My daughter lives 11 doors from me she pops to pick dog up when she leaves work doesn’t come in even when her dad was here she never popped for a cup of tea but we got invited for tea once a week, when I was young I was at my mum’s all the time as you say this generation know feeling’s at all family doesn’t really matter
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Nope they dont seem to care about the family unit anymore do they ? Just out for themselves. My kids dont live that near me but i might as well be on other side of the world ! I don’t think they would notice ! Whats wrong with picking up phone or texting to see how you are ? Oh no my kids cant even be bothered to do that ! Im gonna disinherit them ! Let em carry on like this and my house will go to charity not them ! And i mean it too … sorry … sad as i said today, missing my husband who would defo have something to say about their behaviour i know ! X
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Hi @Deb5
I know he would be do upset if he knew how she was behaving. I know people have there own lives to live and i dont want them to call all the time. But a text or phone call ever once im a while would be nice. If people can call me from Australia and France even due to time differences.
Im missing out on grandchildren have not heard from them either aged 16 and 15.
My moto be kind to each other one day you dont know when they will need our help.
Lynne 
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Deb5 its unbelievable the way your kids are treating you.my daughter aderlaide is a big help to me.my other two kids couldn’t care less about me .so i know how i stand with Gareth and andromida .its there loss .my daughter dave my stepson and sues family get everything when something happens to me x
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I know. I shout at them and tell them how bad their behaviour is but it dont seem to make any difference ! Seems to go in one ear and out the other ! My middle daughter text the other day and then she seems to have disappeared again ! Why ? Didnt have an argument … its so disrespectful. Im disiheriting them anyway ! If anything happens to me theyre not getting my house ! They can sod off with their behaviour !! 
its just so nasty when you lost your husband ! They just dont care do they ?
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My daughter and I fell out just after my husband passed for 2 months it broke my heart made the grieving even harder thank goodness I had my son and daughter in law I stopped with them for 2 weeks the only trouble they live quite away from me, she showed know emotion what’s so ever over her dad she hasn’t grieved for him but I know it’s there waiting to come out I can see it but this could be with her job she is a children’s Mental Health nurse for the NHS and her job is very intense talking children out of suicide think this is one reason she can’t show emotion anymore and is the way she is with me
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Yeh its funny you say that. My eldest daughter works in a young persons prison and i think its made her hard and bitter ! She causes a lot of trouble and i was getting on fine with my middle daughter until she started stirring the pot ! Shes so angry and bitter - i think its cos shes split up with her boyfriend ! My 83 year old mum is still alive so at least i got her x
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I wonder if grief does this to them ? They loved my husband but so did i … what they forget is that without me marrying him they wouldnt have had him as their dad ! Ironic isnt it !
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Hi Helen, I know what you mean. Lost my dear hubby in August on our 25th wedding anniversary. Got though xmas, New Year harder but Valentine’s Day horrid, my exercise class decided to do all love songs so I cancelled my attendance and stayed at home feeling pretty low. Know it’s early days but seems to be getting harder. Hugs x
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I love and miss my beautiful Elissa like crazy.
I guess I’m getting through day by day and the two hardest days for me were NY Eve and Valentine’s Day ! Especially NY !
My two daughters are awesome as is my lovely sister and I’m really proud of my girls and looking forward to seeing my eldest daughter and two grandchildren in Canada next month.
Both girls called to check in on me on Wednesday ! Guess they knew it would be hard !
With WhatsApp and FaceTime we have a real global village - no real reason to lose contact with anyone that we want in our lives!
We have to make the effort too but also pehaps we have to reevaluate the situation and see if there are people that really don’t fit in our lives anymore !
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Too true
Making the most of what we have
My husband would not have wanted me to be sad unhappy.
I am lonely and miss him terribly but i carry on just wish i had family close to help with some things.
Life is short my husband did not get to pension age but he enjoyed life and was always happy and caring.
Lynne
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My wife just made it to 62 and her quality of life for the last 5 years has not been good !
I believe I genuinely have done my best to care for her and maker her happy and love her so much! If I regret one thing it’s leaving our bucket list too late and my. retirement too late ! Lessons learned and moving on ! 
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Hi @Cat_fan
Too true he made it to 63 had taken early retirement in Feb 23 gone in Jun 23.
Every thing planned last year gone.
Now on my own finding it hard to do.
I will go trip to Belfast on my own as lots of things to visit during the day and nights i can just read or watch the world go by.
Later trip to Australia our daughter has lived there for 13 years. We both saw her last Feb 23 this year will be my 1st on my own.
Strange what a year on throws at us
Take care
Lynne
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Thats really good that you are making te journey to Oz this year - I feel i have learned a lot about life in the least 5 years - especially about myself. I need to make a ew life now
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Take care
It will take time but hopefully we will learn to live again.
It is strange going from a couple to just one person after 37 years together. I Guess we just need fo find ourselves sonehow
Lynne
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I lost my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue last year on the 1st February. Already had to get a really close friend to tell two of our close friends to leave me alone as they were coming on to quick and i dont want anyone else.i had 22years together and I would never be able to have the closeness that me and sue had with anyone else
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Exactly what I feel about cancer
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Hi @Martyn2
You are correct no one will ever replace my husband he was so kind loving easy going supportive (through my cancer treatment 3 years ago) and i loved him so much.
We had so many happy years together and he is always in my thoughts day and night.
We had 37 years together and i am glad we had that time together.
Now i just need to find things on my own which i like to do.
Lynne
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No question that cancer is evil - but you have some ray of hope that the available treatments will help !
For some there is no hope, only 100% certainty of death without anything but palliative care!
My wife said many times “ I wish I had cancer - at least I’d have a fighting chance, something to hope against “
Cancer is a really evil thing my poor husband battled it for three and a half years all though covid .
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