’s a beautiful blue sky here and the sun is shining but still I just don’t care.
4 months in feels like it gets more difficult every day. Xx
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Hi Pam,I find the days all merge into one,it’s like seven days rolled into one it’s either dark or light,we always cooked a special Saturday night dinner,and debated what roast we were having for Sunday,I haven’t cooked (only air fryer and micro) since my wife passed,I don’t think the word lonely covers it,it’s much more.sending you a virtual hug Ron.
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It’s like a deep emptiness and you can’t find your way out and I’m 9 months in x
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Yes, awful isn’ t it waking up alone and nothing to look forward to without our angels by our sides. I lost my half the day I lost him and now, like you and all of us, just exist day after day meaningless Thank you for sharing.
Let us hope it will get better one day 
Love and strength to all xx
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I am sorry for your loss - 4 months in, still so raw. Please try take one day at a time. I’m 14 months in and still, somedays, feeling as if it only happened yesterday
Take care xx
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