My son died aged 33

[Ali76]

It really does x

[Whydidhedie]

Sending love and hugs to all of you. Xx

[Ali76]

My appearance has changed so much , I’ve lost weight and I’ve aged overnight. I look in the mirror and I don’t know the person looking back at me.

[Whydidhedie]

Yes, I can’t be bothered much with my appearance either. I’m thinking of chucking out my colourful clothes and just wearing black or grey from now on.

[Julieanne777]

Hello, i am so sorry for your loss ,of your son.
I lost my eldest son last August,
I know only that it hurst,sending you much love and hugs .
Xx

[Ali76]

I’m so sorry for your loss, I lost my son in August too x

[Whydidhedie]

So sorry to hear of your loss. X

[Fjl]

Hi, I too lost my eldest son in November. It’s 65 days since he was found.
I just want answers, I know it won’t change anything but it might help …
I’m angry at the moment and I feel like others are moving on.

[Ali76]

I don’t think anyone understands unless they’ve been through it. I feel at times I’ve just been left to get on with it. It’s a living hell. X

[Fjl]

I’m so glad someone else thinks they’ve changed appearance, I must admit I don’t even think about what I look like at the moment. I forget to brush my hair and one day I couldn’t remember whether I’d put deodorant on so put more in just in case ! I don’t care about eating or making dinner and can’t think more than 1 day ahead.
I’m trying to keep occupied but my mind just wanders.

[Fjl]

You’re right - we all know, but I think losing a child is just different for the mum, on another level.

[ReenaH]

It’s just all unbearable. Akhil would have returned back from his travels next week instead I’m arranging his funeral. The ex is demanding all sorts and I’ve had to reason with some things against my will. As I believe karma will do its part to him. My heart actually aches. I’m broken and I’m trying to hold it together for my mum and older son.

[ReenaH]

Sorry to hear about your son. Xx

[Fjl]

I feel for you, it’s unbearable, none of us should have to arrange our child’s funeral.

[Whydidhedie]

You poor thing. I’m so sorry you are having all this extra hassle. X

[ReenaH]

Morning ladies how are you this morning? I can’t sleep . Did you witness charge at the Crem? I’m deciding whether to or not?

[Bam]

Hi all.
What is charge at the crem?
I thought things would ‘get easier’ after the funeral. And then when they didn’t I thought they might be easier after coroner’s report, some guilt was lifted for me but it’s still the same. For the rest of my life I will not see my beautiful Lauren. I miss her so much.
Lauren’s ex partner who now has custody of youngest granddaughter came round for take away at our invite along with Lauren’s eldest child who lives with us now and my son and his partner. I hand incredibly violent thoughts to Lauren’s ex partner. How dare he be alive and my daughter not. I know it’s irrational and theses bad thoughts will poison me more than harm him.

[ReenaH]

Witness charge to watch the casket go in the back through to cremate.
I know what you mean my ex husband with all the history and what pain he inflicted on us how is he still here yet my baby isn’t. Not fair.

[Fjl]

The crem we used don’t do this as it’s done at night time.

[Fjl]

Perhaps with time some of these thoughts will lessen.