I’m feeling a little better as a work friend has been over for a couple of hours this afternoon. Helps to just chat and see someone during the day. My son has popped his head in too. Have to be grateful for everyone checking in on me. I think because it’s cold and grey outside I feel a bit low. I can understand you don’t want to teach without your lovely wife with you. We worked in the same school only my partner wasn’t a teacher he was premises manager, so it was a little different, but was always around when he was there. He had left a year ago, retired, but even so it’s causing me anxiety at the moment. I hope you have a peaceful rest of the day. I need to eat something, my appetite is not good today.
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I hope everyone is feeling a bit better today, I know its coming up to bank holidays and they are times families are together.
Its hard doing it alone but I promise it does get easier if you want it too.
Ive spent the day in the garden talking to my new neighbour which was nice, ive even been invited for afternoon tea on Sunday at her house if im free.
My new house is looking and feeling like home and my old house the sale completes hopefully on 14th April.
Take care everyone and try to do 1 thing this weekend that makes you smile, try something new or look for local groups to join.
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Glad you’re settling into your new home, and making friends with your new neighbours. You are always so positive, and a great inspiration. I will try and follow your advice and do something nice over the weekend.
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Thank you Punto. I look forward to your posts, they make me believe everything might just work out. I’m glad you’ve settled in and it’s lovely your neighbour is nice x
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Hi Punto will certainly give it a go. Enjoy your new home you’ve already put in a lot of effort, so you time to enjoy.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Good morning, i hope everyone slept well through the storms last night.
I thought a boat would be in my garden the way the wind was blowing but all ok and even my new plant pots all are still together.
I woke to this this morning, such a lovely thing to wake up to.
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Morning @Punto
Glad you got through the windy night with no damage. Looks like you got a interesting visitor this morning.
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Good evening, I’vehad a busy few days my 2 small grandchildren came to stay for 3 nights.
I can honestly say I love them all but I’m extremely tired and glad they have gone home today.
My son bought a boat and had to pick it up do I ended up as babysitter.
I’ve read a few of your posts on one of the other chats but dont comment on it for various reasons.
Everyone of you should be proud of how you are coping on this lonley journey, take each day as it comes. We all deal with grief in various ways. Mine is to be positive and not let it pull me down, I am not someone who can sit at home crying its not my nature and I know Rob would be shouting at me if I became someone who was like that.
Do something you would never have done before, try a new hobby or sit in a cafe and say hello to strangers it makes your day feel better.
Change your routine (if you have one) from always shopping on a set day just try something to change your outlook.
Sandra x
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Hi Punto, it’s difficult when you’ve become so comfortable with your love. It’s important to make the effort and as you say small steps can be built on. You positive attitude always encourages.
Wishing you a more peaceful few days
Tom 
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Hi Sandra
It’s is lovely to see our grandchildren but I know the feeling of collapsing in a chair when they have gone to bed. I’m living with two of mine at the moment and I’m grateful for how busy they keep me.
You are right a positive outlook is good but we all have days when we just feel it’s all too much. I know, I’ve had a few myself this week.
This safe space to vent, discuss and ask for help and advice is precious. So are your positive post on how to move forward. Keep posting when you have time. I look forward to seeing how your relocation has gone.
My house is now in the market, one offer and three second viewings this week. Scary but I’m getting there (with tears)
Take care, Helen x
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Morning @Punto
I had my 9 year old grandson for a few days last week. It was lovely to have his company, equally nice when his parents came to pick up . you need to be positive. Some days can be harder than others. Your post are always interesting. Look after yourself.
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Well today i finished decorating my downstairs toilet, it needed something to make it feel bright. I’veadded a pink mirror and some wall art.
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Dear Sandra
That looks lovely, well done. Your post has come just when I needed it. Tomorrow I’m accepting an offer on our house so I’ll be looking for somewhere new.
Thank you for your positive posts, please share what your up to next (I could do with ideas) Helen x
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That look lovely so nice to read your posts
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That looks great, love those colours, well done
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Good luck on your house offer, the right house is out there.
When you look at it imagine what you can do not what others have done. I love to try new colours out and if it doesnt work try again.
This was a building site for a few weeks whilst the vision I had came together. Im so glad I moved as I now have happy times and not sorrowful ones like I had in the old house, memories are in my heart so Rob goes everywhere with me.
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Thank you, any ideas are very much appreciated x
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Find the house that makes you feel at home, then look at what you could do to make it yours.
I’m always looking at ways to add a splash of colour even in the garden.
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How is your house searching Helen? Hope you have found somewhere to make your home.
Ive got a man coming to measure my bedroom balcony today as it needs the wooden surround replacing and a nice new glass and steel one fitting then I can put my rocking chair on it.
It just seems everything is so expensive to do nowadays, Rob would have done most of the things himself but I have to pay to get major work done.
Im looking at solo holidays to China as well for either 2027 or early 2028 so thats keeping me busy, I go away to Spain in June and hope to travel to Bruges alone in July as it was our last holiday and will mark 3 years without Rob. I feel I’ve achieved so much in these 3 years that I know Rob would be so proud of me.
Enjoy the rest of your day. I have read a few posts from you all on the other chats how’s your day going but feel unable to take part on that chat.
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Dear Punto
It’s lovely if you to ask. Tomorrow I’m meeting the people who are buying the house, I’ll pass on all the research I’ve done on its history. I’m hoping they will love it as much as we did, hoping that will make me feel better. I’m fighting a rising panic about selling but I have started clearing the garage out.
Your holidays sound exciting, how very brave of you. Today I’ve been out for the day with my sister and her partner which has made a lovely change. They have asked if I’d like to go to the coast for a few days in June so I’d better find somewhere. Not as exciting as your holidays but it’s a big step for me.
Your balcony sounds lovely, the rocking chair too. What do you overlook?
Thanks again, Helenx
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