I finally had THE call from coroner’s office. My son died a ‘natural death’ caused by having a bicuspid aortic valve (a congenital condition we knew about from his teens) and infective endocarditis. Apparently his death couldn’t have been prevented. I don’t know what to think about any of this, but I do feel if we had got him to a private hospital at the start they might have been able to deal with it. On the other hand if they had said it was untreatable, that would have been very frightening for my son. I am feeling very distressed and don’t know what to do wirh myself at present. My husband went back to Cornwall this morning so i am on my own. I have texted him but I doubt he has checked his texts yet. I hate that all of this happened to my lovely son
Agree. It is very frightening to know death is probably inevitable. My 25 year old was told his brain tumour was inoperable and incurable. We sought out treatments in the UK, USA and Germany. Nothing worked and he ended up losing movement in his left hand side, on a catheter and ‘nappies’. From a wheelchair to bedridden he died aged 28 after losing his speech, ability to swallow or speak. He bore everything so well and we loved him so much. It is six months today. Better not to know your time is up and go quickly I believe, otherwise it is a torment for the family that never leaves. My Dad died, 87 after a good full life, no regrets. Sat in a chair and died from a heart condition. (I was advised to give cpr for 25 minutes, I knew he was gone, better for him. The paramedics arrived and pronounced him dead).
Like all your children my son George was just too young. So cruel. 
Ali7, yes, it is probably better not to know what lies ahead. For you to see George declining and knowing there was nothing that could be done must have been so terrible, and it is something that you probably continue to replay in your head. I am so sorry that you, your son and your family went through that anguish. George was a very brave young man to cope with all that. At least my Simon had some days where he was not so bad and at least he thought he was getting better in the last couple of weeks. Maybe the way he went was the least worst option. But still devastating for us.
Hi I wondered if I could ask how long people have had to wait to get a cause of death? Xx
My son died on 29th November. The post mortem was done very quickly but was inconclusive, so further tests were carried out and it is those results we have only just received.
For me it was 16 weeks.
Ladies, your stories reduce me to tears, tears for myself and all of you. These immense feelings and pain we shouldn’t be feeling, its not right our babies go before us. Likf you all i just want to see and hear and hug my boy again. The days fly by but part of me is stationary the part my boy took with him when he fell asleep. Ive aged in looks and mentally feel strange, the tears that fall so often, the pain getting worse. Sending love to you all from one broken mum to other broken mums
It’s 8 weeks since my son passed away. It is so hard to see how other peoples lives just carry on. A part of me died when he did and I just can’t move forward. I am full of guilt and feel like it is getting harder to keep going. Xx
Sue516 its 19 weeks tomorrow and its not getting any easier, its getting harder. My son took part of me with him and i cry every day, i miss him so badly i just want to hold him again and hear his voice.
Heartbroken is not a strong enough word as to how im feeling. 
My son’s ashes are with me in the lounge as are my partners who I cherished- I talk their pictures- still waiting for a sign. My sister and niece went to a medium and my son came through for them . The medium never knew their names so she couldn’t have gone checking on social media- I’m on the fence as to go and see her- some of it was circumspect but a lot was amazing- shall I go, I’m not sure yet but I’m thinking about it. It certainly put my sister in a better place.
Why not - if you go with an open mind, not expecting too much. X
Who was the medium please?
I am a coroner who lost my son unexpectedly due to heart issues last year- aged 28. He would have been 29 years tomorrow. He was a very fit young man. Nothing was found at post mortem and nobody knows why he suffered a cardiac arrest.
I just want to assure you that you shouldn’t ever blame yourself. As a coroner for the last 20 years, I have seen countless deaths where nobody would ever have expected a person to have a serious medical problem leading to their death.
Doctors do an amazing job but, as has been said to me by some, the human body is so complex even now doctors don’t know quite why/how some of it works.
I saw a psychic medium today as I’m desperate to know that my son is still with me. The medium told me things that only close family know, regarding my son’s passing. He also said many things that put a little smile on my grief stricken face. I’m going to use him again in a few months.
He was good.
Same age as my son - George - would have been 29 on 14th March. Died aged 28. Oct 28th 2025. Way too young…
If you can recommend the medium please let me have their name so I can pass it onto a friend who has lost his wife.
I don’t know but lives in Knowle Solihull just up the road so if you are local I can get the name and number x
I’m thinking I might just go - but have to wait until sister comes back from Tenerife- William I will send you the details once received x
I would appreciate this . I’m currently in the midlands so would go to this man . God bless you all 
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Thanks. Could you please let me have the details