Wishing you an ok day jage xx
Whatever you feel you need to do daffy, we all react differently. Wishing you an ok day xx
I know elldubs,
I feel so cheated but at least mum was healthy and happy right up till she died. All she thought was wrong with her was a blocked artery which was being fixed. If she knew she had a bad heart and other things she would have been very upset and probably given up on life x
For me, I can sum up the day in one word. I find it strange. I wish you all well today and my thoughts are with you all.
I think my mum was cheated on this day too. I also think I would say that even if it had been another 10 years. 46 years with her and it still wasn’t enough time to say to her and do all the things with her that I wanted to…
Shaun x
Well it’s here. My heart hurts. Not long go and it will be over.
I know joules.
And it does feel strange shaun. Very strange.
I just keep wondering where she is x
Yea all do what you have to do to get through the day soon b over thanks to everyone best wishes
Hi Cheryl,
What you said is true. Your mom felt good physically and mentally. My mom says if my dad knew he had something that could be so sudden he would have been a wreck. Hope you and your family find some joy today. Ell
Hi Daffy
What did you do with her gift? I think its a great idea that you did it. Ell
Hi Tracy
I also struggle with the same - seeing my mom without my dad is so difficult. Our anniversaries are the same week. My mom and I wound up going to a spa together for a change of scenery that week. She gave us a card with just her on it. We gave nothing because we didnt know what to do. Going to the spa was a good idea, but strange and sad too. Ell
I’ll be glad when the day is over too. I had one too many drinks so now got a slight headache. Like quite a few of us on here, I believe my Mum could have been here today, but just a chain of events happened which was too much for her body.
I miss her.
Mum loved camels, but only had one small statue in the house. I found a delightful one, which I have no doubt Mum would have loved.
I know buying something is illogical, but I’m glad I did it.
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Glad day nearly over hope every year gets easier did enjoy being with family but now home missing mum being here ,I did enjoy it more than last year so time does make things easier thinking of you all
I agree daffy. My sister said to me, why are you angry mum died?
She wasnt murdered or run over by a bus. S
Her body let her down.
I suppose she is right and you are too. A chain of events led to our mums not being here. I still think she is going to walk in and sat it was all a mistake.
Now she hasnt appeared today, it’s just another verification that she has gone
Just relaxing now with a coffee after eating and drinking too much. Didn’t get a card, a call or any message from mum today. Didn’t see her either. Must be true then but hard to accept that this is the way it is now. I could almost feel a little peeved that she didn’t bother but of course that’s ridiculous. Hope that makes sense.
We are staying with my wife’s stepmother and she presented us with a watercolour painting that she had done of the last photo I took of mum sat on the beach less than 48 hours before she died. It was a very poignant photo and I featured it on the back of the funeral service sheet which is where she got it from. It’s a lovely painting but I didn’t expect it so it was very difficult to hold it together when I saw it! I’m not sure I can frame it and hang it at home any time soon. Maybe in time I can, not sure.
Well, on to tomorrow then. The beginning of January is going to be another strange day and yet another milestone.
The paintings sounds lovely. I can imagine it was a very emotional moment receiving it. I’m sure one day, it will give pleasure.
I feared my partner would do something with photos of Mum but he didn’t thankfully. It was just us two together and he did raise a toast to missing loved ones and he mention a Mum by name. I held it together just about.
I have got Xmas cards out from me to Mum from a previous year. I’ve tried to make her present in some respects. I’ve sat where Mum sat for half the day. I suppose that’s one way to not look at her seat.
It’s 11 weeks. I don’t think it has sunk in fully. Today, has been ok, but I am so very, very glad it is over. I did my upmost not to cry my heart out. I drank too much too.
I don’t want to deal with anything. I just want to hide. Even a telephone call from a friend or relative feels too much.
I’m hoping the painting and all the other photos from my last holiday will in time be viewed with pleasure.
We raised a today at lunch today too, mum has been in my thoughts a lot today, even during our walk to the park in the lovely morning sunshine.
I like your idea of making your mum present, I did dig out cards from last and other years to and from mum but only to look at.
I’m glad you’ve got through today ok. Our mums will always be present, never forgotten and will always drive us forward in what we do in their memory.
I’m wondering if Christmas day next year will be as strange as this one. Seems like a long way off but of course the future is never a long way off is it? So for now it’s on to Boxing day and I hope for everyone it’s a little easier to get through than today was.
That painting sounds lovely it takes time with photos I have photos every where of mum now and I kiss them all the time, yesterday I was up 2 30 and I cried for hours I then spoke to my best friend and she picked me up I think being on your own is not helping I did enjoy being with my brother and rest of family we talked about mum which was nice my aunty had mum’s favourite scarf on which I gave her that was nice , year Xmas will definitely always be strange without mum it is so completely different we always had Xmas with mum and me and mum cooked together but now we go to someone else’s I did have to force myself to go but it was nice never the same but that’s life hey I think next year I’m gonna cook and stay at home ,you learn to live with the pain of losing mum but it’s still there I’m glad Xmas day as gone for you all year it is a little easier Shaun but cause mum’s are so important in our lives it is hard that there not with you on special days like Xmas but you do enjoy things again and my family are lovely and it was nice I did look around and think mum would of loved this thinking of you all jage
Hi
I’ve been reading all your posts over Xmas and find it comforting that the feelings I have are the feelings others have and I’m not unusual. I haven’t had any counselling, I think I need to but nothing on offer where I’m from the doctor said.
So yesterday was my first Xmas without my mum, 9 weeks since she died. She was 72 and I never thought she wouldn’t have been here this Xmas. Thought she would outlive us.
And today would have been her 73rd birthday. Boxing Day, mum was the queen of boxing day, for as long as I can remember mum put a huge buffet on every year, loved doing it, my boys would go round and help her, she lived round the corner from us then the whole family would go round eat, drink and play games.
This year I had the family yesterday all day for dinner. It was hard but the people sat round my table were the ones who sat round her bedside with her when she died so we were all feeling the same.
Today I’m not working, going to stay home, chill, watch TV and remember my lovely mum who I miss so much x
Hi Michelle it helps me being around people that loved mum cause we can talk about her all the time so sorry it’s your mums birthday hard day for you all ,I had counseling with sue Ryder only this year it’s face to face on phone or tablet it helped me alot it was good because I could stay at home so felt more comfortable you get 6 session s it did take me a year to go for it but glad I did they are very good thinking of you today jage