I feel the same lost my husband October 2023 don’t know what to do with myself
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Ypu eill miss her! Leaves a massive hole in your life loding that one special person … its really awful 
xx
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Whatever you write we will all have a level of understanding and compassion that those who haven’t experienced this trauma could ever know,much as they do want to.
The content of your post(s) isn’t critical or required to make sense,I often end up rambling on and sometimes feel better for it but you may well be surprised at just how much your posts help any number of people, just as theirs help you and me.
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Jen cute I am on my own and live in the South of England.
Hiya wooly i live in hull i find it so hard be in a empty house i have never been alone before xxxx
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Coming up to 11 weeks later , I am still on sleeping tablets , I hd them for the first two weeks then off and on leading to the funeral , I thought I was doing ok went back to work on a phased return , then I have my husbands estranged adult children wanting to take me to court to see what they are getting from his estate ! WHAT the children who denied him seeing his grandchildren , didn’t let their father walk them down the aisle (because their step father had more money ) hardly spoke to him in the past decade ! My Nick would be so upset if they knew what they wanted from me , and in turn I am now back on the sleeping tablets x
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Awww Jane why are ppl so ornitated about what they can get, its disgusting i think , its 2 weeks tomorrow for me and i dont sleep , i have never been alone before. Dont they realise how hard this on you. I will never understand the selfishness of some. I thought my son and daughter would have been there for me. But no i have been told they have lives, and i understand they do but i thought they would have given me a little support. I have not seen my son. He as called a couple of times but thats it. I hope you find peace. X
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I am so sorry Jane.
That is the last thing you need.
What selfish people they are.
I am sure Nick would have been very disappointed in them.
Did you write in a previous post that you were going to let a solicitor deal with it?
It could have been someone else as sadly there are some awful people who appear after a bereavement.
It could be that threatening court action is a tactic rather than an intention.
Either way, it is very cruel.
Sending you a very big hug.
We are all here for you.
Lots of love,
Rose 
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Jane that must be really hard
All my girls keep doing is asking for money I don’t think kids have a clue what we go though when we loss are soulmate
Take care thinking off you c
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Dear Jane
I’m so sorry for all the trouble Nicks children are causing you.
I think a solicitors letter would maybe help.
They can’t have a leg to stand on, I think they are threatening court to make you give in.
Be strong Jane and stand up to them
Were all here to support you
Love and hugs
Liz x
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Hi Jane,you have all my sympathy,I have been in a very similar situation and it’s so upsetting on top of everything and when your at your most vulnerable.In my case his estranged son tried to contest the will as everything was in my favour we had been together 38 years but never married so the son claimed he was next of kin and wanted half of my house and all the money.The solicitor was the executor of the Will and told him he didn’t have a led to stand on that’s 10 months ago and still prays on my mind.
I agree with you there ! I dont think our kids have a clue either xxx
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Ah … let em crack on because if he did a Will there’s bog all they can do about it ! And if he didnt and youre his wife … theres bog all they can do about it either !!! Been there, done that, worn the t-shirt !!! Xxx
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I am so sorry you have to face this horribleness during the time like this. 11 weeks still so raw and you need to be able grieve as well as deal with all the essential practical matters etc… An old saying “MONEY IS THE ROUTE OF ALL EVEL”…it is so true!
Sending strength and best wishes x
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Glad you “won the T shirt “ I hope to as well ,although it just saddens me that his 3 children who didn’t bother with him and cut him out of precious family events now feel he owes them ! He owes them nothing not even an explanation x
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Isn’t it just ! Money is the root of all evil “! I had to go to the bank to set up some accounts and sort nicks money out and I actually broke down just a few days ago in there , I said I felt “dirty “ talking about Nicks money like that and I would rather have him than to be in a position Sat discussing his money !! X
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It’s so difficult isn’t it , and I really don’t think people understand my family are in Liverpool and I am in Devon , I have one son age 28 I don’t think people get what it’s like to really like when your soul mate is taken away x
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No he doesnt ! But yeh similar situation with my husbands pension … wont go into details … but you hear about it all the time p3eople arguing over money ! Its not right though is it when they done nothing to help or even be kind … people are really awful sometimes … i think you don’t realise how bad people can be. So hurtful isnt it ? X
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Its one of those experiences in life that you cannot really appreciate the effect until it happens to you. Miss my wife so very much. I feel so guilty for taking her presence for granted when we wrre together.
And so sorry to hear about your family issues.
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Yes I have solicitor that was me , and yes he is dealing with it , but it’s just the fact they are trying to do this WHY? Poor Nick he was such a nice man x
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