I know you received a sign and lots of other people have said they have had signs but in order for me to believe I have to experience something for myself. Hopefully I’ll be back here one day absolutely ecstatic that I’ve finally had something 
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Who was the medium you saw? Where are they from? Sorry if I’ve asked you before, so many usernames and pictures of letters it’s hard to remember who is who lol.
I had the same thoughts has you, would i regret going to see him but im so glad i did, i got to say goodbye and to see him again and tell him i love and miss him so much. I think i would have regreted not going much more.
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@Sarlyn
I love the anger purchases 
well done you. There’s always YouTube videos on how to do almost anything now.
Last summer I found the scaffolding tower (you may wonder how I could lose one but he had it so well hidden in a farm shed) sanded, stained and varnished the windows at the back of our house. This year it will be the conservatory and the front windows. I was so determined to do it to make him proud!
Hugs
Karen xxx
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Same here 
xx
I was worried about viewing anyone after viewing my beloved grandpa when I was 18 … he looked grotesque and I had recurring nightmares for many months afterwards ! I was devastated when I saw how dreadful he looked … totally unrecognisable and in frilly shroud … this was not my grandpa at all
I never viewed any other loved one after that until my father passed away! Dad was such a particular man I had to make sure he was ‘right’ .
I was, I’ll admit, terrified when I entered the room … but there he was … just dad… given he had looked so dreadfully poorly having faced the ravages of cancer … he looked much better than I could ever have hoped for.
My husband passed six years ago now and I went to see him … I can honestly say he looked so good! My daughter is a funeral director and so is her husband :. They took over and arranged all the necessary’s … I was just beyond thinking!
The team that cared for him did an outstanding job and I’m eternally grateful!
There are no rules … you have to go with your heart and your gut!
For the record … even tho my experiences with both my dad and my husband were positive on viewing … I can honestly say I can’t picture either of them in their Coffins … I’m still always stuck at their passing … particularly my husband who had a very difficult passing
I wish you well in whatever decision you make … just make it the best decision for you x
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That’s incredible. Lots to do here to and will do it. He’ll be looking at me thinking, why the hell didn’t you do that when I was there lol. We did things together but mostly he did as I watched lol x
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I wished I had been allowed to go see my husband in the chapel of rest. He died from covid right at the start of lockdown so wasnt allowed out of the house never mind visit him in chapel of rest so heartbroken could not kiss him one last time and say goodbye .
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Thankyou Sheila it is 3 years on the 10th April since I lost him and it was 3 years yesterday since I last saw him 
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When I seen my husband he looked just as if he was asleep. When I seen my Nan she looked like a shell, like her spirit had left. It didn’t look anything like her.
I said to the funeral director, " do you think because my husband didn’t really believe in anything, his soul had died inside him?" Where as my Nan’s soul had left. He looked so shocked at my question and said I’ve overthought it. He said it’s because he was young and fit he looked the same. Plus he was found very close after he died. Maybe all these factors play a part on how they look when they pass.
I too like you felt complete despair at the thought this was the end forever. I had planned on reuniting in the afterlife as I believed we were soul mates. Now I’m trying not to worry too much about something we can’t ever prove or disprove.
If you think there is nothing, you’re right, everything seems pointless. If I thought that way I’d never visit the grave etc. But I do it mainly for me. It’s a symbol of how much I loved him. As I can’t see him, or give him gifts in life, it’s the closest thing I have.
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My OH was young and fit but he didn’t look the same 
I think the face seems to sink a bit in some people too. Seeing him like that was heartbreaking and I really hope I don’t have any dreams or get that image forever stuck in my head. When I was there I tried to stand at the top of the coffin looking at him from the top of his head because for me he looked pretty much the same from his hair to his nose then the mouth down really upset me. It was probably worse because he had such a big smile and always laughing and joking so the downturned frown just wasn’t him. He looked frowning, like he was upset 
My OH is getting cremated just like his dad. We’d often walk up PenYFan and I’d usually struggle, he’d say to me “don’t forget if I pop my clogs you’ve got to scatter my ashes up Snowdon” I’m not even sure if he was joking or not tbh. I’m going to get a pendant made using some of his ashes so that I can take him with me always but in the back of my mind I know the ashes will be of the body I saw in the coffin and that wasn’t him
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In a way if you think that wasn’t him don’t you think the thing that made him, him has maybe left? That’s the way I thought when I seen my Nan.
Because my husband looked the same, I felt like his soul hadn’t come out. I think grief just makes us crazy at times.
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Thats so horrible isn’t it ! Thats disgustibg really … i didnt realise that they stopped people going to chapel of rest 
well you got your memories … no one can take that away from you !! god bless xx
Aw beautiful snowdonia … that was where me and my husband went on our very last holiday together … i didnt realise he was so poorly then … he looked fine in pic i took of him and then we came back everything went downhill xx dont you just wish you could go back in time !!
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Seeing him yesterday made me realise that your body is in fact the least important part of you and that “you” are far more than a body, you are your personality and your mind. I just hope that your personality and mind are more than just a brain. I hope indeed there is a soul that leaves your body upon death and that we get to reunite with our loved ones one day. I don’t suppose there’s any way to know until it’s your turn though 
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Yes but has the thing that made him him left or just stopped working because he died? Soul or just the brain? That’s the one question I wish I had the answer to
Oh yes! If only we could I can still remember so many things we did when we first got together seventeen years ago, it’s gone soo soo quickly
Yep it certainly has gone too quickly i do wish i could go back in time and just re- live it all again …
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Yes that’s the thing. I think that’s where faith comes in. It’s to bridge the gap when there is no proof.
I can’t help as I’ve kind of lost my faith since my husband died. Before he died I always believed that the world is too fine tuned for this all to be for nothing. The way it’s programmed in us and all animals to reproduce. Love for example, why do we feel love so intensely and look after our children in hope that they survive. The need for our survival is deep routed, as for all species. Why?
That’s how I used to think anyway.
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Sarlyn
I went to see my husband in the chapel of rest with my son ,the day before his funeral,
And it did help me get through the funeral ,
He did look different ,but I felt a calmness come over me as if he was giving me strength ,
I am glad I went to see him ,
Big hugs take care
Sue
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