Yes let’s hope so enjoy yourself in the 
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@manb im doing a solo holiday with a friend i met on this site in spain in june. She does them regularly, im very anxious but I have to try new things x
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Hi Brummy,
I will be thinking about you tomorrow. I hope you managed your shopping today.
Take care.
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wow,good for you,i have been twice with friends in the last year,but im going on my own this time,i have flown on my own lots of times,long haul too, but never been to hotel on my own, this one being familiar and with clients “of a cerain age”i will feel secure…i hope,let you know in 8 days!!
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hi Nightwish1
I hope you have managed today ok?i went to Asda today as Tesco is closed until mid march for refurbishment.They have a Tesco Extra in town but everythings more expensive, they say they have higher overheads being a smaller store.Its been another hard day, i think weekends are so hard for many of us on here.Thank you for thinking of me, it means a lot to me.Take care.
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Brummy,
I hope you have managed today.
Take care.
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Nightwish1
Thank you for thinking of me, its been another hard day.So much to worry about now with all the responsibities.I will have to get a new will done sometime so much to think about with that and power of attorney too.I miss my dear wife so much, she was so loving, kind and caring and gentle, she did everything for me, the best wife i could ever have wished for.I still cant believe this has happened, it seems like an ongoing bad dream but somehow with the help of yourself and all the kind understanding people on her i have got this far.It really is a struggle and a rollercoaster, just as i think ive got though a day the tears flow.Bedtime i find so hard.
I hope you are ok?
Take care.
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Brummy,
It is hard , the person you could sit down with and talk to and help us make decisions is no longer here. I have been going to make a new will since Sue went ahead, but I can’t decide on it. The only thing I have properly sorted out is my funeral. So I know we will be scattered together on her favourite beach. Remember there is no time line on grief, we just do what we can, when we can.
Take care.
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Just want to say that by posting on here you are helping yourself and others. I am quite a shy person and my husband Nigel was more confident and was a constant support to me. To be able to read that other people feel all the pain just as I do makes me feel stronger and able to share with all the kind and caring people on this awful journey that we are all struggling with. Take care and thank you for all your sharing.
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Nightwish1
Its so true what you said.The person you could sit down with and talk to and help us make decisions is no longer here.It really breaks my heart.I talk to her all the time saying “i hope i am doing the correct thing”All the worries and responsibilties can be so overbearing now its just me to sort everything out.Thank you for mentioning the funeral, thats something i will have to sort out.We will be buried together in the village churchyard here,it wasnt our first choice as the cemetery where we both used to live is now full for double plots only accepting single plots and we want to be together, we promised each other we willbe together.we didnt want anything to seperate us even dying.That is so nice that you will be scattered together on your favourite beach.My dear wife and i loved beaches and the coast.Bamburgh we really liked.You are so right there is no timeline on grief , we just have to try and do what we can when you can.You just never know when the tears will hit you again, just as you think youre not doing too bad the tears flow again.
Take care.
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Well I’m a bit taken aback but perhaps I shouldn’t be
A childhood friend didn’t contact at Christmas and I feared illness or worse especially as I had put a letter inside saying that I had lost my husband Paul
I waited and then sent a careful text today saying I hope they are alright
Just had a text back saying
Oh sorry to hear your news at Christmas and hope family are looking after you —- we’re fine blah blah ———must get back to washing up
Can’t believe it We just don’t count anymore
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Its shocking how people are isnt it .
I had an old friend visit before funeral, she was really nice .after funeral i said i would be in touch wen i felt like meeting up .got a card at christmas just telling me her grandchildren news hardly asked how i was .so i cant see me getting in touch.
It leaves you speechless doesnt it x
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My John introduced Bamburgh beach to me in 2023 and I fell in love with the coastline just like he had years ago. It is so so beautiful.
He’d wanted to move there but if he had I would not have met him so I’m so very grateful he didn’t.
If he had though I wouldn’t be going through all this heartache and sadness.
If I had the chance I’d do it all again though because he was/is worth all I’m going through.
Love is beautiful but it’s also very cruel when your heart is broken..
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I’m shocked by your friends callous and nonchalant way of treating you in your bereavement and so sorry you are left reeling.
I just can’t believe it ended with ‘ must get back to washing up ‘
Not even a phone call where she could actually speak instead of texting.
Some people just have no empathy. Thank goodness we all do on here..
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Totally speechless
I can’t bring myself to answer
I just couldn’t tell one more person in the summer
It’s a matter of trying to keep my head above water these last few months especially after looking after Paul night and day
It’s a mixture of reality which is some new strange existence and doing things like going out as if nothing has happened 
Thank you for replying and understanding
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That is so shocking. I wonder how she would cope in your situation, people just dont understand the pain we are in or the pain they cause by their actions. Their life goes on ours doesn’t.
Sending hugs
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Yes only our community get it - like some of those weird over the top Christmas wishes
Hope you can keep warm and dry today xx
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I’m three and a half months down from my partner’s sudden death. We met at work in 1987, became an item shortly after. My biggest regret is that we didn’t get married and have kids but we were together for almost 40 years. He enriched my life and although we had our ups and downs, health scares etc I’m so glad to have been in his life. I feel his loss deeply, my heart will never mend. This is a really bad day for me.
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So sorry to hear that you are having a particularly bad day. It is very early days for you. We are all living life on a rollercoaster as we try to get from one day to the next without any real incentive to do so. I find that by knowing that my dear Nigel will never have to go through this awful time in our lives a comfort to me.
I believe that you will find everybody on here very understanding and supportive as only those who have walked in our shoes can possibly be.
Take care of yourself and well done for expressing yourself so well.
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dear Norma it such a hard time having to live with grieving It’s still so raw for you and on SR we are all trying to get to grips as best we can with this painful new life We write on here when we just need to let someone know how we feel be it a bad day or an encouraging moment Someone on here has always responded to a cry from the heart and it’s good to read that we are not alone as we struggle along xx
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