Hi Keith, hope you are ok this weekend? Have you joined your Facebook group meeting?
There were problems last night so no.
Oh dear. Have you been out and about at all?
Been to a spiritualist church tonight, undecided if I will go again or not though
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Hope they were welcoming at least
I have not been to church since the mid 90ās and then it was because mum insisted we went. So I canāt really advise on whether you should go back or not, meeting in that kind of setting isnāt for me. You just have to think about what your instincts were telling you, itās important you felt welcome and in a place that is right for you
It didnāt feel any different to what Iāve done on FB to be honest. At first her signals were a bit miss match. Iām not sure if Iām going back.
Maybe with your treatment coming up next month it might be best to avoid people as much as possible anyway!
At the moment itās doubtful if I go back, was a bit strange for me as Iām not really religious so a bit out of my comfort zone. I donāt want or interested in contacting spirits. Just I miss my mum and I think I need help with that. But we know thereās none available, I didnāt get no support last night no way and I could of done that on FB. Bit dissapointing really, was glad to get home to be honest. They had a healing session today but obviously didnāt go. I think Maggieās Myeloma Group meeting Thursday will benefit me more. Done a 3 of those now !
Can you not ask Maggieās if you can speak to a grief counsellor?
I can try but I think they just deal with Myeloma but itās worth considering.
I think youāre right, maybe concentrate on support around grief and around your illness. Iām missing my mum a lot today. I always do but for some reason itās struck me particularly.
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I think I take a break from spirituality stuff even though death awaits us all. Sundays are difficult days for most, I just want to get back to who I am. Iām struggling to find my kind of people, should have stayed home yesterday and just listened to music as thatās my world and the place I feel the most comfortable. If it wasnāt for my medification I be looking at doing a night out in the bars. As I love music and people and a atmosphere. Somewhere where I can relax and thrive in at the same time. I started talking to a fly now, crazy stuff!
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I need to forget last night and maybe put it down to as a mistake. Iām not really religious but at the same time, I want to believe that one day I see mum again as she was a big part of my life and I owe a lot to mum who I am. I will ask at Maggieās on Thursday! I wouldnāt be me without mum, I have to keep that alive if I lose that, then I lost!
I once caught a Darren Brown show on TV, seen some of his stuff. At one point was kind of interested seeing him live, always have liked magic since a kid. Even bought the old Paul Daniels tricks from a magic shop as a kid. Well this show Darren had lost his dad and obviously he dedicated the ending of the show to his late dad. He ended the show with Thatās Life by Frank Sinatra soon as the show finished I wanted that song on Spotify. The lyrics are so uplifting and letās be honest we should celebrate our parents for their life and what they achieved bringing us up. If you get a chance listen to the lyrics to that song. Life goes on for all of us in some shape!
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@Magsclar is right, concentrate on getting help with grief and your health and meeting people will come in time.
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I have never been able to get my head around where grief comes from, we can have a really good day and the next it hits us like a truck
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I think grief comes from love even though we might not have shown it when they was alive. We all different and show things differently and we donāt face the idea of death till itās too late. We not educated on death either or do we research stuff regarding it. I think I did religious education at school but I canāt remember half of the subjects it covered. Majority of the time science goes against the grain in proving that death is the last chapter in our lives. But it canāt prove it and doubt it ever will!
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We are still a nation that doesnāt like to talk about death. Like you say we donāt get educated about it so we learn the hardest way possible
Do you think we ever come to terms with our loss ? or is this our future now ?