i am doing a solo trip in january,its that or not go,im going to a familiar much liked hotel “people of a certain age”and many who travel alone,i hav e been way with girl friends in the lt year,but aware i have “off days”which are not always understood,so maybe a solo trip will be the answer…..watch this space . not been to goa for decades,i loved it x
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Im having a couple of days away in January for my husbands anniversary. Think I need me time .
Bit nervous
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JAH25
Yes and i go xmas eve for 5 days with my eldest son to Lanzarote we cannot face being here this year , new years day is just another day to me , we need to start a grief travelling group at least we know truly how one another are feeling because others that have not experienced it certainly don’t !
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Sounds good! I wonder if I will ever get to Goa. We always went long haul in January. I am going to get Christmas over as my two sons and partners are coming to stay, and as one lives abroad it will be good to see him. My best friend lives in Pensacola quite near to New Orleans which I love and said I can stay with her as long as I want. Maybe I will next year.She was my bridesmaid many years ago.Not up to it at the moment so she is coming to UK in December. Just want to try to make the most of what time I have left xx
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Today sounds like a more positive 1 for us all .
Ive got my neices wedding next week .
Hope i don’t pay for the good day today ..tomorrow 
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JAH25
You wont and i am volunteering tomorrow at the hospice with really nice people keep positive and lets hope for calmer seas
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Manb this sounds very much like me. I have just booked a last minute short holiday on my own to a hotel we used to go to in Spain - older people and safe for solos. It took me weeks to decide whether to do it or not and I’m very apprehensive about it. My husband died in January. I am hoping it will lift my spirits and boost my confidence as the thought of Christmas is already dragging me down
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Hope it goes well ..let us know x
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@Easter ,well done,yes,its a confidence booster,and that is what i needed,im quite excited,bought some new clothes…not that i needed,but what the heck,life going forward is about ME, as for christmas,this is my 2nd chrismas without adrian,but im at my families,the boys (11 and 9)take away the gloom. but i could easily let it pass me by,bit difficult when the jingles are on the tv and supermarkets. roll on 11th jan,and lanzarote!
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@cloudsky,well done,such positivity,its good to read that on here,its a boost to all,a reminder that our lives can go on,albeit very very different,x
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@JAH25 yes,nice we are talking about “better” things,bits of positivity,lets be honest there will be crashes,i did last night,tears from nowhere,but i was overtired…x
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@JAH25 apparently there is such a thing…i think somebody mentioned it on here,local groups(yes,even down here in cornwall)where you can go out/travel.
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I think we will always cry , but being positive and looking for brighter days helps.
Sometimes I felt like leaving the group cos I’ve been so sad ,and reading sad things doesn’t help.but positive words help more .
Probably be different tomorrow 
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Well I did think this talk of holidays did strike a different note which some will be ready for or somemay really need that step
It puts it on the agenda so to speak 
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@JAH25 i did take a back seat for a week or two,i had so much help from here earlier this year,but i too was feeling sadder by reading sad things,i wasnt a
@JAH25 i took a break from here for a few weeks recently,i had so much comfort from this forum earlier in the year,but i found sad stories were making me sadder just as i thought i was starting to feel more positive about life,i wasnt sure that my positivity was always helping others who continue to struggle,now after a break i find that there are a few of us sending +ve stories .@Redsquirril25 as you say maybe good to add to the agenda.
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@manb @JAH25 I also stayed away from here for a while. I do have more positive days but I think about 2 weeks ago I sat and cried for hours watching the new Bridget Jones movie. But I have just cut my grass for the last time this year, never done it in my life , John always did it. Am now off to get food at Tesco. Love driving my car. Cruse have just called me I contacted them months ago when I was in a real bad state. Apparently I have been assigned a councilor and am still going ahead with it. I just keep going that’s all I can do x
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Hi all just come back from the hospice donations centre 2nd shift great bunch of people and so are the people donating there are good people in this world after all and its a-really good tonic for the day as for the holiday group lets take over a small island somewhere like Malta or Crete theres surely enough of us ha ha have a good day all
@Cloudysky well done,i would cut the grass,but i dont have a mower,i thought about getting one just as therapy rather than paying somebody,now the cutting season is over,maybe something to think about. as for cars,i rarely drove when adrian was alive,he loved driving,he said it was the only thing left that was he was in control of,and at 79 he was still a good driver,now its up to me,i dont go far,but i quite enjoy it,i feel in control and quite confident,getting confidence back is all part of the “new us” and yesterday for the first time in 13 months i enjoyed wandering around the supermarket, as for tears,the tv has a lot to answer for,i watch far too much,but look at the weather,its sort of “company” now its dark afternoons. i love to read,especially crime,but concentration poor. hope the cruse help,but it sounds like you already have the right attitude to help you on this rocky road
you are sounding much brighter andy,being out at the hospice is helping,another positive story on this forum today. watching the rain lashing against the window,an island takeover sounds just the ticket!!!
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like it !!
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