I spoke to Citizens Advice to sort Council Tax debt sorted . I had to jump some hoops to get that done, which is annoying. But Council has agreed a hundred a month. Maggie’s helped me with Pip and a Blue Badge. I’m still waiting on a reply regards ESA
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I think we heading towards work till you drop dead future. Whilst the DWP twiddle their thumbs on ESA I’ve got to somehow get through this month damage limitation. We can’t all claim free council tax expenses like Labour MPs
@ everyone
I don’t think the depression ever ends with a loss. Life makes it worse! I have a pic of mum on my phone and I’m worse off now then I ever been. No one is suppose to succeed in this country. You can’t beat the system unless you are a crook. Mum had saved most of her life and went without, because mum was on a high pension social services got involved and mum was paying nearly 500 hundred a month for social care. Mum was being robbed as her 1 and half hours half of that the carers on their phones. I had to work because carers allowance wasn’t enough, I struggled with power of attorney because no one wants to help and it isn’t straight forward. Mum lost 1 k on that because it has to be just right and no one helps or guides you. They leave you in the dark without a torch nothing. So called sister took her share of mum’s money but had nothing to do with mum. She was only in the will because younger sister put pressure on my mum to include her daughter in the will. I did all the work regards funeral preparations, because I felt compelled to do that at the time. Mums savings had to be handled by a solicitor because of the amount. DWP investigated mum’s money to see if they was owed anything which delayed it. I had to declare mum stay in care homes, mum hated them but they still wanted their money. 1 being where they catered for mental illness and substance abuse. Mum accused me of putting her in there, I didn’t I was in hospital with a popped ulcer in 2020. The day my mum’s money cleared with probate was the day I was diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer. I lost a few 3,4 k trying to make money online. People who die might just be the lucky ones has they escape this garbage of a country. That’s putting it mildly as to avoid deletion of post. I miss mum terribly wished I was with her, as there’s no love on this planet, just greed!
Yes be careful what you put on here, as ive found out with a deleted post
I’m not the most tactful person I’ll say things how it is. That’s how I was brought up my parents got something right I suppose.
Your exactly right in what you say, you have to be one step ahead now with money and what not, being savvy is the only way. I’m not surprised my grandad had a huge safe under the stairs where he kept all his money haha, he didn’t trust banks, I wish that’s all we had to worry about.
I’ve got pic of mam n dad on my phone and a T-shirt my mam used to wear has been under my pillow since she died, it’s heartbreaking when you lose your mam that’s my worse loss I’ve experienced. Obviously my dad and brother was hard but a mother is another level of grief
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Yes it’s horrible, a part of you dies too!
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I had a few post deleted 1 because of politics recently dating back from September last year. I just let it flow over my head, just couldn’t be bothered to question it. How can you live a life with loss, and politics not crashing into your life ? Everything is money dominated, demanding money, threatening you regards money. Cuts to things regarding money it never really stops really, buying plots of land from the council to bury your mum. It just doesn’t stop!
Well I’m pleased it’s not just me, I’m opinionated but only speaking the truth. I had a bit laugh to myself coz my dad would have said only Sara could say that, ive counselling Wednesday so looking forward to it, been a shit day very emotional, my brothers year on Sunday and just miss them all, ive 4 sons but still feel alone at times. That’s just what grief does though you can have a zillion people around you it never makes up for your losses though. Not when you get down days anyway.
Hope everyone is coping okay though
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Another day on my own in the flat, the same flat I lived with mum with. Not much is moving at the moment just my bank balance going down. You be honest today, you pay the price. Maggie’s who helped with pip run me through declaring savings. But I’m now paying the price of that decision.
I got a consultation with my doctor a week today, maybe by then I might be able to find some enthusiasm for life ?
Worst thing you can do is declare I know peoples views are different but in the long run only you lose out, little people like us make no difference to the country in not declaring, it’s corruption higher up the ladder that does. You take care of you !
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I’m going into hibernation until spring I’ve decided, that’s my favourite season. January is the worst month. Every day is different so I’m hoping I’ll bounce out of bed tomorrow like Tigger haha
Unfortunately I was at the mercy of Maggie’s welfare officer. Killer blow less then a year 10 months loss of mum and diagnosed with Myeloma. Mum would agree with you, very secretarive when it came to money
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I miss the old connection, the old way of thinking when it comes to money. I understood mum and she understood me. But she was very tight.
Think that generation reverts back to ration times, I know my Nana used to have three of everything terrified she ran out
Yea this country wouldn’t survive a war today, no way. But I don’t think it matters, what will be will be. The year has only just begun and the signs don’t look good already.
I got to somehow find the motivation to want to live. But I’m still struggling a little with that, if the quality of life is low with animals then the vet recommends putting the animal to sleep. Maybe us humans should have the same choice. It would be an easy way out, because living is becoming impossible. You probably need 70 k to survive. You definitely need about 2k a month to be comfortable today. I think we all worry about money, because we never really seem to have enough now. More laws are made to take that off us!
It’s the easiest way out though not living, too many young people take their own lives now and it’s so sad, there’s always something worth living for even though at times you think there isn’t. It’s harder to live on after so many losses but there isn’t another option that I’d choose.
This country is goosed though now, I’ve heard Poland is a good place to live now, without getting my comments deleted !
I think you just have to concentrate on yourself and your health, and everything else will hopefully fall into place
I think we all will have dips and the time of year is against us. I think I’m more vulnerable than others here as I don’t really have anyone. They say a problem shared is halved. I live in the same flat I shared with mum so there’s memories everywhere. It was nice to read Wethery that you have mum’s tee shirt under your pillow. Mum has a few cuddly toys one being an adorable rabbit, I thought about taking that to bed with me. Last two days I not managed to do much, I try to do something extra every day, so I’m making progress. I still got more ironing to do, but I still get stiffness in my back. I been told I’m stronger than I believe, but when you spending days upon days on your own then your mind will travel from one thing to another. Time of year is very unhelpful, dark at 4.30 every day. Tough times yeah!
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I hate today’s world for so many reasons. It doesn’t surprise me that young people are contemplating suicide today. They get bullied 24,7 now via social media. A teacher once told me it’s not like it was when we was at school, the pressures of today’s world on them. You can’t do anything no more everything is a crime today, even communication. Vile people in fancy dress are just waiting for a opportunity to hurt you. That’s today’s world for you, only thing that hasn’t changed is sport and the bands we grew up with are still touring and bringing the fans together. Everything else is just a complete cesspool of rot and vile. I can’t see it getting any better either as the people we gave power to are clueless and won’t take responsibility for their actions. But probably will push the country more into the cesspool. Then there’s me trapped between grief, isolation, and Myeloma. There’s another meeting at Maggie’s on Thursday, not sure if I go as of yet.
Social media has a lot to answer for and these silly filters they use too now, girls have such a hard time, when I was growing up we didn’t wear makeup for school now they get their lashes done and false nails !
I wouldn’t say I’m particularly old fashioned either I’m a70’s baby, my parents were very much smoke growing hippies but no one stabbed each other then over menial things.
We have a government now that is too scared to upset certain ones then get justice for victims. It’s a pathetic country now, poor 14yr old stabbed to death on a bus in London, makes me so mad that nothing gets done. But the mayors knighted In the meantime.
That’s why i try to concentrate on my own mental health now that’s hard enough without having to worry about other things
Ive got first counselling tomorrow was debating cancelling but I’ve decided it’s for my own good to go, I think you should go to maggies too, you definitely need the support with what you have going on and it’s nice to know that people care too and not everyone is selfish