Such sad news Peaches, we live in a terrible world its quite scary, so sorry for your friends loss xxx
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I have everything crossed that it all goes smoothly for you Lizzy, take care and have some fun with the family while your there xxx
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Well done Nigel xxx
Sorry everyone Ive been awol again yesterday, yes you guessed babysitting it was tiring he’s getting into things that he had no interest in before so its eyes in back of your head time now!
Then my neighbour came down early evening for advice on something and stayed till after 9, so too tired to chat on here, I must’ve been overtired tho cause I had a rubbish sleep last night considering I was shattered, ah well thats life I guess!
Think I have caught up on all the messages from yesterday xxx
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Just looking at the weather looks good until Sunday nice .
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Debsie when we were younger we often went to auctions my husband loved old clocks, he once bought an old bureau, it was a mess, I told him thats not coming in the house, but he stripped it, french polished it and with new handles it was an amazing transformation( bearing in mind he had never done anything like that before) I loved it and had to eat my words, had it for years till one time we moved home and had no room for it in the new house xxx
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OMG imagine that happening Nigel, how embarrassing would that be xxx
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Yeh Barbarap same here, cold, dull and miserable after a few days of lovely sunshine, it back to reality again, just when I’m free to go out the weather lets me down 
xxx
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OK, so the task now is to go from this:
to this:
before I can really cut the titles to go round the back and left hand side - without breaking any hopefully. (Still some adjustment to these ones too, so that they fit nice and square with neat 7mm wide grout joints!)
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Angle Grinder ?
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Most of the tiles I can score and cut with a manual tile cutter, but the long sides won’t fit in that so I’ll use my electric tile cutter. That’s more accurate than an angle grinder, though I do have one of those in case. The actual cutting is probably the easy bit, it’ll be the measuring and fitting that might be fun! I’ll need to let the other tiles set first in case I crack one getting to the back and side! I also don’t want to remove the units - big job due to welded plastic piping. Steady and slow - that’s the answer I think.
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Your doing a grand job Nigel xxx
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Slowly but surely Georgi. All bar one tile cut to size/shape, paving and rockery weeded, all except a bit near the grass. Grass cutting tomorrow morning!
Was just wondering how your grandson is Georgi, as I was lighting a candle in the hall by the statue?
Just going on a WhatsApp video with some friends from Canterbury.
Much love. Nigel xxxx
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Hope it all went to plan Nigel. I have been busy today. After my supermarket shop I walked into town and looked at the auction lots. Lots of toy cars this week.
After I had lunch I washed both cars and did some work in the garden. My spotted laurel seems to be dying so I performed major surgery in the hope that it will recover. Fingers crossed. Motorbike man has said he has chased the dealers for a collection date and the woman with the stray kittens sent me a picture of one. So that may be a step forward. I am now getting a migraine so something to eat I think and put my feet up. I hope the rest of you had a good day. I still haven’t managed to go a day without some tears I wonder if I ever will. Supermarket shopping is still a major trigger. Take care xx
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Same Debsie i alway want to cry in the supermarket it reminds me of when i shopped for the two of us and then i see couples my age together laughing and joking and it probably makes me a horrible person,but i’m so jealous of them usually come home and cry . I’ve also noticed i’m more teary when i’m tired. Hope you manage to get rid of migraine I suffer from them too xx
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Hard work Debsie but it’s all gone to plan so far. You have been busy today too, one car was enough for me to do let alone two! Pruning laurel hard shouldn’t harm it too much - mine here gets chopped to the bone every year! I know you’ll be sad to see the motorbike go but sorting that will be a step forward. Next door daughter would love a cat but she’s become allergic to them in the last few years so it looks like a dog instead.
I’m actually amazed with how well I am coping here this time! Of course there have been some difficult times and days, and tears, but it just seems so natural to be here alone - how strange is that, as even when here on my own in the past, Mary would have phoned umpteen times a day. I’ve just had a lovely hour laughing and joking with my friends from Canterbury - such genuinely good friends. There is no way we could ever have a conversation without talking about Mary, but everything turned into a wonderful memory rather than a sad one. We always went away in September as a group and we’ve agreed we all want to carry that on. This September - not sure - but it is his and my birthdays three days apart. So maybe!
I hope you can stop that migraine Debsie. 
Hopefully you will be able to do that. Shopping does make me sad, though I try to keep away from the areas with things I might have bought Mary! Hard though!
I hope you all enjoy the rest of your day and have a good evening.
Much love to you all. Nigel xxxx
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Barbarap what did it this time was a couple loading lager into the trolley. David loved a pint of lager and when I had got all my shopping I would ask if he needed anything and he would always say maybe a case of lager if it was ever in any doubt. Seeing that man putting a case of lager into a trolley just brought a lump to my throat.
Nigel I’m glad all is going well. I do hope you get to have some fun too. Let’s hope the good mood continues.
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Debsie, I must say I’ve felt the same when shopping, especially where Mary’s favourite wine is concerned. I can’t bring myself to open the one bottle here - so maybe when my family come in July will be the time for that - along with her favourite ‘bubbles’.
I’ve been invited for aperitives, next door, tomorrow afternoon. It’s the birthday of the guy there. Also going are the couple who owned that same house when we bought here in 2005 - all English. They still live very locally and own the land in front of my balcony, so I’m looking forward to an enjoyable hour or two with them all. DIY is part of my fun! It’s one of my real passions, along with the metal working, and that’s probably one reason I was so struck on this house all those years ago. Worst house, best area was out thought!
I’d love to explore this area more - something we couldn’t do before, due to Mary’s arthritis and asthma, which so restricted her. We’ll see in the summer!
I do miss her terribly, and I’m hopefully ready for any crash - but so far so good.
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I just want to say you are all doing amazing in your journeys and thank you for helping me realise that what i am going through is normal.
I have been reading your chats daily for about 4 months and didnt feel like i could comment (for one i could not keep up with you all 
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I am 20 weeks on from losing my husband and its his birthday tomorrow, its going to be a difficult day but i have plans with my daughter and granddaughter
Thank you for all your wise words over the weeks x
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Chezza. I’m so sorry you lost your husband, but glad you have joined our family here. I and I’m sure everyone is pleased to have been of some help to you over the last months. I’m so pleased you found the courage to comment today, especially with a really difficult day for you tomorrow. I’m also so glad you have support available from your daughter and granddaughter. I’m just over 20 weeks in and it is so tough in these early weeks and months. The support from others here has been invaluable to me, to help me reach the place I am at the moment. I’ve our wedding anniversary next week, and I’m sure that’s going to be as tough a day for me as tomorrow is for you.
Much love. Nigel xxxx 
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Thank you nigel, i think im one day ahead of you, darren passed on 16 nov.
I am amazed at all the sewing machines and beautiful clothes your wife has. It did make me smile about if she had gone to an auction.
My daughter is my step daughter but i dont call her that, she is mine. I have 6 adult children and 8 grandchildren so lots of support
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