Lizzy she does indeed we all enjoy reading what she writes, stay well Peaches xx
Lizzy I don’t take a lot of milk either and I use skimmed, just in my granola in the morning, don’t take milk in a cup of tea either, I do like a mocha tho xx
I just looked at weather for tomorrow up here and its meant to rain all day so that will shift the snow if its correct xxx
Hope yo manage some sleep tonight, I’m guessing I will cause I stayed awake all day but you can never be sure!
I’m going to read my kindle for a short time then its lights out for me! Good night everyone xxx
I don’t drink either, another thing we have in common besides grieving and having a sick elderly cat x
thank you xx
burdoch, I am so sorry that you husband died. It is so awful for us, the wives/widows left behind to work our way through it all when all we want to do is disappear and have everything just get done without us.
The crummy bits and pieces! Stuff that should have hit the trash bin long ago, but for whatever reason, we hang on to it.
I cooked tonight! I made a pot of red beans and some rice. This is a traditional New Orleans Monday dinner Monday was always laundry day and when there were no automatic washers and dryers, the moms could put a pot of beans to simmer all day and stir them during runs back and forth to the clothes line.
Before everyone had air conditioning, you could smell red beans cooking in all the houses. Mine came out really good, lots for the freezer. Tomorrow - meat sauce - which is tomato marinara, loads of Parmesean, and seasoned ground beef to be eaten with spaghetti or angel hair pasta. Meals for the freezer!
Very happy with myself. I haven’t cooked a real dish in 15 weeks. Thought I would never cook again, but here I am.
All is fairly good. It is quarter of 9 and I am ready for sleep already. Must be the beans.
Love
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Good for you Peaches thats another milestone reached now your back to cooking , all sounds delicious, you will feel good having done that xxx
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Well done Peaches! It feels great to get back to something that’s ‘normal’, doesn’t it?
I had my first good night’s sleep last night, knowing I had to get up to take grandchildren to school, on their first day back after Christmas. Feel really energised today - hope that lasts but can’t guarantee it. Getting paperwork done that I’ve been putting off, and taking photos to put some things on Vinted.
Preparing for the next crash though!
M
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Georgi, yes! It was a milestone. I didn’t plan to cook, but while in the grocery store I couldn’t find any of the prepared meals I wanted to eat as I have lived on them for so long and am tired of them. So I thought, “well, how hard can it be to cook again?” So glad I am coming back. Like most, I like my cooking best.
Marnee, well done! A good night’s sleep makes the day so much better. Even if it is only for the day, feeling energized again shows that “yes” we do gradually get some of our old selves back and gives us hope for better days. I am the Princess of Paperwork Procrastination as it seems like closing the coffin again to take my husband off of all accounts and property. Foolish thinking, but it is another ending of what was.
The current Surgeon General of the US has put out a report that drinking alcoholic beverages causes cancer and that no amount is safe. Bad news for 2025. Worst for our congressional representatives.
President Trump’s victory will be certified today.
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Week 24 tomorrow and I am in a slump. I still clean and sort. I am on the sad rollercoaster again. I honestly think it is the Winter, dark nights and its freezing here. Christmas was a time of tears. I cook, the airfryer is my absolute best gadget. I eat well, I don’t eat sweet things anymore. I have lost over 3 stone. I needed to lose the weight. I need some motivation but It is alluding me. I haven’t had alcohol for many years now. X
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Mbg, I also think the weather is getting us all down, the least small thing gets me down. I’ve been stuck in waiting for a call from a lawyer which didn’t happen today. It’s all gets me down, I thought I slept quite well last night, got an hour longer than my usual 3am but I am so so tired. Food just now is not my friend, I have so many allergies I can’t eat food that’s healthy. If I didn’t have biscuits I’d give up. I hope one day we get off this blasted rollercoaster and never get on it again. Take care, sending hugs 
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the dish you made sounds delish ! x
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The weather here has finally stopped raining this afternoon and I got a walk in. Forecast is sunny for the next few days but we are on flood alert. I was still awake at 4am. I have no idea why I can’t sleep. Hopefully it will mean I will sleep well tonight. I am babysitting tomorrow morning whilst my daughter-in-law has her hair done. At least I should be able to take her for a walk. Currently cooking meatballs. Will have them twice for this week and two lots for the freezer.
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Debsie we had sunshine today but it’s still so cold and icy, I’m ashamed to say this as I had left over mashed potato tonight with tomato ketchup on it, it’s better than biscuits 
. Finished my homemade soup but need to do a shop very soon. I used to love cooking, made big batches at a time but can’t motivate myself. I’m so tired just now and trying not to sleep during the day. Think I need my bloods checked. I have a hospital appointment next week, maybe they will do them then. Xxx
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Well done with the cooking everyone. I still keep cheating with the instant microwave meals I’m afraid and GP has diagnosed me with folic acid deficiency due to not having a healthy enough diet so I’m trying to whack some leafy greens in there broccoli kale and a bit of baby leaf salad alongside things. I did get out in the sunshine today and donated some books to charity. Actually felt like quite a nice day. Apprehensive now. Tomorrow will be a tough one going through accounts and finances with a friend of my son’s fiancée . It’s going to become obvious that I have no sense of organisation and am in fact living in total chaos. Anyway fingers crossed it goes smoothly or that I at least find it helpful. Everything feels so unnecessarily complicated to me so many small bits and threads to tie up and I’m nowhere near sorting most of it out. Anyway try and relax tonight and not think about it too much…that might be a tall order. How lovely to have the distraction of grandchildren to look after. I don’t have any but my son is only 24 so I really think no rush. But I’ve no pets for company any more either so absolutely completely on my own apart from the garden birds
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Starfish, I won’t take the well done for my mash lol, my eating habits have been terrible, I’m on folic acid and been prescribed a double dose of vitamin D as it was so low, I get my bloods checked every six months because I have a blood cancer, I’ve had treatment 5 years ago but it came back but only a tiny bit so on watch and wait and get bloods checked. I couldn’t cope getting ill on my own so I should shake myself. Will make some more soup with what’s in the freezer. All the paperwork is overwhelming, glad you are getting help with it. Mine will take months to get sorted out but it’s stressful. Wishing you all the best xxx
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You do need to look after you. I just have felt unwell and there is no one to look after me. That is the one reason I will cook. Batches of soup are great. I add butter beans for protein. I buy fresh chicken and cook it in the airfryer. The same with a small gammon joint. I prep and freeze veg. I can pop that in the airfryer to roast. I eat fruit, something I have never liked. My taste buds have definitely changed. Happy cooking xx
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I really wish that someone had got me an air fryer for Christmas but it never happened. No use wishing for things. I’d asked for a soup maker too and that arrived today so homemade soup from now on. Stick with the testing for the blood cancer. I have a friend who has just completed a lengthy course of treatment but is so much better now. There were certain things she couldn’t eat while she was on it…( Lemons ??) but you just go along with things I guess because you have to. I’ve looked at the TV viewing for tonight and I’ve come off all the main channels…it’s all death murder and crime
No wonder January is feeling bleak. Make some sensible uplifting choices for yourselves and with the food…it really helps! Have a relaxing evening
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I lost a lot of weight in the months after I lost my husband in 2023 but in the 2nd half of 2024 I put some weight on again, I don’t want to go back up to a size 14 so I need to cut back on the eating full stop,
It’s the boredom of living alone , I think what will I do now, and I go eat !
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Starfish funny you mentioned the tv. I have just caught up with the last ever episode of Vera. We used to love watching it together. I felt so sad when it ended. Another link to my husband gone. I had a good cry, how silly is that. I blame the lack of sleep. I don’t function very well when I have a bad nights sleep. Been emotional all day. Have a good evening whatever you watch.
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Georgi I feel guilty, am I the only one that didn’t lose weight. I lost about 2lb but after a couple of weeks I was my usual weight again. It makes me feel like I didn’t care enough but he was my world. So how come I could eat. Having said that it was a running joke that I always ensured that I had emergency food to hand as I cannot cope with being hungry.
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