Know how you feel - grief doesn’t just go away but goes round in circles. I’m told that the circles will widen in time, but I’m 8 months on from my hubby passing and had the most dreadful day yesterday. Weekends are the worst. Sending virtual hugs.
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Yeh that is what my counsellor told me … your circle gets bigger … wow … im 7 months in … still hard 
xxx
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27 weeks for me and today I feel as bad as ever … no motivation, just feel like not bothering as my lovely husband is not here.
I must have some lunch and go for a walk otherwise I shall deteriorate more.
Luckily, I have plans for the rest of the week.
Sending hugs x
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I know what you mean … just cant be bothered can you ? Im same … i do do some stuff - its just hard like you say getting enthusiastic about anything thanks for virtual hugs … think i need a hug today … feel so sad jeez this life is so hard without him … i hate it :(,x
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I’m just dreadful today, sorry you are too. I have had better days lately but down I go again into the depths of despair.
I knew I was going to be ‘rubbish’ today as two tops I had ordered online arrived. Usually, I open parcels straightaway, it took me two hours to bother. No enthusiasm.
Sending more hugs.
xx
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Well folks
Sorry to be a dampener on this 51 weeks on and I honestly say I can say I have bad days and absolutely very very bad days and that’s the truth
My counsellor says it’s still very raw and very early days
Tell some of my ‘friends’ that
And there is no time limit
Coping takes as long as it takes
I read on sue Ryder grief is like an egg
The yolk our loved ones are still there
‘We’ are the white navigating around the yoke
Yes just like a circle
I liked my previous circle ( life)
I bloody hate this one
Grief is absolutely awful
Hugs to everyone
Xx
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PS hi hope
We live very close to each other
Xx
I am bad today as well for any reason. I thought I would be better today - wrong again. After a roller-coaster weekend now a roller-coaster Monday. I went to the library this morning and for the first time, I have forgotten my library card on the table at home! I had never done this before after all these years of being with the library. I always said to my husband I am alright when you remember what I forget and you will be alright when I remember what you forget. Now there is no one there anymore. It is just a horrible sinking feeling. I can see in this forum that a lot of you have the same sad day today as well and do not really energy to do something during the day except feel down and sad. I am the same. I should contact my father-in-law and email a few people but I just cannot face it. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better time. Sending lots of love and hugs to everyone.
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At least you made the effort and went to the library, sorry you forgot your library card; another sign of bereavement - forgetfulness. I haven’t done anything useful, no energy and no purpose.
I shall be glad when it’s time for bed and forget today.
Oh, for my old life with my wonderful man.
Sending hugs x
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Ye we do .I had a friend living there a lot of years but she died in march if your ever round my way we could meet for a coffee .I dont drive so since losing my partner 14 weeks ago im having to get buses and taxis .Life has changed dramatically ,its hard to adjust to a life on our own xxx
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Dear Rome18, you did do something useful - you read and answered my post. That is also an achievement to read and even answer posts. I have always the feeling that I let my husband down by not being the same as I was before. His lovely car is on our driveway and is not getting better. I should get the paperwork together, get a mechanic in to maintain it, and hand it over to his nephew, but every time I want to start the procedure I am crying because I remember our good times with the car going to Germany, Lake District, Norfolk, etc. So the car is still there. I also wanted to hoover today - not happening now, just have no energy left but I contacted my surgery via their website asking for an appointment to see a GP about counseling. Maybe I am lucky and get an answer - not holding my breath. Sending you lots of love and hugs. You are not alone.
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I do hope you get your gp appointment. I somehow managed to self refer but can’t remember how. I have an assessment for therapy Friday week. I think it may have been off the Marie curie website. If it comes back to me I will put it in a post.
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Thank you for those reassuring words.
Don’t worry about the car, you will know when it’s right to sort it out with his nephew. All the amazing memories mean that you cannot let it go yet.
I cannot let go of most of my husband’s things. I will never let go of his beloved piano, unless I move to a smaller place and don’t have room but it will break my heart. One of his tennis rackets is by the side of it where I go and talk to him.
It seems to have been a bad day for a lot of us today, from reading other posts.
Let’s hope it’s better tomorrow,
Lots of hugs x
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I believe you are not too good with technology but if you can you need to enter self referral grief counselling ( or get someone else to do it for you) into a search engine. That should give you online access or a phone number. Think it is area specific so mine would be of no earthly use to you as I doubt you live in south Somerset. This may be quicker than seeing your gp.
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You can also go via nhs website.
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I will try it if I don’t be successful with the GP appointment. But maybe I am lucky - would be nice for a change. Sending love and hugs.
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My counsellor says same ! Your grief is the yoke and the white is the life you build around it , which gets bigger with time … xx
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I had a day like that yesterday - Sunday always bad for me. I used to bake and we’d sit down for a cozy afternoon tea together. Now I can’t be bothered to bake for me. I managed to get through the day by phoning a sympathetic friend - invaluable - and then escaping into tele programmes. It’s like living in a parallel universe and I long for my old life and a cuddle from my hubby.
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Sunday is always bad for me. It always was but he would hug it away. Now no hug. Although I just had a hug from my gardener when I got a bit teary. West Country folks can be like that.
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Deb 5
Northallerton to skipton 46 miles
1 hour 8 minutes according to google maps
Xx
Hope 5
Saltburn just down the road 20 mile 26 minutes
Xx
Meet up?
Xx
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