My son died aged 33

It really does x

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Sending love and hugs to all of you. Xx

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My appearance has changed so much , Iā€™ve lost weight and Iā€™ve aged overnight. I look in the mirror and I donā€™t know the person looking back at me.

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Yes, I canā€™t be bothered much with my appearance either. Iā€™m thinking of chucking out my colourful clothes and just wearing black or grey from now on.

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Hello, i am so sorry for your loss ,of your son.
I lost my eldest son last August,
I know only that it hurst,sending you much love and hugs :people_hugging:.
Xx

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Iā€™m so sorry for your loss, I lost my son in August too x

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So sorry to hear of your loss. X

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Hi, I too lost my eldest son in November. Itā€™s 65 days since he was found.
I just want answers, I know it wonā€™t change anything but it might help ā€¦
Iā€™m angry at the moment and I feel like others are moving on.

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I donā€™t think anyone understands unless theyā€™ve been through it. I feel at times Iā€™ve just been left to get on with it. Itā€™s a living hell. X

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Iā€™m so glad someone else thinks theyā€™ve changed appearance, I must admit I donā€™t even think about what I look like at the moment. I forget to brush my hair and one day I couldnā€™t remember whether Iā€™d put deodorant on so put more in just in case ! I donā€™t care about eating or making dinner and canā€™t think more than 1 day ahead.
Iā€™m trying to keep occupied but my mind just wanders.

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Youā€™re right - we all know, but I think losing a child is just different for the mum, on another level.

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Itā€™s just all unbearable. Akhil would have returned back from his travels next week instead Iā€™m arranging his funeral. The ex is demanding all sorts and Iā€™ve had to reason with some things against my will. As I believe karma will do its part to him. My heart actually aches. Iā€™m broken and Iā€™m trying to hold it together for my mum and older son.

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Sorry to hear about your son. Xx

I feel for you, itā€™s unbearable, none of us should have to arrange our childā€™s funeral.

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You poor thing. Iā€™m so sorry you are having all this extra hassle. X

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Morning ladies how are you this morning? I canā€™t sleep . Did you witness charge at the Crem? Iā€™m deciding whether to or not?

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Hi all.
What is charge at the crem?
I thought things would ā€˜get easierā€™ after the funeral. And then when they didnā€™t I thought they might be easier after coronerā€™s report, some guilt was lifted for me but itā€™s still the same. For the rest of my life I will not see my beautiful Lauren. I miss her so much.
Laurenā€™s ex partner who now has custody of youngest granddaughter came round for take away at our invite along with Laurenā€™s eldest child who lives with us now and my son and his partner. I hand incredibly violent thoughts to Laurenā€™s ex partner. How dare he be alive and my daughter not. I know itā€™s irrational and theses bad thoughts will poison me more than harm him.

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Witness charge to watch the casket go in the back through to cremate.
I know what you mean my ex husband with all the history and what pain he inflicted on us how is he still here yet my baby isnā€™t. Not fair.

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The crem we used donā€™t do this as itā€™s done at night time.

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Perhaps with time some of these thoughts will lessen.

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