Your so right , I call it brain fog , or broken brain , I thought it might of cleared by now , but I think I’m stuck with it . I have just been out the back and a white feathers blew up beside me . I bent to pick it up , and it blew away . Me chasing a white feathers around back yard , still never caught it . I know it’s Chris teasing me , like he always did , then came in house and out of front window . The Daft as a brush van was turning outside my front . I’m sure it’s Chris telling me to get my act together , and sort his pride and joy ( garden out ) .
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Yeh im same … just cant bare to empty his drawers or wardrobe… it breaks my heart 
xx
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can I suggest you google widows fog. it will help you understand what you might be dealing with. I’m sure I had it for several months at the start.
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@Broken2222 we do what we have to do to deal and get by, whatever that looks like to outside world
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Hi - as mentioned below, we each have to cope in our own way and hopefully with the love and support of family and friends. I tend to cope fairly well most days but some thinks set me back just as others help me cope.
It was a beautiful afternoon here yesterday and I was just looking outside yesterday with my daughter saying about getting my decking and garden furniture pressure washed ready for the spring and the family BBQs - Elissa loved sitting outside in the sunshine, even if a little cold. We had decking added in 2022 enabling easy access to the garden from her bedroom via wheelchair or walking frame which she loved.
Her family birthday party was 14/10 and we all sat outside until mid afternoon when it got a bit too cold for her. That was exactly a month before we lost her - she was my sun bunny
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Deb5. I have put some of sue clothes in a memory box.slowly sorting out sues clothes. A friend who did the service is waiting for me to sort out them for me as they run a charity in Africa
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@BobY , Hi, it’s over two years since my husband died . I think I still have it ,Brain fog / Broken Brain . Or it could be just me and the way I am . I always asked my husband a lot of questions, and he often had his head in his hands. He always said that I think out of the box . Like @MemoriesOfUs said we do what we have to do to deal and get by . Xtake carex
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@Cat_fan . Chris also loved to be outside , pottering about in the garden , he seemed to always have a tan , I even had him saved in my phone as Garden Gnome .lol . We often sat out on an evening in the summer , looking at the clouds and pointing out what we could see in them. Happy days . It’s these little things as well as the big things I miss sooo much x
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Well done … i just cant do it yet … i cant … i know i need to do it at some point but not yet … cant face it ;( x
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Same as was going to move bathroom stuff touched a few items but can’t
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I had to sale his car because it was so upsetting seeing out there and he wasn’t here anymore .
But I can’t do his clothes and other bits .Its very hard even to look at his clothes I message him every day bit silly because he’s never going to answer it’s just nice to tell him what’s going on . Something for me to look back on
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Hi Pam14 so sorry for your loss I too can’t touch my husband’s clothes it upsets me so much I write my him letters sometimes when I’m really down and put them in his memory box my daughter in law bought me a couple of books Your Anxiety Journal were I write all my inner feelings down at how I’m feeling at that time also The Anxiety Work book which are both very good you take care
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I think the memory box is a very good idea and the books it’s really nice to have nice things to remember them by and your memories
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I’m the same I had to sell his beloved Jaguar, count bear seeing it on the drive but so hard to see it driven off. Like you haven’t started on cloths and all the other numerous items of his. Just hoping in time I will be able to do. I do send him messages and photos! Take care xx
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Snap look at my messages on phone telling Tina what’s going on and what I’m doing
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When my daughter flew in from Canada to see Elissa in hospital she was using Elissa’s phone to avoid paying Canadian call charges (Elissa was unable to speak at the end). When my daughter called me the week after Elissa passed away it freaked me out seeing her name come up … 
Hadnt ocurred to me to change it when she borrowed it … We laugh about it now
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Im going to do that before i start to deal with her clothes etc … my daughters took a couple of silk scarves that Elissa owned just as something to remember her by. I just put her jewellery in the safe - cant face sorting it out yet but my daughter wants to wear something for her wedding so she feels Elissa is with her which i understand. Only right that Elissa’s jewellery goes to the girls
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I had Steve’s ring resized so I can wear it and I take one of his jackets to bed ever night
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I went on my husband’s phone shortly after he passed and unknowingly liked everything everyone had put on fb my daughter was getting messages left right and centre everyone saying ’ Im freaking out your dad’s just likes what I’ve put on fb ’ my daughters reply it will be my mother, on such a very sad occasion did we laugh
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My husband was on his phone continuously looking at the news he couldn’t text although we’d showed hundreds of times and to be honest he wad absolutely useless with technology