@Heather56 No. Can’t figure it out yet. Try again tomorrow unless anyone else cracks it first. Love xx
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@ everyone
Thank you all for your lovely messages. I really have been falling apart and it seems to get worse every day. I will stay on the platform and try to benefit from the fact that we all feel bloody awful and we all share the same grief in different ways. Just wish we could share in person. Even then we can’t get back the one thing we all want - our beloved ones xxxx
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@Heather56 - bless you. I lost my mum at 16 and my Dad when I was 36. To lose all 3 of your loved in a short space of time is awful and my heart aches for you. I may not be far from you as I am in Rutland.
I admire your strength in your grief and send you oodles of love. It must be very difficult to deal with all of that. I always had masses of strength and confidence myself in abundance but not anymore, although I haven’t stopped organising and planning since my loss. I now feel like an empty husk that will never be full again.
Thinking of you Heather 
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@Charm
So pleased you are staying. We wil support you any way we can.
It is such a hard time , it really is but support is here.
Take care and big hugs xx
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Thank you so much that really is how I feel Yes we are not far away and do not leave! x
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Love and hunger hugs to you xxxx
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That should have read huge not hunger. Must be thinking of crème eggs again xxx
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I’m sending a dove to Heaven
with a parcel on its wings
Be careful when you open it it’s full of beautiful things.
Inside are a million kisses wrapped up in a million hugs
To say how much I miss you and to send you all my love.
I hold you close within my heart and there you will remain
To walk with me throughout my life until me meet again.
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Hello Horseman,
Greediness is so sad. You have looked after your father for 4 years and you should be given enough time at your home. This is all we need, especially if we have to go through a sad time like ours.
Reading through anybodys messages on here really helps me more than talking to friends who have not had to go through the same as we have.
Sending love
ROSE 6
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@Sulane
That’s lovely, thank you for sharing it.
@Charm , I’m so pleased you are staying with us and simply love the cream egg thoughts. 
Karen xxx
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Thank you Lonely odd as I never use copy and paste will have to post from my other laptop as it is annoying x
@KarenF more than just a thought. I have unfortunately eaten dozens of the sods since my darling Robin xxx
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Charm
Glad you are staying on this site , since I lost my wife in July I have found so much ,Understanding ,and Support on here ,The best people to talk to are the ones who are going through it
steve xx
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Oh yes, this: ‘Come on, get on with it, you’ve got a life to lead etc. etc.’ is purgatory. It’s actually all about them, the ones that come out with these ridiculous remarks. They want you to be ‘normal’ so they don’t feel uncomfortable round you. They mean well enough but simply (as we didn’t before our loss) they have no idea the terrible, hollow, numbness that envelopes you when your life long partner dies. I hope I never implied to my grieving friends that the major part of their life was over, and they needed to pull themselves together and stop feeling sorry for themselves. I know now what it feels like now. One feeling that I could happily go without.
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BigL
my so called friend numbers are starting to dwindle I’ve had many comments But now I am learning to ignore and walk away
steve
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Hi bussteve1,
I know the feeling. During the time just before the funeral I had so many text messages asking all sorts and people wanting to know what was happening etc. Now all quiet. It is like people have switched off and only wanted to know what was going on .Anyone who I have met have not even mentioned my mum and i am stunned to be honest.
I have kept to myself since mum passed last Dec and hardly gone out except to go to mums house to start sorting . It is too painful putting up with people. I have also bought a new mobile phone and am going to be really choosy who has my number Cant be doing with some people anymore
Hope you are okish
Deborah x
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seychelles
since my wife passed in July I’ve had to try and adapt to a major change in life being a carer for her over the last five years and work full time has now taken a toll on my own health being a carer for her and now i question myself why can’t I look after myself ,I now choose who i talk to or don’t my life is as it is
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All I can say is thank goodness for this site. We are here for each other, when we feel strong to offer support & when we don’t to receive the support!
We are all on this journey, that we never dreamt we’d be on, we are at sea, not all in the same boat , but we are there to help and support those that are in rougher seas than we are at that moment time. Big hug and much love to you all xxx
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we can all see the ripples on the water above But very few can see the under current below
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Hello seychelles, I have a couple of ex friends like that. First they want to know what happened and then they want to tell you what you should do. Later, they just get bored and stay away. (Well, they are just fair-weather friends.) - I have made some new friends now, but they are different. They have also lost someone, and we meet in the park together with their dogs. - I have also joined a local bereavement group, and I sometimes go for a walk with one of them. She, her dog and I walk on the beach together.
Have you ever tried to join a local bereavement group? - Nick
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