I’ve just been to an All Souls Service at my local church where my husband’s funeral was held and where he was their Vicar for 22 years.
All those who have died in the past 12 months are remembered by name and we can light a candle.
I never imagined I would be lighting a candle for my husband, Bill.
Managed to hold it together until I got back home, then the tears flowed.
I wanted to tell him the Service was nice, but nothing like the ones he used to plan and take before he retired.
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I’m not sure 14 months in and I think about mum every day and still get emotional. So maybe not.
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It was brave of you to go @Harriet4Bill. I went to communion this morning, the vicar prayed for those in mourning and I had to bite the inside of my cheek to not cry. I couldn’t face All Souls tonight.
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Thankyou its good to be able to post on ere everyone knows what we going through has any of you seen the john lewis xmas ad 2024 it broke me its so sad because its just how we all feel , big hugs to you all
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I seen it the pink jumper, I struggled with it
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I felt compelled to go to church a few weeks ago…on what would have been our 51st wedding anniversary. I sat quite close to the altar and the memories of our wedding day there came flooding back, just remembering standing there waiting for my beautiful bride to come and stand beside me, and she stood beside me through thick and thin for 47 years . Just wish that we had met sooner and then I could have loved her for longer, miss her so much
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During his sermon today the vicar told us to look at the beauty of the stained glass windows. Without the dark colours within them, we would not be able to see the light shine through.
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I took more of a spiritual route and like someone in this thread I did light a candle last November, did it on my own.
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Keith 68
I go to spiritual church i find helps
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Good Tina I done church once it depends on the medium. But have a friend who runs a spiritualist group on FB.
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What group is it Grant Harris ? I had a medium called shaun ford come to house he was absolutely brilliant told me thing noone could have know , i go to spiritual church most sundays had loads of proof think my friends think im mad but i get comfort from it and philosophy reading too and ive made some friends who i sit with
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I also go to a spiritualist church sometimes, I do like that x
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Yes your right it does depend on the medium, some are good some not so good, Ive shed many a tear their just listening to others xx
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Mine is a strange one, I made a friend on FB connected to CB radio. I’m kind of a retro type person, it just happened my new friend also ran a spiritual group on FB and asked me if I be interested in joining. Of course I wasn’t going to refuse, it’s hard dealing with loss and it’s slim pickings these days getting help. I also visited a spiritual church too.
It doesn’t matter what other people think.
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Hi Georgi
I took am 14 months now since my husband of 50 years died. He was my best friend and soulmate so life has been a case of one day at a time. I had no energy to do anything so the house was untidy, which he hated. However my children urged me to take a holiday with the dog and I am down in Cornwall doing some of the haunts we shared together over the years, but also going to new places never seen before. I’m feeling Phil is walking beside me and I’m chatting to him along the way. People probably think I’m mad, or talking to the dog! When I get home next week I am feeling energised to sort my life out and start to move ahead. My life will never be as happy as with Phil but he wouldn’t want me to be wasting the few years I’ve got left wallowing in grief. We will still chat to each other till I meet him again, hopefully.
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Good on you going on holiday by yourself and yes I am sure he will be by your side and who cares what people think when your talking to him. I’m not brave enough to go on holiday by myself but admire those who can!
You make the most of the time away and I am sure you will feel energised when you get back.
Like you I will continue to chat to my husband because I know he will be listening !
Take care sending a virtual hug xx
@Retired2 you’re very brave to go on holiday on your own. Whereabouts in Cornwall are you? I live near Lands End and lost my dear husband 4 months ago xx
Hi @Tinatina
I just watched the John Lewis advert. It was so moving, and how we all feel.
EXCEPT that I wish people/society would recognise that not all widows and widowers are old. I’m only 59 and do not consider myself old, but still have all the feelings of loneliness and sadness of being left all alone after my beautiful husband died 2 years ago.
Love, hugs and strength to you, and everyone on here.
Just painted that smile on my face and the I’m okay look… As I leave for work xxxx
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Everthing24, I’m up at Davidstow near Tintagel. It’s a beautiful county. I’ll be dropping by my son’s in Dorset on the way home back to Cambridge.
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