Oh dear. Try bereavement payment…then universal credit…any pension …life policies. Many weeks and months at the desk. Children to help financially. Are you the husband?
Sad sad sad. One less person paying tax. How old r u? You may be eligible for bereavement benefits…universal credit…cash pensions…life policies…pip
You are 58….you may be eligible for bereavement benefits…cash all pensions and life policies….attached to home. The sudden unexpected death like mine…that is the hardest part…most painful and totally confusing. Till death do us part….so so short. I am going through a similar predicament. Nasty nasty.
Thanks for the advice, I have just turned 70 , my husband was 64 when he died. I don’t qualify for bereavement payments as it only paid to younger people. All avenues of savings, pensions have been explored. It’s been a bit more complicated, it’s a long story. Take Care
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Suddenly all my troubles seem so far away…suddenly home feels so dark and empty…suddenly all I hear is the sound of silence…suddenly there is no night and no day.
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No I was his partner, we had both been married before. I divorced, he didn’t. All his assets go to his ex wife. I will have to manage as I can. I’m not entitled to any benefit as I own my house, but I still need to pay mortgage etc. it is a nightmare but we just thought about the here and now, enjoying our time together and planning our retirement, we though we had many happy years together, as you do. I’m just terrified of the future now, I wanted to be with him not on my own. I need to get through the funeral and get support to help me and guide me. I just feel so sick all the time. Thank you for your support.
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I am sorry. PIP perhaps. I apologise if I am of no help. 70 - should be on state pension…perhaps top up. I am much younger you see, so was my wife.
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My partner was not on deeds to my home. It’s complicated. I only have my wages and help from friends and family. It’ll work out. I can only deal with the here and now at the moment. Thank you for your help though. Eventually I’ll have to sell my house to start again. But that’s way down the line. Scares me too much to think about that.
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Thank you. Am feeling very sick today. Just can’t get myself together 
. Wandering around the house lost. Sending hugs to you.
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LJ.G
That’s so difficult for you if everything goes to his wife.
We want to take a day at a time but can’t help thinking about the future.
Dealing with the funeral will be difficult for you
Take care 
Thinking of you.
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Thank for your help, my solicitor has pretty much ,got things sorted . My husband thought he had many years ahead of him . He was planning his retirement and looking forward to it . And yes I do get my state pension.
Take Care
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We to thought we had many years ahead of us together. My husband was planning his retirement and looking forward to it . It’s going to be tough for you going forward.for now for us focus on the funeral. Try not to think to far head easy said than done I know.Everything will work out you will get through this .
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No that’s not wrong. I think that we all want to have our partner’s/wives/husbands back if there was some miraculous way of having them again. People tell me I’ll move forward eventually. Do I want that? No, I just want my old life with my partner back, irrational as that may seem.
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I concur indubitably. We are genuine soul mates. We are not those that change partners like we change clothes. We are different. We mate for life so we are a different species for those who change partners like we change clothes. We are one in a trillion. We are the lifers…we like albatross, lovebirds and gibbons
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Hi lg.j
I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this at this time you said you own your own home well so do i but mine is payed off i am older than you i believe but when paul passed away i was 63 yrs old and lost all of his benefits and my carers allowance and no money coming in i did not want to go back to work but would not get my pension till 66 so i was advised to apply for universal credit and i did iand i got it i had a great.coach as everything was done online then in 2020 and he really helped me as he could here this upset and distress i was in and my doctors where fantastic and signed me off work due to bereavment and stress so it all helped you need to try and apply for some sort of benefit as i do think you are entitled to something how.long where you with your partner if you do not.mind me asking i will try to help.you in any way i can
Sarah big hugs bieng sent your way
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Suddenly reading all your messages on here i feel very luckly if you can call it that athough i lost my husband 5yrs ago i feel so lucky that we did what we did finacially my husband had a private.pension and always made sure that the form that came in every year was up to date and i was his benificary i realise now what a wonderful guy he was to make sure i was secure the house was paid off when he was 45 and he made sure there funds there for me to purchase a car i feel very hounered that he did all of that for me what a great man i had but i can also.say that i would give it all back if i could have him back but i know that is never going to happen so i have to try ans make him proud of everything i do and honour his memory i am a very.lucky lady and so proud off him ans how he has looked after me i am so proud of this wonderful man
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Hi. We were together nearly 5 years. I think I can manage to pay everything, I’m really going to miss my times out with my partner and our days out together and he always took me out and drove. He was always doing bits of DIY etc. To be honest I’ve never been entitled to help even though I’m on a low wage. After my divorce years ago I asked for help but turned down, I really don’t want to go through that again, but thank you for your advice. I’ve had such a tough day today, I had to get bloods done, a friend dropped me but once there I just burst into tears, I found it really tough going out am getting worried as it happened the last time I was out. Did you feel like this, I just get anxious and need him by my side, he always looked after me. I feel very distraught today. I’ve got a terrible headache now as well. I’m not sure I can deal with all this, it’s so painful. Just want my soulmate back.
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Thank you. I am very anxious today, have had a bad day, crying alot today and given myself a headache. Life is so cruel. I had met the man of my dreams and now it’s all gone. I feel so alone 
. All our plans we had together are gone, how do I cope with that? Will I be able to cope, I feel very fragile. Thank you
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Lovely wedding picture 
I’m like you I’m very lucky I have no money worries and don’t need to work but I go to work for the company it is my 58 th birthday today and it hit me hard this morning very emotional day my first birthday on my own just wanted my life back with Mark here he was 57 and able to retire all our plans gone I’m 11 weeks without Mark and just hate my life as it is without him
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I live in a rented house and have lots of money worries. Can’t see a way forward at the moment and try not to think about it. It’s too much. We made a lot of bad decisions in our life trying to please other people instead of ourselves.
Oh if only I could go back….
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