Peaches I didn’t get much chance to relax as my daughter and 2 older grandchildren came for a visit in the afternoon & into the evening been a hectic day but a lovely day and certainly not lonely as is the norm now, take care xx
It is 00.24 now and I am still wide awake but then remember I worked night duty for 36 yrs so I am a night owl used to surviving on very little sleep xx
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Thought the neighbors were shooting off fireworks a bit early, but no. It was the eggs I was boiling that exploded because all the water was gone from the pot. Boom, boom, boom! Eggs bits everywhere.
Just when I thought I was doing well! Had to laugh at the mess. I did this once before when I was about 23. Knucklehead!
Shopped for groceries. So dull. Same old boring stuff when I don’t want to cook and can’t think of anything to make. However, I’ve switched from fresh vegetables to frozen so I don’t throw so much away and no chopping or washing needed. It’s a win.
Got a card from a friend I’ve known for 45 years! Wrote a long letter to send tomorrow.
Called the gift basket company, they can’t find their own butts with both hands, but have re-ordered everything at no charge to be delivered on New Year’s Eve. We’ll see.
All in a day’s work. Much love.
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Peaches thats great news about an account you didn’t know about, always a nice surprise getting unexpected news like that xxx
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Oh dear sorry to hear about your egg fiasco, its funny the things that happen when you live on your own, I blame it all on grief brain, not sure if thats strictly true but it makes me feel better 
Been a bit messy though xx
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Georgi, my husband did the same. He always locked all the doors, turned off the lights and I never had to check. He also got the mail, sent out all the bill payments and rolled the garbage bins to the street. It is different now having to remember to lock up, get the mail (which I forgot to do today), take out the bins (which I also forgot to do today) and pay the bills.
The dog and I have a routine. We go downstairs, he goes outside for a minute, I call him back in, lock the door, activate the alarm, the bell dings and he knows it is time for bed. Then he races me upstairs to jump in bed. Never thought I would let a dog get into bed with me, but here we are. For my husband it would be a hard “no”.
Getting bored with the daily monotony of being alone all the time and the Groundhog Day effect. Must concentrate on the good.
Much love.
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Morning Georgi, glad you had a nice day , I had a tv day again, just can’t motivate myself. I woke up early again, just stayed in bed, don’t have to get up then I remembered I’m having the family over tomorrow and need to cook some things today. Will need to sharpen my knives, that was hubbys job, still missing him so much. It will be nice to have a full house tomorrow but then reality hits when they all go home, I hate the loneliness. I don’t think I will ever get used to this lonely life, my own company sucks. Gosh I’m cheery this morning (not). I will get up, put some music on, maybe that will help. Have a lovely day everyone 
xx
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Haha, I’ve done the egg thing before. More then once, and would have been much more if my husband hadn’t noticed before it was too late. I now ask my smart speaker to remind me. I have to feed the neighbours cats. Terrified I will forget so again smart speaker to remind me. The problem is if I don’t act on it straight away I forget again. My husband always said that I had a terrible memory which I denied. Perhaps he was right. There is always so much going on in there. Always got my head in the clouds.
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Georgi, there were definitely pink jobs and blue jobs. I see my daughter in law and she is so independent and will try her hand at anything. I think women these days are brought up to believe in themselves that they don’t have to rely on a man. I have exceeded my own expectations on what I can do. However, the love, cuddles, etc, Cannot be replaced. The strength I have now is all down to him and all those years of him telling me how wonderful I am.
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Georgi, and others, in our house it was whoever came to bed last - often my wife after doing lots of little jobs she wanted to finish. After she died I realised that what we’d been doing every night wasn’t going to work for me on my own. We locked the multipoint lock, left the key in so that we didn’t have to find it in an emergency, and put two solid chains across. Nice and secure of course. But what now if I had a fall and couldn’t get to the door? I’d probably get to a phone, mobile or land line easily enough, or call using Alexa, but getting to the locks - not quite so easy. My wife had had a fall back in July when I was out and only managed to reach the handle and call for help to my grandson next door. She’d never have reached the top solid chain. Forced entry would have been the only way to get help to her. So in a similar situation I’d have the same issue. The only way to get in would be to break the door down - rather drastic, or break a window. So I’ve taken to still locking the multipoint, but I now put the key close by, where I can find it easily, and don’t use the solid chains at night, just with unknown visitors. I still feel safe but by children don’t feel locked out in the event of an issue where they need to get access to me.
Just a thought? Much love to all. M
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There was me thinking my brain fog/mush was lifting. Last night I left the front door wide open!! I let the dogs out and didn’t shut it. Woke up this morning and hadn’t blown the candle out. I tidy downstairs and Ruby, the naughtiest dog in my world, brings me moss, that the birds are getting out of the gutters. I clean up again, then trip over her and I am on the floor, a very undignified landing and a not very elegant/graceful standing up. X
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Marnee are you in the UK? I tried to set up Alexa to call a number in an emergency and after what seemed hours of googling found out it wasn’t available in the UK. Would be great if I could get it to work.
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Yes, I’m in the UK and just tested this by asking Alexa (which is still linked to my wife’s Amazon account) to ‘call Mary Mobile’. My wife’s phone rang. I also asked it to call my phone and it rang there too. Additionally I tested it by asking it to “call +44 1234 123456” without the leading ‘0’. (That’s not my real number of course) My house phone rang. So it does seem to work now in the UK.
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Oh it truly is like groundhog day, feels like being on a never ending treadmill and you can’t get off!
My daughter said just yesterday she would love to live alone( she has OCD and her husband &kids don’t, that explains it all) But she was also very much like her dad, both very happy in their own company and I am not like that at all and detest living alone. I think I have said before,that over the yrs I used to say to my hubby I am going first cause you will cope much better than me living alone !
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Hi Lizzy, sharpening knives was my husband’s job too and I can’t seem to do as good as he did, maybe in time I will improve!
Your right some days it takes all your effort to get out of bed when there seems little point if you have nothing to do and nowhere to go, but we always do it xx
I have my son & 2 youngest grandsons visiting tomorrow, something to look forward too.
Dreading new year next wk, I found that really hard last year not only are you going into another year he will never see but January brings his birthday (70th) and what would have been our 49th wedding anniversary.
Anyway enjoy your day tomorrow and your prep for it today at least that will keep you occupied today with no time to dwell xxx
It was nice weather here today and I did not nd heating on but boy the temp has suddenly dropped the last 5 min I will need to go put heating on, take care Lizzy and be careful with those knives after sharpening them xxx
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Georgi
I ‘promised’ my wife I’d do my best not to go first, for similar reasons, but didn’t expect that to be quite so soon!
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Georgi, I did sharpen them but prob not as good as hubby did. He used to be a fishmonger and his knives were always very sharp. I’ve been getting things prepped all day and even putting the music on still made me emotional today, he would always help me chop things and set the table, cut the meat etc. I can’t believe I’m still feeling the way I do, Saturdays are always bad for me, thats 12 weeks today. I will be ok tomorrow, I don’t have a good sense of taste and he was my taster as well, god only knows what my sauce will taste like. I stuck rigidly to the recipe. I tend to put extra salt, pepper, even sugar in things so that I can taste something. I’m really dreading New Year, I wish I could take a pill and sleep for a few days. I’m also dreading dealing with lawyers again trying to sort this Estate mess after New Year. I hope I just cry the night away and I will be fine tomorrow. Enjoy your day tomorrow as well xxx
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I left the door wide open the other day but I wasn’t in the house I stayed at my daughters when I got home and noticed it was open I did get a fright, thought I had been broken into till I noticed the key in the door. Didn’t tell anyone I did that. I’m ultra careful now. Checking quite a few times and making sure my alarm is on at night. Xxx
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That’s a great idea marnee, I’m going to try and see if my Alexa would do that. I have a key safe outside the door with back and front door key in it I think. Only thing is I can’t remember what the code is as I’ve never used it. I need to find how to change the code. I’ve started taking the key out my door at night as no one would get in the door if it was still in the door, I’ve been carrying my phone everywhere I go. Never thought of these things before. Xx
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My friends 12 year old called her from the alexa the other day, and I’m now waiting to go to her house so he can show me! X i’m in the uk. Xx
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I had a keysafe and forgot the code. Took ages going from 0000 to find the number which started with a 2! But worth doing I found!
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