Don’t feel bad. I’m sure we all appreciated seeing your lovely mum and can understand how much you miss her. I didn’t even notice it was on the wrong thread until you said!
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What a beautiful couple. So sorry for your loss.
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My late partner Helen just before being diagnosed and her last photo looking into the sea on our last day out
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What lovely photos ,may they all rest in peace
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@Annaessex your husband looks so well there. Like my husband such a shock to go suddenly and unexpectedly xx
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Shortly after that photo was taken, he started losing lots of weight and could not eat properly. We thought he had only a nasty tummy bug but it was undiagnosed Kidney cancer. The doctor put everything down to stress and Diabetes and did not look into the problem any further. But even if they found out that he had cancer, it was already too late because the cancer already spread to other organs. So at least he died at home with me around instead of a hospital. Sending love and hugs to you.
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I just saw that you are from Norwich. Norwich was one of our favourite places to go and Dereham and the little cottage in Litcham. So many lovely memories.
@Annaessex so very sad…my husband also died of undiagnosed kidney cancer. I was told that it had mets to the other kidney and breach the kidney. We never knew.
Yes I live east of Norwich not far from the broads xx
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We had our honeymoon in Great Yarmouth and it was such a lovely time. I have been told by the coroner that Kidney cancer is a silent killer and it will only detected when the GPs ask for certain tests. Sending love and hugs.
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Funnily enough they thought my husband had kidney failure and something wrong with his kidneys but as they did more tests which took them 2 months !!! They realised it was bladder cancer 
x
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I asked my husband if he wanted to go private but he refused. I said we would find the money somehow but he did not want to go and it was too late anyway. I always thought that I would go first because I had cancer before but never thought that my Philmore would die of cancer. Sending love and hugs.
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Same … i was gonna go private too but it was too late like you :(;xxx
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I feel.like i have gone backwards recently … i dunno whats wrong with me. I was coping well a few weeks ago but since my puppy got speyed i feel like i have gone backwards. I think it was cos i missed him helping me with her you get triggers dont you ? x
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Hey Deb just want to say that anything can trigger grief I’ve come to learn. I’ve had such minor/ridiculous things trigger mine. I guess we just have to deal with it and accept it x
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I know but its hard isnt it ? It makes you so down … i just had an awful week of it but thanks xxx
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It really is I totally understand. Heck I once found some false nails in my make up box and that got me crying as my mum never went anywhere without her false nails stuck on x
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Did you ? Aw … found an old passport picture of him today in my drawer and realised how very handsome he was i always took it for granted but he was so bonny ,… boy it hits you in the guts :(, xxx
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I sorted out the paperwork and found our anniversary card. Instead of just putting it with all the other cards (I have a file with all our cards) I opened and read it. I wrote that I wish a lot of more years with him. That was for our 15th anniversary (14th of December 2022) and my Philmore died two months later. I try not to look at our local card shop because they have already the Christmas cards out (For my husband at Christmas time etc.) It makes me so sad. I still cannot touch the shirt that the ambulance people cut off his body to put the cables on him. What a horrible nightmare existence we have now without our loved ones.
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I know its very tough ! I still cant even move my husbands clothes for god sakes i just cry when i touch them ! I have left everything as it was … i just cant face it - i wear his tshirts and jumpers just to feel close to him xxx
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