This site is great. I can’t talk to anyone in my life about these things, they either don’t listen or expect me to act as usual.
Yes, I’ve noticed that there are very few things that can distract me. The pain breaks through most distractions and catches me unawares. Some days weeping is all I do.
Yes, I have found that some people don’t listen and they lose interest and then some distance themselves and others don’t want to know you anymore, (In the outside world), but on this site, we are all on the same painful journey, of suffering and loss.
Xx
Hi! I lost my beautiful Dad 19 days ago. I feel everything you have mentioned. I am married and have fabulous friends but my Dad was my absolute world and I can’t believe he’s gone. I am wondering how I’m going to get through the funeral. Just remember how loved you were and hold all those memories in your heart. You are not alone xx
Hi, I am so so sorry for your loss and I completely empathise with you.
The funeral will be hard, it was almost unreal for me. I just couldn’t understand, that my beautiful Dad had come to this day of his funeral and my heart breaks every single day.
You will find the strength to get through, he is always with you, just in a different way now. He’ll be watching over you and my Dad will be watching over me too. I am waiting for additional support from my doctor, as I’m really struggling and I hate life without Dad here. Thinking of you. Message anytime. I understand.
Xx
It’s just over 5 months for me too and it is getting harder. I cry daily and just cannot believe life without my Dad. I want him back and as a long as I am spiritual, I hold onto the thoughts I will be with him again and that he is with me now, just in a different way. I really hope he is.
I am so sorry for your loss too.
My eyes are permanently bloodshot and sore and I don’t even want to feel better, because I’ve lost my whole world in losing Dad. There’s no cures for this kind of pain. Also sat here crying my eyes out too.
Hugs xx
If anything it feels like it gets harder and harder every day and I’m strangely glad I’m not the only one feeling that (though I wish none of us would). At first I though, ok, reality is setting in, but I don’t know how long I can use that explanation. And most everyone expects you to be doing better.
Yes I haven’t had a good week this week at all
Like you say it is getting harder, dont think it will ever be better
But good to know that we are all in the same boat so to speak and here for each other
I too wish none of us had to go through this, like they say grief is the price you pay for love
The more you loved, the harder you grief and that’s so true
Oh Catherine…how I feel your pain…the heartache is unbearable…
I too have lost my wonderful beloved kind Dad, he was everything to me…my lifelong truest friend…I carry him in my heart…but the agony of Dad not being at his house… pottering in his garden… whenever I go to check things…even though I can almost hear him singing away…is absolutely indescribable…
The pain is the worst I’ve felt. Nothing will hurt me like this ever again. I’m still shocked and I just can’t believe my new reality, looks like a big black hole now. My smile has been ripped away.
Xx
Oh gosh…I’ve had many…I hope you can reach out to family or friends…I’ll light a candle for your dear Dad when I go to light one for my wonderful Dad… everyone here will be in my thoughts…I can’t quite believe both my perants are no longer here with me…I sometimes go to text Dad a goodnight message…then I realise…
Somehow…some way…we will find a way to cope…I chat to Dad in my mind while strolling along…behind the brave smile I extend to others…Dad would want me to be strong…to treasure our heart to heart chats…and the wonderful bond we shared…I owe it to him…to do so…
My dearest Dad, my truest friend…I can never repay the kindness you lend…xx
I have no relationship with my mother or brother, as they are toxic, carbon copy of each other and do not mean well to me at all.
It was just me and Dad. Me and Dad were 1 and now he’s gone.
Thank you for saying you will light a candle for my Dad, that would be nice. He was called Eddie and I am Catherine.
I have decluttered negatives from my life, so I’m starting from scratch again.
My beautiful Dad was everything.
Xx
I can’t believe that I have any tears left, I must have cried a few oceans and I’m just so sad faced, when I am not crying. I can barely do half a smile, it’s just too hard, but then I don’t want to look miserable to others either, but then I am.
I’m all over the place. I long for a visitation from my Dad.
Xx