They’ll definitely be right next time…none of us will ever vote for them again…assuming they’ve not killed us all off
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I think the power has gone to his head I would never vote for them
I don’t watch the news anymore it’s all bad news and when you are sat on your own it’s just to sad
I find life hard enough anyway now I am on my own and my family never pick up the phone and talk to me
I don’t think things will ever get any better for me or the world x
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You’re right about the idiot in charge, worst prime minister in living memory and likely more to come when Reeves budget comes in a few weeks. I have regular contact with my 3 daughters but still find night times so lonely, cant wait for bedtime to come so I can “escape” reality for a while. Sorry to hear your family aren’t very supportive, they need to realise that one day they will be in our position. Take care
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I’m new to this particular thread.
I lost my Bridget just over a year ago after her long struggle with dementia over 5 years.
I’ve gone backwards a bit in that I’m having dreams I had 4 years ago. Dreams that show Bridget normal but needing to go into the care home at night. It’s so upsetting and I wake relieved knowing things are as they are.
I thought I’d moved on from all this. Just goes to show that in my mind there is still deep grief that produces stuff when I’m asleep. I guess it’s a wanting her back as we were and the reality of having to place her in residential care.
Every time I sort things out I come across something she’s written on. She lost the ability to write and speak early on.
I miss her every day and fear the memory of her will fade as the time goes on
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Sorry to hear of Bridgets struggles. Losing someone so close is really hard. Sometimes ( not very often) I might go out and maybe bump into someone we both knew and just for an instant I think ! Oh, must tell Val who I’ve seen today" and then snap back to the dreadful reality that she’s no longer here. Its just so, so hard
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Hello @george73
I had visitors last weekend and talked to them about how I used to walk with her around the care home on sunny days. When on our own I used to stop and ask “ who am I “ and I’d say “ I love you, you are my wife” but she would not comprehend anything. Just thought i was being silly and say to me “ come on “ and want to return to her chair inside.
This torture continues. And it’s never consistent. Just ambushes me out of the blue. To know she was so confused, so anxious. I know she’s at peace now but I feel so very sad for her that it makes me cry just writing this
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And it’s the 1947 message .my year birthday.weird
There is a whole world of difference being a prosecutor to running a country, he has no idea! I don’t think he’s made one good decision in his 100 days being in government!
I must admit tho he has taken our minds off our husbands/wives for a short time anyway, take care everyone xxx
I couldn’t agree more x
4 miserable years we’ll have to endure their cruelty to us the oldies. Don’t they feel any shame taking away what we’ve saved all our working lives?
Thats so hard, I worked with people with dementia most of my adult life and its the one I dread for myself, its very harsh on families to cope with they lose their loved one long before they pass away.
You can cherish the memories from before the dementia and after because there would still have been some good memories from then too, and can I just say this is a great forum to vent & chat and most of us can say we have benefited from it, take care x
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Thats one of the hardest things to deal with when u something or someone and would normally tell them, it hits you like a slap on the face, even silly things like tv series we used to watch and a new series starts and he wont see it, I find it hard to watch some I haven’t bothered to either! Take care everyone and stay strong xx
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I’m dreading the budget this month I’m convinced I will be much poorer because of it, it really annoys me when all they go on about are “working” people but we the elderly worked all our lives, I did from age 16 till 67 and they want to punish us, in our time there was not the amount of people on benefits as there are now, we have created a whole generation who think its their right to claim benefits and not work, that along with immigration both legal and illegal that we are paying a small fortune ever day, is little wonder they come in droves, no other country does that, its beyond ridiculous!
Rant over , apologies to newcomers this is not normally the topic of conversation but Iv’e said it now, got it off my chest, a change from moaning to the cat, take care everyone & stay strong xxx
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Oh my lovely How I feel for you. I lost my lovely man just under eight months ago He was everything to me and to say I was devastated is putting it mildly. He’s missing from every corner of my life. I’ve tried to go on without him Learning new skills, lighting the wood burner, setting the heating , changing a plug, topping up the oil in the car and so it goes on.
You think you’re making progress and then something comes and bites you n the bum and knocks you off your feet. People say talking helps or sharing your feelings I’m not very good at that I’m one of life’s great pretenders Anyway, I came on the site this afternoon because today I felt so utterly bereft. Wondering what was the point of all of this anymore and saw your post and I felt a connection and felt I needed to share One of my friends who lost her man seven years ago said it never goes away but it does get easier You never stop missing them but you learn to cope, Thank you for listening
One day we shall smile again without feeling guilty.
Take Care
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It is a long road for us all . I panic sometimes when things go wrong . I sort a lot but I was so loved and looked after you see . Nearly 17 months since I lost him . My soulmate will always be in my heart .
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It is a very hard long road I’m nearly 1 year in I talk to my husband send him messages
I even put my hand out to hold his when I’m sat on the sofa
When I’m out for a walk I put my hand out but he’s not there anymore xx
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Thank you @Georgi
I’m slowly coming out of the real raw breath stopping grief but even that I feel guilty for, because I feel I don’t deserve to feel easier about it all. Is that weird?
It’s almost like she’s there keeping tabs on me. I suppose after years together, being faithful and true, it’s natural not to enjoy yourselves alone.
Peter
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Bless you 
Me too, and there will surely be more bad news for pensioners on the 30th!
We are grieving the loss of our love ones and that’s not enough - we are now on the receiving end of this unfair treatment of this government!
I was supposed to reduce my work days but unable to when my husband passed away so unexpectedly last summer! Life without my angel is so empty…going through this alone…so horrible…I miss you so much…my love 
Big hug to everyone X
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I find that living alone is so alien to me. I had never lived away from home, Got married at 21 and that was the day I left home. Then for the next 47 years we were inseparable. Day times can be a little easier, but the nights seem so long. Its almost 4 years now since losing Val and I think the absolute rawness may be easing just slightly but I’ll never stop missing her
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