I have streamed amm the photos I found onto my phone. I don’t know why I do it as it only makes me cry looking at it but can’t help it. I kept a diary and look up the same day different years ago. I used to read it out to him. I wish I had more videos. I remember when we were young and carefree. When we used to laugh and joke. Doing mad things. And when the ch
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Good morning @Lonely, I remember seeing that film way back in the 80s, when I lived in London. I would love to try and watch it again but I may end up flooding the room! 
Another one that I wouldn’t be able to watch again is “Heaven can wait” with Warren Beatty, my husband loved that film, we watched it together more than once, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to watch that one again:pensive:.
Sorry, that last word is an error, I don’t know how that got there🤔.
Hi lonely and everyone .Talking about old films i dont remember the name but i think it was william holden and Jennifer Jones love is a many splendered thing?
That film always made me cry .xxx
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Yes lonely the song is beautiful ive seen i always cried at the end when that song comes on .what a sad story your mum couldnt be with him but for him to say that ,his last words to her so special .my partner Grey was a real romantic we were together 17 years he wrote me poertry all the time and he wrote me a letter and gave it to his friend to give me after he died it was beautiful .He would say he loved the bones of me bless him im in tears now .How did your day go with your family good i hope love hope 5 xxx
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Hi lonely Ive lost my mam at 19 that was devastating my father when i was 38 no siblings and so an adult orphan. So we think we know what grief feels like .This is pain like no other its a constant ache and yearning for our soul mate .And i think its something you dont get over at all just gets a bit better in time . The lonliness is for me the worst thing and im sure il.always be lonely for him he was my life .But i think what doasnt kill you makes you stronger and we all will get strongereventually .people who havnt lost their oh carnt possibly know what this feels like .Its just 8 weeks for me but i do.know i have to go on and make this a life of purpose and just not s life of just existing .we all deserve happiness and love im trying to learn how to love myself a bit more take care xxx
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I think.when we live alone spend to much time alone we have to much time on our hands and these negative thoughts creep.in .Our mind is our worst enemy .Just remember you have made it 8 years on your own you sound to me a strong independent woman we are all here for you one big family dont forget that not forgetting your dear friend who.you are on a trip.to o2 with good luck hope you get there and back in one piece love hope5xxx
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I tell my daughter how I feel when low or lonely. Fortunately I go out quite a lot but the emptiness when you get home is unreal. I don’t want sympathy or being told it will get better. If any ones asks how I am I tell them even if they’re being polite by asking. Don’t mask Your feelings it only makes it worse. Good luck to everyone on this fantastic site
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Oh you do make me laugh a day of reprieve not sure if thats the right word tho .You no what lonely im on the same paige has you and lots of others on this site i.now know i have one true friend who has been there for me and i just got sick of the ones who talk the talk but dont walk the walk .Im done with them id rather be on my own than ever rely on them you hered that saying .Some friends are here for a reason some for a season and some forever .My daughter who i had words with last month says she will take me on a holiday next year but i wont hold my breath on that one .id be wary of this friend whos just popped up.But do what you want lonely its how you feel . We have your back.xxx
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I completely understand where you are coming from with your fairweather friend. My so-called best friend came to Paul’s funeral in December 2020 and said she was ‘there’ for me any time. I have heard from her twice and met her and her husband, who was Paul’s best friend, accidentally in town and I know I would feel exactly the same as you do now about your fairweather friend if she wanted to carry on our friendship. We really do not need such people in our lives. I appreciate the family and friends I now have and I do hope everyone else has the support they need.
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@Lonely I don’t think I would meet up with the friend who wasn’t there for you when you needed her. Nine years is a long time to not contact someone who has lost her husband and looked after him for 9 years. It sounds like she needs you now because her husband is poorly but where was she when you needed her. Obviously it is up to you and if you do meet up with her then I would tell her how upset you felt when she wasn’t there for you. Big hugs xx
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I think carol and Hazel.are spot on tbh .If she had cared she wouldnt have blanked you for years .Although we have had a little moan about your friend (02 friend ) she is probably much more genuine .Ive just spent ages on the phone to virgin media to.get my monthly bill.reduced ,they wont budge cos im in a contract .Grey always sorted all these things for me .I miss that man so much .I even broke down on the phone when i told him he had died 8 weeks ago .I cry when i go to the supermarket too .Take care love hope 5bxx
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Hi hope I am so sorry that you are struggling. It is horrible when you speak to a company that won’t help you either and you have to explain why you are ringing which makes it so raw. Did you manage to speak to virgin media bereavement team?!. I spoke to EE bereavement team and they were very helpful.
Xx
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No Hazel they never mentioned that at all .Its just bad enough we are grieving but things like this and so called people you think will.be there for you and arnt its just feels like getting kicked in the teeth over and over again .xxx
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Hi @Hope5 yes it is terrible that friends who you thought would be there for you are not.
What I find hard is that friends who came to our 25th wedding anniversary and to my husband funeral and you don’t hear from them again. This has made me so angry though I do have some very good friends.
The virgin media bereavement team phone number is 0800 952 2302 if any help
Big hugs xx
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Oh thankyou so much .I know its horrible .Glad you have some good friends .Ive only one i can honestly rely on my family is in ireland .I sometimes think.its the lonliness that will kill me .And the broken heart which we all have .I dont know how i would have coped without this group.Having a bad day love hope xx
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Hi @Hope5 so sorry that you are having a bad day. I am as well. I am scared of the future without my husband who suddenly died at 53 at Christmas. Like you said that the loneliness is the worst thing about this awful journey.
Have you look at U3A? It is meant to be groups and classes doing activities and hobbies for people alone. Though you most probably don’t feel like it at the moment.
Big hugs xx
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Hi lonley and Hazel.i spoke to 2 different people both said the same nothing they can do im in an18month contract So.i said im not paying more when my contract states that price and no one told me it could increase.He said all companys increased their prices in April.Isaid ok il leave cost of breaking your contract £288 seriously .Im exhausted with it all tbh done nothing but cry today .Thanks for your support ladies xx
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So sorry your having a bad day too.my partner died 8 weeks ago after fighting cancer for 15 month .its unbearable i know its too early for me to start any groups .Im waiting to start a bereavement group tho.which i need .Hope tomoro is a better day for us all xxx
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Thats excacly what i told this guy today Grey sorted this for me last october no mention of the price rises on the phone when i took out the contract and then nearly3 hundred pnd to cancel. Im fuming and i know you said you had to fight for a long time to get it sorted .You know what lonely i dont think ive any fight left in me anymore ,what with the grieving and been on my own been treat badly be so called friends who are full of promises that never happen .Ive lost all faith in people and family arnt much better what kind of world is this .we are living in .Its one let down after another sorry for the rant xxx
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