My son died aged 33

I think the most frightening thing is these people did not have an accent and spoke English and by all accounts no morals.

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Itā€™s shocking how many dishonest people there are. At least you werenā€™t fooled by them.

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I am feeling really low this evening and canā€™t stop crying. Itā€™s incredible how my body can continue to produce this ocean of tears. I miss my boy so much. Itā€™s unbearable.

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I believe there definitely is something else, I know there is x

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My voice has changed because of the months of crying x

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I really hope there is something after death. I canā€™t believe everything that goes to make up a personā€™s character and intelligence can just be wiped out in an instant.

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Our energy doesnā€™t just disappear it has to go somewhere x

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When my son died aged 47 in July 2023, he had special needs and died within 3 months of secondary bone cancer. We were holding his hands and he said I got to go now, I said where have you got to go ,he said death ,I said where he said death ,they have come for me. Then he died , he was so kind and brave.

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That is true, but is that energy still your loved one? Iā€™d really like to think so.

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I believe that Ben is somewhere, his soul, or whatever made him ā€˜himā€™, obviously not his earthly body but his character, his sense of humour etc. I just donā€™t know where that is.

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Im so sorry to hear and another example of how the last 14 years has let people down, especially in regards to the NHS and how its been starved of funding and left to break down.

I hope you find the peace you deserve, because this was unfair.

Dont forget, a lot of scammers are forced yo do so - look at the camps they found recently in what was Burma where people were tortured etc. If they didnt scam 10k a day out of people.

Iā€™ve woke up in a state today. So scared I canā€™t remember what Lauren looks/sounds like without having to revert to pictures.

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So sorry you are feeling lousy. I managed to get myself out in the car to the local shops but felt sick the whole time. This lovely weather doesnā€™t help, as i just keep thinking that my son will never see any of this again. Sending hugs. Xx

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16 weeks today that I got that call :broken_heart::broken_heart:

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Similar timings to you - 28th October my son George died aged 28. Today also the first anniversary of his engagement. Tough day. X

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The coroners office rang today.
Ben died of ischaemic heart disease, he also had one kidney much larger as a result of having to work harder.
Whilst I have a cause, ( and supposedly death would have been ā€˜ like a switch turning off ā€˜ ), I am very angry. In all his hospital visits his kidneys were mentioned as not working properly, he was on drips every time. I know NHS staff are under pressure but how could they miss this ?
I have requested his medical records.
His heart could have been managed by medication, diet and possibly surgery if needed. He was certainly never overweight, probably underweight, he ate a bit of everything.
Iā€™m just so sad, what a waste of my sonā€™s life, and now my grandson has no dad.

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My heart goes out to you. 10 weeks since my boy fell asleep, so sudden he was 35 and has 2 young children. I cannot express how im struggling to get througb each day. So scared for a future without him

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Just got an email from Moonpig to remind me of my sonā€™s upcoming birthday on the 14th March - he would have been 29. Caught me unawares. xxxx

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It must be a relief to finally have some results - and to know that Ben would not have been aware of what happened - but no wonder you are feeling such a mixture of other emotions as well. I hope you manage to get Benā€™s medical records. It sounds like your son was let down by the NHS. Xx

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