Hi
3 years ……… an absolute lifetime
I suspect I’ll be in the same ‘state’ forever……
Xx
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Hi my wedding anniversary today got no words except absolutely devastated xx tracey
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Our 50th wedding anniversary was so close to his death. He died 6th June. It was on 14th July. I was still in the very early days of grief. Somehow I survived the day. Don’t know what I will be like next year. Yesterday was a good day but although I had a decent nights sleep for me recently I feel teary today. I think it’s feeling he would be so proud of my excursion yesterday.
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Hi Pudding
Still very early days……
Xx
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I’m so pleased you had a better sleep.
I woke up teary, too. It’s the thought of another new month without him,
I hope you have a reasonable day, I am seeing my counsellor this morning. xx
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So feeling for you, does it help to know but I’m feeling the same as are so many others. We just have to take one step after another and grab on to any small peaceful moments. Sending hugs xx
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I hadn’t thought of another new month. Hope the counsellor helps. Minimum of 12 week wait for me if I get one. Xx
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I’m hoping when I see the doctor tomorrow she might actually listen and sort out counselling for me, she just seems more intent on phantom physical problems rather than mental health!
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You can self refer on the nhs website for counselling if the doctor doesn’t. That’s what I did. You get an assessment first. Xx
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I’m having counselling with a local charity
Headlights
So grateful been seeing my counsellor since 3rd October 2022 …… no end date go weekly
Have also had 6 week group session 6 of us
Heartening in the fact others are all feeling the same……
Also have drop in monthly go tonight for the second time
Meet folk who also had counselling and the group session….
So very very fortunate I’m so thankful
Xx
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I wasn’t thinking why I was feeling teary and down today, but probably is due to being start of a new month, as each month passes I find I miss my hubby more and more, it’s hard trying to let people think you are coping, and minute I’m on my own the tears start, it’s 7.5 months now. I’m just back from a family holiday with daughters and grandchildren, it’s some place we went as a family for a few years and I missed hubby so much, he was my life and best friend I miss him so much. I have thought about counselling, but I think I would just be a blubbering mess and I don’t like to let other people see me upset. It’s a hard journey we have to go through, I just wish my life away wanting to be with my hubby.
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I was teary this morning @Mary.Mac as I turned the calendar over to August. As you say, another month without our loved ones. My husband always turned the calendar and said ‘white rabbits’. I miss my husband more and more and do not mind people knowing that because it is so absolutely true. He was my wonderful husband and soulmate.
I am going to my sixth counselling session in a while. You really should consider it, they are used to, and expect, people’s emotional reactions. I have been a complete mess and have sobbed. Mine always has a large box of tissues handy, which they all do.
Sending best wishes xx
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Yes another month
Another month further away from our loved ones
Each day stepping further away
My counsellor right at the beginning said to me don’t say your fine when your not
My answer always has been
I’m struggling.
Or I’m finding it hard
And that is the absolute truth
We all are
Xx
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@Bess1
I feel at my wits end today I am finding it so hard.It’s 10 plus months since I lost my lovely Zeki I just can’t stop crying .I feel so alone and everything seems pointless.I try so hard to keep it together.Had to choose the wordings for his headstone and a photo today.I haven’t been able to go through photos up to now I’m completely devastated with this dreadful life we have been forced into.
We were all living our life hurting no one and it’s all wrenched apart.What I don’t get is I see people who don’t give a damn about anything or anybody and they sail on through their selfish life. Nothing seems to happen to them It’s al so cruel.
I’m sorry I’m going on
I’ve just recently started a second course of counselling and for the 3 weeks their Zoom hasn’t worked .
I hope you are getting on and I thank you and everybody for listening to my heartache
Hugs Annxx
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A lot of us seem to be having a bad day. I wonder if the start of a new month has a psychological effect. Xx. Sandra
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It had an effect on me this morning when I turned the calendar over, my dear husband always did it when he was well enough.
Let’s hope for a better day tomorrow. xx
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Please god. I hope for a better day for all of us suffering this way.
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I second that Pudding but……
Xx
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…today is our 48th wedding anniversary…so I am feeling kinda spaced out to be honest…today is not real…
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@Pudding I think maybe it is getting very near to the anniversary of his death and although I keep going through everything I can’t believe he has been gone for a year.
As you say please God we get some peace
Hugs Annx
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