@Pudding, that’s what grief does to us.
It’s happened to me this morning. I am waiting for the BT engineer to come and I desperately want my husband here. I have sobbed as I am missing him more each day. I dread the future.
xx
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I do pray that the bot engineer can fix it for you. Xxxx
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Every night I see the green glow of his hearing aids charging in the bedroom. We are still paying for them. The audiologist is going to come out and test my hearing to refit them to me if necessary as they were very expensive
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Thanks for letting me know about at a loss website i will look into it thank you so much x
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Hi Marion - looking after my hubby and all the stresses looking after the home after his death I developed painful spinal fractures due to a worsening of osteopenia, so sadly unable to walk far at the mo - and as mentioned I don’t drive. Perhaps you fancy popping by for a cuppa one afternoon before too long. We can private message details. I’m Ruth, Jazpur is my elderly cat!
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Struggling a little with this site and have no idea how the private message works. Pressed the Private Message button but it appeared to take me to a Sue Ryder link. I’m pretty tech savvy but I’m at a loss with this site
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@Pudding Hi Pudding I don’t live in your area but I come from that area.My maternal grandfather came from Seaton/Branscombe /Beer.
My maternal grandmother came from East Chinnock and my father was from Chard.I was born in Seaton but haven’t lived there for some time.I live in London but since I lost my lovely husband last September like everyone I am struggling.We were just about to move down to Dorset/Hants area. I am just devastated and have to now reassess what to do.I haven’t any family but the couple of dear friends I have don’t want me to go very far.
This terrible thing called grief is the most frightening situation anybody can experience particularly the loss of a wonderful ,husband ,friend and soul mate.
I wish you well
Hugs and support
Annx
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Hi @MarK76,
If you’re not sure how to send a private message on the site, here are some instructions to help you get started: Help using this site - Sue Ryder Online Bereavement Community.
Please do reach out if you have any questions or need any further support.
Take care
Alex
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The wise words are not to make any major decisions just after bereavement. 2 of my neighbours were considering moving closer to family immediately after their husbands died. Both said they were glad they didn’t and stayed within our close community of neighbours. 1 has recently been divorced and was considering going back to Germany. Even she has decided she would prefer to stay here.
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Morning
We moved to this house 14 th July 2022 Paul died 24th July 2022
Move was 7 months in the planning and Paul did his damnest to make sure we moved and he saw me ‘settled’ I am eternally grateful for that
The consequences of Paul passing beforehand reflecting back would of been horrendous
Bitter sweet tho he loved this house and he knew I would
Life’s so cruel
Xx
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Hi everyone having a terrible time been 6 months now since i lost my husband just dont know how to cope anymore feel like its just getting worse xx tracey
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Hi Tracey
I lost my lovely husband 10 months ago and I’m still struggling too.I know how you feel .I get desperate too and don’t know how to cope.I don’t have family but have two wonderful friends.I don’t like to trouble them with my grief which to me seems never ending.I keep reading the posts on here for strength.Somehow it helps as we all have the same battle.I send you hugs and support
Annx
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Dear Tracey, I lost my husband suddenly about six months ago. I am feeling completely lost without him and I am still bewildered about what actually happened to us and why. I am now on tablets Sertraline and although it will take a while before they really kick in I can already feel that they help me through the day and night. I still have crying and anxiety attacks but they are not so severe anymore since I am taking the tablets. Tomorrow I will have a long chat with the mental health nurse about counseling and hopefully, that will help me further on. Maybe you could talk to your GP and ask for help? Sending love and hugs.
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Me too Tracey - had a really bad day today! And now have a vet coming tomorrow to put my old cat to sleep. Too much loss. Struggling.
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Thank you everyone thanks for replying back to me and i am so sorry for what you all are going through to xxx Tracey
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Poor you. We had cats and it is sad when they have to go bit on top of everything else to lose a companion. Thinking if you. Sandra
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I am so sorry about your cat. That is another heartbreak. I had dogs and other animals in the past and I know how you feel. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
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Morning
Sorry but…… really tearful afternoon yesterday
Went to local retail park 15 miles away
Bought something in Next( returning as don’t know why I bought it) anyway needed carrier bought one
It was a Christmas carrier bag!
Went to car and just cried and cried
Came home cried all night literally all through the night
When will this dreadful deep rooted pain ease ……
It would’ve been our 45th wedding anniversary Saturday 5th
Held Paul’s funeral 5th August last year…… just to me seemed ‘right’
He always sent me flowers and bought me a lovely card he did this every single year
I miss him so so much I literally ache all over and just feel absolutely numb
Xx
I feel for everyone in this lonely bewildered heart breaking agony that’s apparently called grief
Xx
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I’m 3 years into this awful grief. I’m in a really bad way and I’m not sure how much longer I can live with this awful pain. I miss my Paul beyond words. 
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