Yeh charming isnt it ! Nice to know we are so irrelevant … although one of my daughters has been pretty good tbh… shes a good girl … shes like her dad !!! My eldest daughter is coming around too … slowly. I think a bereavment completely messes with dynamics of a family tbh 
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Bless you all and as much as i appreciate they have lives but wouldnt it be nice if they showed they csred a little. I would give anything to have my life back 2 weeks today. Xxx
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Yep - feeling that way myself today.
Was out for a lovely walk with the dog and 2 youngest and just kept wondering what the point of all this is now.
Feel like I have absolutely no purpose and really like I don’t care about anything - money, clothes, food, holidays, work ……
( apart from my kids of course - but they need to grow and live their own lives)
Sending hugs xxx
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It’s 20 months today I lost my husband. We met at 18 and we’re married 74 yrs, I m 75 now and cry sometimes every day and no one would ever be like my husband so don’t think I d want anyone else. I ve got 2 daughters and 2 granddaughters still at school. I don’t like mornings or light nights, I do and know I shouldn’t feel jealous of couples doing things together, we had a caravan in Norfolk which we stored there and would go for several days each spring, summer and autumn we had the usual routine when we were there. When the lighter nights were here my husband would sit outside with a drink and would watch the different birds flying around, I would often sit inside watching the TV and regret I didn’t sit outside with him and now it’s too late.
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I feel the same when I see couples having fun or holding hand
I think there must be a few of us that wish we had done things that we didn’t
I’m sorry for your loss take clear x
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Oh yes so hard to see couples ! I hate them tbh xx
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When my partner and I met in December’23, so were both so happy to be a couple again, as both of us had failed marriages previously, and missed that. We both thought we had found our soulmate too and enjoyed the security of being in a loving relationship.
Oh how I would love a chilled night in watching tv or a couple of drinks in the pub and talking to random people and having a laugh, as we often used to do.
Sending love to all enduring this unrelenting grief journey that we are on. Xx
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I know just what you are going through. When I met Jeremy we were both widowed and were amazed and so very grateful to find each other. Neither of us wanted or expected to find love again, but it just happened. I thanked God every day for our new life together. Unfortunately he was taken from me by the same lousy circumstances that took my first husband - sudden cardiac arrest.
I can’t help but feel like I am being punished. My son says I should consider myself doubly lucky to have had two such good men and I know that is true. But in my darkest hours I really don’t feel lucky.
I miss him every hour of every day. Probably sounds weird but I still miss my first husband equally. Xx
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Thank you . Hugs are precious and very welcome. Somehow I came to terms with once before and I am determined to do it again. Somehow.
I wish strength and love to everyone walking the same path.
Xx
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You have been so lucky to have found love twice - even though the pain must be so hard. Try not to think you have been punished - loving both is a blessing. I can’t ever imagine being so lucky as to meet another man who I would want to share my life with.
I met my husband when I was 18, married for 31 years and I am lucky enough to say that neither of us had any regrets. We were happy and we lived our live the best we could, filled with lots of love and laughter.
Some sadness along the way, loved ones lost, but genuinely happy and content.
I have no idea if I will ever be able to cope with this loss - it feels like it gets harder every single day.
My only regret is he died so young at 56 and won’t be there to watch our children grow up. And he really didn’t want to leave us all. We just wanted to grow old together.
So sad for us all here. Sending hugs. Xx
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Yes. My first husband , Richard, was 55, I was 48.
Excuse Now I am 68, Jeremy was 69. His first wife was 59 when she died from bowel cancer. Life sucks sometimes. But it’s all we have, so we have to get on with it. After all there is no choice. Nobody gets out of this alive.
We just have to play whatever hand we are dealt. I never did like playing cards. It’s weird, I had a dream where I was playing cards with both of my husbands and the first wife of my second husband.
When I woke up the only thought in my mind was that I don’t like playing cards.
Xx
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Just so sad. Everyone just too young.
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Yes they are ! My husband was only 60 !! Its getting worse is the survival rate not bloody better ! Shows you how crap.our NHS is if you ask me !!
I do know where you are coming from.
That’s just how I feel.
I really thought my boys would be there for me but it turns out I’m not a priority for them.
Their dad would have been so hurt if he’d known that they weren’t going to support me when he’d gone.
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I know that feeling so well. I have a daughter and a son but they are very cold . I will never understand people x
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I am with you on that one, my daughter and son in law promised my husband they would be there for me, my daughter phones me most nights for about 10 minutes , telling me how she is, but in the last 2 years she has been round to my house about 5 times in the last 2 years.
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Morning Daen, i really thought i would have had more support but i am here very much alone. It bloody hurts doent it… xx
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Yes the grief is unrelenting. There are brief times when I feel slightly back to normal but things will never be the same.
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