Oh my how much more is going to happen to you before you are allowed to grieve in peace, its shocking how some members of families behave when someone dies, just out for what they can get, I do hope you get it all sorted soon xxx
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Wow you have had a good day, lets hope you have many more, its nice to hear some good news for a change xxx
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That sounds like a plan, I don’t drive so would need to get a bus, but I am old enough to travel alone 
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My eyes are not too good I’m going everywhere on the bus just now. The first few weeks I jumped on a bus every day to get out the house, it was my way of coping, I’m getting very good with buses. Tomorrow I’m doing what peaches said, I’m going to put my tree up, maybe some brightness will change my luck 
Best wishes xx
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Georgi, it’s pouring and very windy outside down here, I’d rather have some snow. Went to see my sister last weekend and it was heavy snow, she is not far from Stirling, thought I was going to get snowed in. Just off to toss and turn in bed now for a few hours lol. Maybe I will get some sleep, who knows. Take care xx
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Lizzy, wow. Money grubbing kids. Can they renounce that inheritance in your favor? Not that they would but a decent human being would.
Everything in the estate is valued at the date of death.
Had a moment when I walked across the street to judge the new door color, and instead I focused on our cars, parked side-by-side, and it hit me that my husband will never drive his SUV again. He loved it. Came inside and talked myself back up.
Made wreaths for the gates and doors, got out the Christmas glasses. Hung more “found”’ ornaments on the tree. Fed everybody around here, walked the dog for a minute. Doing laundry after my visitor.
Slogging along. Not as bad as it has been, probably because the painters are almost finished and I look forward to them being gone. They are nice people, but it has been 5 weeks. They have to go.
That and 3 days of company keeping me busy.
Lizzy, I really feel for you. It is so not fair. You are the spouse that made it possible to buy that home, pay for those policies, save money, etc., they did nothing for 40 years. Pitiful!
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Peaches, life is all so unfair at the moment, today is another day, I just hope they now regret not having a wonderful father in their lives, he was also the best grandpa to my grandchildren. Today I’m getting up and putting my tree up, there will be some happiness in this sad house today. Thanks for all the encouragement, it wouldn’t have happened without you. Take care xxx🤗
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Peaches, my tree is up, the tacky star my husband bought last year is flashing away. Today I phoned the Insurance company about that policy and they assured me that the type of policy it was it had to go to the estate which means the bitch and her brother will get a third of it. Gutted but I didn’t cry, what will be will be. There is nothing more that can hurt me now, she can’t take my house even if I die, at least that’s something. Need to get my Will sorted out soon though. I won’t be a rich Merry Widow but I will manage. Thanks for your encouragement, I really appreciate it. Hope you are coping ok today xx
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Lizzy, I sure am sorry about this. Well, since there is nothing you can do about these 2 interloping greedy offspring, you have to make Plan B which is one without all of the money you thought you would have. It will still be alright. If God brings you to it, God will bring you through it.
Doesn’t the tree make you feel good - a little? It is a symbol that life really does go on, no matter what.
I am coping pretty well. Still scattered thoughts, a little numb, sad, and lonely. Last night I realized I am mourning for myself because i am left alone. My husband is happy, in Heaven, in eternal joy, and there is nothing sad about that.
My homeowner’s insurance bill came. $18,000.00. For one year ! We’ve never made a claim in the 24 years we lived here. The property tax bill came too. $7,000.00. So it cost me a bit over $2K per month to live in a house we own outright before turning on the lights. It is maddening.
While my friend was here, she got my Roomba to work, so now it vacuums several times a day and helps me keep up with the dog hair and dirt he trails inside. Another good thing.
Today is laundry, cleaning up from the fun weekend and grocery shopping. Don’t be jealous. 
Much love to all.
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Peaches I envy you your faith. It must be a great comfort. My early tears were pure self pity. I was in panic mode and I couldn’t even remember anything about my husband. I felt he was totally absent from my heart and I was bereft. Once things started to sink in he came back to me and I could feel love again, but more importantly I could still feel his love. Now my sadness is more on the things he missed. I’m still missing him like mad though and there is still some self pity there.
Last night I got overwhelmed again and really wished I could join him. I then thought of our 3 boys and how they would feel if I died too. Two have families and would cope, but my youngest lives alone and took his dad’s death hard. I then felt energised as I had a good reason to carry on. I need to see my youngest find someone so he can experience the joy of being in love. If I could see him settled then I could die happy.
You must be high risk for insurance that high. Mines about £400. In the UK if you live alone you get 25% discount on council tax, which is what we pay on our properties. I pay less than £2k.
Oh and good news his pension people called today. They wanted a copy of the will then they can sort it out as early as next week. A step forward at least.
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I have had a bloody horrible week. Then my daughter sent a picture of my grandson. He is a free spirit and likes being naked x
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Wow that is a lot to pay out a month, its terrible, I detest insurance companies, they charge an arm and a leg and more often then not we never make a claim, to them its money for nothing most of the time 
But we have to be thankful for small mercies. At least we don’t have to pay a mortgage too xxx
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I’m hoping to put my tree up 2moro, today was hectic I had my 9 mth old grandson from 06.30, I usually get up before he comes to get dressed, tidy up and have the heating on but I didn’t wake till 6.30, I usually have him till about 2 but today it was till 5, fair to say I am shattered and no chance of putting my tree up lol!
I need to clean the house 2moro cause I have not done much this last wk between watching Alfie and visiting my friends, can’t put up a tree in a dirty house my mother would be mortified if shes looking down on me !
Hope everyone on here is doing ok today, sending hugs to all xxx
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Hi everyone, think we have all had a very mixed week, good and bad. I’ve just found our house insurance as I went through everything the first few weeks as I was worried with the weather being bad and damage to the house. My lawyer also wanted to see it, no idea why. This is the first day I’ve stayed in all day waiting for a delivery that never came. Only cried twice feeling sorry for myself, actually changed my bedding, which I’ve been putting off, never washed his pillow though. Keeping that. That’s the Christmas duvet on. The house feels cheerier with the tree up and lights all around my porch. My husband loved having the lights on so I did it for him. I will probably have to stay in tomorrow again for this delivery as it’s alcohol I need to sign for it. Not sure how I will cope with being in all day tomorrow though. Hugs to everyone xx🤗
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I felt like that too in the early months, would’ve been quite happy to join my husband at the time but knew I couldn’t put my kids & grandkids through that, they suffered enough losing their Dad/ Granddad xx
Take care xxx
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Hope you are ok now, I’ve had more bad days than good so far, but today was ok and I got a lot done. I’m so tired today and I’ve not been over the door. Just hope I sleep when I get to bed xx
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Yeh we had a safe with all sorts of paper work in, much of it out of date and needed binned, I saw a type of folder online with different sized pockets and labels so a spent a couple of hrs going through it all and putting it in order in the different pockets and an index at the front with what was in each pocket, better for my family to deal with when I die. I was the one who dealt with the paperwork so knew where everything was when my husband passed, though he would’ve found it hard if I had gone first xx
Take care everyone xxx
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I am very impressed with your stamina with your grandchild. I’ve just agreed to have 2 of my grandchildren on Sunday aged 5 and 2. Only had the 5 year old for an hour on my own once. When they visit I’m exhausted by the time they leave. I’m sure I’ll survive, and more importantly so will they. I think one of my other sons and his wife and baby will come to lend a hand at some point. I’m going to need it.
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Debsie, I’ve also had these thoughts quite a few times, then I’ve thought about my children and grandchildren and I would not put them through what I’m going through. My grandson phones me every morning to ask if I’m ok. He loved his Grandpa so much and I was there when his mum told him he had died, it was heartbreaking, I was still in shock with what happened. They are what’s keeping me going. We will all get through this and will keep supporting everyone who needs it. Take care xxx🤗
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It is just so lonely. Life has changed so much. It all goes in an instant. Everything that was familiar, safe and dependable is no more. I need to get into the routine of the present and the future. Sadly I don’t want to but I must x
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