Life throws up some strange challenges doesn’t it. I was in a very successful business with my brother ( who I now refer to as my ex brother… we’ve not spoken in 20 years) and after 25 years in business things went pear shape and I left overnight after a lot of wrangling and took my share. This knocked me sideways for a long time going from working 12 hour days. 7 days a week to doing nothing overnight and I was having panic attacks, then on anti depressants and councilling , probably took 18 months to even start to see a future. But I was only 53 and Val & I took the opportunity to travel the world, but if the fall out not happened I’m sure I would have carried on working into retirement age and missed out on doing so much with her and I count that as a blessing in disguise, just wish we could have done so much more. Thanks for listening and sharing. Take Care
Hiya I understand about panic attacks I suffer from them and agrophobia so I cant travel. I am glad you got to spend quality time with your wife. Its just there wasnt enough time for either one of us. Xxx
Always here if you want to chat anytime xxx
Pleased that your cousin is finding comfort in a new relationship and I’m in no position to judge but I somehow feel that maybe their original relationship was not as deep as some . Val & I were together for 50 years which is a long, long time and then it ends leaving such a gigantic hole , takes some serious adjusting
I have been widowed twice. I can assure you that I was very much in love with both my husbands. The human heart has the capacity to deeply love more than once. When you have a second child you don’t love your firstborn any less.
Maybe this gentleman and his new partner have a great capacity to love.
I think if anyone gets a second, or third chance at happiness they should grab it with both hands.
Life is too short, as everyone here knows.
To each, their own. Xx
I agree Willow I loved both my husbands equally. They were different ppl with there own qualities, i could never choose between them. Steve taught me all men were not b******s and Gra taught me the love of a older man. I believe we are all capable of loving more then once and life is miles to short not to except love and happiness . Hugs Jo xxx
Hi Jo,
It’s good to know that you also loved them both. It must seem strange to some that can happen. Richard was my first love and the father of my children. Losing him was a huge shock, he was so fit and well. I thought my life was over. Then I met Jeremy through a widow support group. We were just friends to begin with. His wife had been ill for a while before she died, she knew it was terminal and told him that she wanted him to find love again. He sort of had permission whereas I felt guilty until my son said that his dad wouldn’t want me to stay sad and lonely for the rest of my life.
But here we are, back where we started. Life sucks, doesn’t it?
Hugs, my friend. Xx
Big hugs 
Life does suck infact its bloody awful. I also met Gra inva widow and widows chat room on aol. Steve was well he died from a dvt what a shock that was. But poor Gra had veen ill for a while sephis twice put on pallative care at one point. He was only home a week and half before been put back in hosputal for the last time. Lije you I loved them both deeply. Hoping we all find some happiness again one day. Hugs jo xxx
It is a shame that chat rooms don’t seem to exist now. This site is very good, but being able to chat in real time was great. I made some lifelong friends. Xx
It is a shame so did i. Unlike this you really got to know ppl, xxx
Absolutely right. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago and I feel EXACTLY the same. At the moment I see no point without him . Never even said goodbye. It was SO sudden .
So very sorry.
I understand about not being to say goodbye when they were still with us.
My husband died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
I could only say goodbye after the time of death was declared.
Sending you a big hug.
Rose,
Xx
So true. I’ve had occasions when I’m just sitting around brooding like we do and it will suddenly occur to me that I’ve not physically spoken to anyone that day or sometimes a couple of days. Texting and emailings ok but its not the same as a good chat is it.
Since losing Val I see a pal who recently lost his wife very suddenly and he;s now in this situation, but when we get together we chat and put the world to right for hours…makes such a difference
Maybe we should start a zoom chat or something especially in the evenings. Xxx
I have never used Zoom. Wouldn’t know where to start. Xx
We need a computer wizz to teach us how. Xxx
Just had 2 nights at my mums doing some jobs around her house
Just got back home and it hits you that your on your own again 
I took my daughter out into the garden to do some clearing up. It hurt to get tools out that he put away and seeing the ladders that he won’t climb again. I have been tinkering with the garden since he died, but it’s the first time I have done serious work.
I put the radio on for Katie and every song made me feel like crying.
Xx
Me too it’s been 1 year and 1 month I just want him back slide can be so cruel but on a good. Pre his youngest daughter got 4 GCSE,s