Yes that is weird and i will keep in contact as it makes me feel better talking about it
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Welcome to the gang!
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Thank you very much
Howās your sister doing ? has she made some progress on the road back to recovery ? another call from London again!
Being there for 1 another is all we have. I was 2nd child, different partners. I have a older sister and continue to work with sister to organize a headstone for mum. My sister wasnāt close to mum and Iāve asked her. Iāve wondered if I got married and had kids would it made it easier for me ? but then again I wouldnāt have had the same life or memories with mum. It doesnāt matter how many people walk in and out of your life, they not your mum and you not got that special connection.
People think they helping but they are not! I still see mumās money as mumās money, someone told me itās mine. But I still see it as mumās, I think we all struggling to find that special connection or to be understood. Maybe just maybe that no one wants to understand us but just want to project their thoughts and lifestyle on us ? if it doesnāt feel right I wonāt take it on board.
Also losing a pearent has evoked my childhood and vulnerability to the world. Itās like I crave to go back to those times. Maybe protection, comfort, support. I would give it all up tomorrow to be with mum! Not that Iām suicidal, donāt think I am. I just lost my life with losing mum and like a idiot I didnāt make the most of it when mum was alive. I could of done more! then I wanted to be on my own, now I donāt.
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Lifeās like that. We just donāt realise til it goes xx
Yes, definitely xxx. So many coincidences and shared things. My dad was born 1926. Sounds ages ago now x
Problem is there was just me and mum, mum bought me up on her own since birth. Single parent! makes a big difference! I think being on my own in the flat probably isnāt helping. But I think you tend to do that if you have no reason to go out.
Mum was born 15 December 1927, Christmas baby!
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My dad was born in 1940 and mum 1948. I went into the ok today to do some shopping and drop off my sisterās sick note, Iām not missing the place. I did a bit of work on my personal statement for my Uni application. I havenāt heard back from the court place that phoned me on Friday so that must be another no. I didnāt get a good impression when I went for my interview and again on Friday so I donāt think it is a place I want to work. Got the washing and housework to do tomorrow but will get some relaxing time in as well. Loki and Heelie got me a cosy colouring book and fancy felt tip pens for my birthday so I am going to sit with them. Hopefully someone is coming tomorrow to clean the gutters out, there are so many tufts of grass growing out of them! When in rains they overflow and itās quite noisy at night!
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Hope everyone has had a good day, itās been warm and sunny up here so Heelie was out in the garden. For some reason he loves to walk up and down the back of the shed! Iāve started putting wet food out for the hedgehog as they will be feeding themselves up for hibernation. When I checked their house today it has gone so Iāll need to put it out every night now until I know they have gone to bed.
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Hi, had a very wet day yesterday. I sont think ive ever seen such a long downpour, torrential rain thundee and lightning. We were mostly indoors but at one point got pretty soaked! It cleared up in the evening and the sun came out. We had a nice day exploring Sorrento anyway.
Mum was born 1929. She has noted 95th birthday in her diary but sadly never made that. I know she was very old but I couod never imagine a world without her in it.
We have a "hedgehog ladyā near us who takes in lots of hedgehogs. We fou d one once out in the day and took it to her but ssdly it didnāt survive. She does recue loads though.
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The weather sounds scary! Especially the thunder and lightening, I would be running for cover. My sister on the other hand loves thunderstorms. I havenāt seen any hedgehogs this year, mum went into hospital at the time they would have been coming out of hibernation. I feel so bad that I wasnāt able to feed them for the two months mum was ill, I just hope I am making up for it now. They have been so intermittent in coming the last few years, there have been a lot of them eating me out of house and home and then they will suddenly stop coming. We have a hibernation house in the back garden that they did hibernate in but Iām not sure if they are still using it. They are so cute and give us lots of joy when we seen them. There have been flocks of geese flying over the house the last couple of week, we get so excited when we hear them, we have to rush out to see them!
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I think when the geese fly over you know the season is changing.
A nicer day today went to Herculaneum. Quite quiet there really, and very interesting. Some skeletons of people who tried to escape the eruption, but didnāt make it.
The geese always used to arrive in October then Iāve noticed the last five years or so they have arrived in September. A small flock flew over my house last month so they are even earlier this year. There is a field across the way from me with a small loch that they seem to gather in, if I stand out the front of my house I can hear them. Iām at my happiest when they are about, like Christmas, life is a little more bearable.
Your trip today sounds so interesting, I canāt even begin to imagine what it must have been like for those people.
Today we have watched movies and I have done the washing and the man came to clean the gutters. Iām now about to settle down with Sherlock Holmes!
Hope youre enjoying Shelick Holmes, Im sure you will. Off yo Pompeii and Vesuvius today, hiwever it is firecast heavy rain again so that may get cancelled. Hipefully not. Have a good day.
I hope it doesnāt rain as you have another interesting day lined up xxx
Sorry about my typing. Canāt see at all properly without my glasses!
Weather first thing was torrential rain but we were already on the coach. By the time we got to Pompei it brightened up and then we went up Vesuvius and it was beautiful and sunny, but not too hot. This evening there is loads of thunder and lightning but no rain! Weāve been lucky I think.
How are you and how is your sister getting on?
Donāt worry about your typing, I understood your message perfectly! I would love to go to Pompeii, itās so interesting to find part of history frozen in time. Itās a stark reminder of how powerful and unpredictable the planet is too. Iām glad the weather turned out sunny for you but sorry you have had to suffer another storm!
My sister was telling me today that she feels so much better, she had a really good appetite today and had her first cup of tea since she got home. She also went without her painkillers today but took them tonight as she doesnāt want to be in pain overnight. I suggested we take a walk to the edge of the estate at the weekend to see how she finds walking a bit of distance, she said that was a good idea. We have had a lovely relaxing day again today. We have watched more movies and then sat colouring tonight with a crackling fire playing on the TV! It hit me today that this is the first week since my week off in Nov last year where I have had the chance to relax. This is only the second week holiday I have had since the start of the new financial year. My first week I took off so I could visit mum in hospital when they tried her with the new treatment. She was only supposed to be in for that one week but she caught a serious virus. I registered tonight for open days at three universities next month, Iāll get a feel of what they are like. One of them has a special talk for adult learners returning to education and mature students, afterwards there will be 1:1 sessions to ask questions. Quite a productive day!
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