When my dad dies back in 1972 my mom had hers and his wedding rings melted down into a new ring which she loved as it was both fused together and inseparable forever. Im just thinking about something nice like that for our rings … may talk to my sister for some nice ideas but the only ring i wear is my wedding ring even now
My husband the day before he passed said he wanted to get me something really special for my birthday for looking after him but that didn’t happen as he passed next day he didn’t want his ashes separating but my daughter had just a small bit taken out and although his present from heaven as they called it came after my birthday my daughter and two granddaughters had put together and with his ashes got me the most beautiful memory ring with his ashes it just looks the kind he’d choose solitaire I wear it all the time
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I am having a pendant made from both ur wedding rings the sapphires and opals he gave me over the 35 years together made into a tree of life.
Something for me to wear every day 
Lynne x
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Galaxy75 that sounds absolutely beautiful you take care Wendy
Helen,my wife passed away suddenly last July, no warning, unexpected.
Every day I think about her,cry and sob so much.Xmas was difficult,but went to sons house and family were there,but it was so sad,a hurdle done.My birthday in January, Valentine’s Day and her Birthday coming up next week.All so heart breaking.
Life is so cruel, I wonder what is in the future for me, I take each day as it comes.Miss her so much.
People used to say you have good memories,I didn’t want that, I wanted her back.I now am accepting the great memories, wonderful life and being part of her life that we shared for 25 years.She was my second wife and was everything I needed in life,only to be taken away.
I’m still struggling with life,and I feel and know what you are going through.
I cannot tell you what to do, you’ll be able to do that yourself.
Do look after yourself.
Sandy
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Hi @M1ncerBurn
Sorry to hear about your wife.
My husband passed away in June 2023 suddenly and unexpectedly at 63. We had 38 years together and married for 35.
Life is so cruel only last Dec-Feb 23 we spent with family in Australia little did we know 4 months later he would be gone 
Life without our partners is do hard.
Some days better than others but the loneliness heartache still remains in the background. I know people say you have the memories that is true but you just want them back and thats not possible.
I try to get through days but the nights are terrible.
I hope as time goes by which it does we will be able to learn to live on our own well exist.
Look after yourself as we have learnt life really is short live each day as your last.
Take care
Lynne
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@M1ncerBurn , so sorry for your loss , it’s so bloody hard isn’t it . I understand about memories . I hated when people said you have your memories . I didn’t want my memories , I wanted our memories , they where made by both of us , I wanted to still share them with my husband , talk to him about them . It’s not much fun remembering something funny , and not be able to laugh with him about it . …I hope this site helps you as much as it has helped me . It has been my lifeline for the past two years . Xtake carex
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Lynne,my wife was 62,so young, trying to move forward will be difficult for us both, hopefully get there,but life will never be the same without that"special"person in our life,x
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Snap tina just turned 60 11.11.63 said we not celebrating while im still in hospital we have nice holiday some where we can celebrate your an mine and wedding anniversary sadly that did not happen tina thought a battle whole year in hospital leukaemia they say life goes on whitch we know it does but as you say memory should be together I’ll try but every day something sets me off take care an try an focus that’s what I’m trying
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Hi @M1ncerBurn
Its tough being gone in your early 60 's although i see from this forum it can be any age younger or older. Sudden death with no on going health problems is hard too. Never got the chance to say goodbye how much you loved them. Just there one minuste and gone the next. The trauma of his passing with haunt me for as long as i live. I didnt get the chance to do CPR as he fell behind bathroom door and i could not help him. Life will never be the same .
I pray for strength to get me through the years ahead but it could live for another 20+ years not sure how that will work out.
My mum is still around and is 88 however she has dementia so losing her too.
Life is trying
Take care L
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It’s so tough Martin,and we can only move on ourselves,nobody else can help to take away the grief that we are going through.
We had all of next ten year to enjoy while we had health,then calm down,maybe,but suddenly her life and my own being taken away put a stop to that.
Life is so cruel
Take care Martin
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Martin2 my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue was only 64 when she took the next step of her journey.i can be fine one minute and the next tears start streaming down my face but then I hear sue saying come on dry your tears .then i try to focus on the Happy times we had
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This was 12 months ago tomorrow. We had such a lovely day on the “boom trikes” in Tenerife. We were so happy. Less then 6 months later he was gone and I’m heartbroken
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Where is that ? Boom trikes ?? … my husband loved tenerife too and went with my daughter and granddaughter in november . There were a few times when it was so hard without him sat there next to me 
14 months for me … xx
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Deb5.boom trikes are three wheelers that you can drive on a car licence and they will hire them out to you x
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My partner was diagnosed at 49 and died 3 months after her 50th
So much life left to live
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Oh right ? Not heard of them ? Cant say ever went on one ? thanks though martyn x
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Aw… so young my husband had just had his 60th … x
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Last thing you expect at 49 is stage 4 cancer diagnosis
Just breaks natural order - parents aren’t supposed to stand at their children’s grave
60 is also young - it’s not just the lost life, it’s the lost future
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