We’ve both had a testing day and made progress 
x
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I promise I won’t give a running commentary of every day at work. However im back after day 2. Broke down twice today in front of 2 different people. They just mentioned me and Gill and I just went. Not going to hide from these emotions or try and suppress them. I spent 9 months looking after Gill not letting her see the effect her illness was having me, I just wanted to be strong for her. 3 weeks ago today Gill left, I think subconsciously that has had an effect too.
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@EddieN you don’t have to be strong all the time and crying is a natural part of grief. Never apologise for crying ever. When people say to me sorry I made you cry when they mentioned my husband I would say to them “ mIts not you that made me cry but Vuc passing that has” in away this would make them feel a bit better too.
Just take each day as it comes one day at a time is all we can do
Take care of yourself
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Don’t apologise for breaking down and crying you need to let it out . Your colleagues won’t fully understand how you’re feeling. I am they will be supportive in whatever they can
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I still break down when someone is nice to me .
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@EddieN
Post as many times as you need to, that is what this forum is for.
I find putting things in print helps to assemble my thoughts.
Another step forward for you today!
Keep going.
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Thanks RJay
Thank you
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Thank you Sherbet
Hi Peg2 think you said in an earlier post you start back at work tomorrow. If im right I just wanted to wish you all the best and I hope you get through it unscathed. My first two days not so good but im still here. Thinking of you tomorrow
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Thank you for that lovely message Eddie. Yes it’s tomorrow. I think the thoughts of it is worse, but I’ve good people there too, which is a comfort. I’ve managed to make a meal in the slow cooker ready for when I get in tomorrow evening, a nice spicy chilli, so that’s a big win for me today! I think the cat will probably need more help than me tomorrow as she’s so used to me being here all day. Thanks again for the message, I’ll report back here tomorrow night…
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Hope all goes well for you returning to work tomorrow
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Hi Eddie I hope you don’t mind me replying but I need your help too to get over my grief as I lost my husband 7th December and like you I thought why am I writing this. My hubby was never ill so it was a massive shock when I came home to Winterton from my day out in Skipton to find Sel on the floor …he must have passed not long after I left. I’d had a text from him 9 am asking me to buy him some fruit on the market …I then heard nothing more so I thought he’s been out with the dogs and fallen asleep. He was 69 going on 60. I’m so lonely and people say it will get better but it won’t I’m lonely and not only miss my hubby …we went everywhere together..I’m missing someone in the house to say make us a cuppa
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Thanks a lot Sherbet
That’s a massive big win for the day!
I know what you mean about worrying about your cat though. One of ours is 100% feeling the loss of his ‘Dad’ around the house.
Sending you strength for tomorrow x
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Eddie, you can give us a running commentary for as long as you want, you know that.
I think the worse thing you could do is spend the day bottling your emotions up. If you colleagues are good people, they’ll understand. Hope you feel a bit stronger each day. You don’t have to push yourself though. Take care.
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Hello Whisky
I’m so sorry to read about your loss. I hope you will find this forum comforting. You are among friends here who understand what it means to lose your soulmate.
It’s very early days for you and your main tasks at the moment are to deal with what really needs doing and above all look after yourself. I know you desperately want to try and make sense of it all but that takes time.
I lost my wife suddenly to a heart attack in December 2024 and I’m still trying to work out which way is up.
Keep posting here because even the process of just typing your thoughts onto the screen helps you work things out.
Take care.
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Thanks Helen, yes Peggy is missing her Dad like crazy, am sure she’s grieving too. He was chief groomer and she loved it.
Appreciate your good wishes
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Thank you Rjay
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Struggling tonight…. Just hit me that I won’t see Mick again, ever…. Like it has just happened. Stupid but hurting so badly
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