Thanks @joeb40 I will definitely give that a go. X
That is so close together so much for your to cope with (understatement of the century) my sister passed away first 9 months before my mum. Same here, I love my sister so much too but my mum was the closest person to me in the whole world. I feel angry sometimes like my mum chose to be with my sister instead of me but I know that is very immature and unfair of me. I like to think too that they are reunited and also that my mum was ‘collected’ by her mum and dad who she missed so much after they died. I visualise them reaching out their hands to her and her being so happy to see them again. A medium told me my mum was reunited with her beloved dog and she was so thrilled she could walk her again as she was so incapacitated by her illness it took away all her mobility it was horrendous I live every day with flashbacks and a knife through my heart when I think of her suffering, although it was faded a little now thank god.
It was so close together I just couldn’t believe what happened (still can’t tbh) my whole world changed in 2020 and I was the most lost I have ever been. I’m exactly like you in the way I believe that my mum wanted to go and be with my little sister more than she wanted to be with me and my other sister which really hurts. I’ve thought about going to a medium but I’m a little skeptical about the whole thing if I’m honest but it sounds like it worked for you and gave you a little much needed comfort. My mum and sister both went through suffering too and when I think of the way they were whilst going through their conditions I just thank God that they aren’t suffering anymore. But unfortunately the ones our loved ones leave behind do suffer x
Hi @Stargirl93, I would love someone to talk to. I lost both parents within 3 months of each other last year. I can’t even describe the loss i feel. I don’t have any support from my partner. I’ve just started some counselling through my work. But I just wanted to say I know how you feel. My days are so up and down. The only real advice I can give is to deal with each day at a time. Sending you big hugs xxx
Hi @Tracybe90 of course I would love to chat I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, I know how hard it is! I too have up and down days though at the moment it’s more down than anything else, people say time heals but it’s been nearly two years since my world came crashing down and the pain still feels as though it happened yesterday. It’s tricky to know how to get through it but having someone to talk to is a good place to start. Thanks for reaching out, look forward to hearing from you soon, take care xxx
I agree. I want to know where they are
Mine has also been nearly 2 years but hasnt made much of a dent in the grief. I’ve cried or been close to crying every day since. I hope your day has been reasonable. I looked through the book that my brother was reading before he went into hospital. He never read anymore of it and I found the bookmark which he drew. It really got to me xx
@SueMa awww I can imagine me and my mum were watching a TV show on Netflix called the good witch and I honestly can’t bring myself to finish the show without her. So I know exactly how you feel. Part of me thinks I should finish the show for my mum because she didn’t get to, but it breaks my heart to even hear the theme tune…I don’t know maybe one day, take care xx
I think I’ve watched some of that. Think of the good memory of watching it with her. Some things we shared I can watch, some I can’t. When I see the comedies on that he liked I get upset like the Simpsons, young Sheldon and malcolm in the middle. If it’s a new series I get upset that he is missing them and I keep hearing funny things that I know he would laugh at
I also think that as we are a part of them that is left, they are watching it in a way
Hi Stargirl93, my mum died nearly 4 years ago and I still haven’t got over losing her.
@Spam hi I’m sorry to hear that! I thought I was some how being a drama queen people keep making me feel like I should be over it by now, it makes me feel like I’m wrong to still be broken, sending hugs. Take care xx
Dear Stargirl93, I’m so sorry for your loss…even though these words may sound hollow, they do come from the bottom of my heart. I’m also sorry that you haven’t been getting the support you’re seeking. How can I help ? Maybe you could start by saying how you lost both your mum and sister ? Was your sister older or younger than you ? Do you have any other family or friends close by ? I’ll be happy to listen and see what little advice I can offer. Take care…stay in touch… luv & hugs…Pipsi
Hi. I feel the same. When I say I’ve been crying some people say Why? Like it’s all over
Hello
I’m sorry that none had replied
I myself do not come on the site every day
Normally it’s at night when I can’t sleep
I loss my husband out of the blue then 11 months later my beautiful mum died
I was so broken when my husband died so when my mum passed I could never grieve for her
22 June it had been 3 years I still have not grieved for her
I find now my life is back to normal as best as it can be with loosing 2 most important people in my life
I still cry
Some days I don’t want to get out of bed
I have really dark days
Then reality hits me I need to go to work it’s only me that pays the bills
I get happiness helping others
Putting a smile on others faces even though I’m broken inside
I have just completed a mental health course at work
I find if I’m busy helping others I don’t have time to think about my grief
I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing but it does get me through the day
Keep coming and talking on this site
And remember people are not ignoring you
Just that they have not read your comments
Take care
Xx
Hi @Pipsi thank you for reaching out I really appreciate it, okay so first I lost my little sister who was only 18 at the time she died. She suffered with heart complications since she was a baby but she seemed to be fine until she had a stroke and was in hospital, then she was discharged from hospital came home everything was okay and then one night she had a huge heart attack that killed her instantly. I was broken to say the least! Then two months later my mum was taken in to hospital see my mum had been in and out of hospital for awhile and while she was in the hospital she became very ill with a huge bed sore that covered almost her entire lower back she had also lost total use of her legs by this point. She was in a hospital bed in the living room for a long time. Then the dreaded time came when she became really ill for a few days and she was taken in to hospital late at night and she never came back she died of sepsis! I do have another sister and we have become a lot closer since everything happened, we had to support each other. I also have an amazing fiancé who I love so much he is so supportive without him I don’t know where I would be, he’s been through it all with me and I’m so grateful. So yes there’s abit of background about me and why I’m asking for support/advice. Thanks for reading, take care xx
Your sister was so young, I’m so sorry. Will you be having Counselling?
@SueMa I know she was taken far too soon so was my mum she was only 48. I haven’t had counselling. I’m abit scared to admit I need help to be honest. I know that sounds silly but… I guess that’s just me x
I had counselling when my mum died. Best part is you can talk about them for as long as you like whereas noone else would listen for that long. So tragic about your mum also. Life is very cruel. Take care x