Humans love deeply and have to suffer horrendously for it, I wish I’d been born a cat sometimes My cat absolutely hates other cats, hates most people including me sometimes, she’s happy just sleeping, eating and going up the mountain exploring. She’s never going to be upset over another cat dying and if I die she’ll just go to one of the neighbours who try feed her anyway, luckily she’s really fussy so she doesn’t eat their food tho. What a simple, easy way to live Why do us humans get so attached to eachother? Why do we love so deeply? Why out of
the billions of people on earth do we give our hearts to one person?
Ah I’ve got no faith at all right now. I sometimes wonder if faith is just something people have to try and make sense of a senseless world. I haven’t always felt like this, I always saw the beauty in the world and the areas around our home, felt lucky to be able to go on holidays and experience and see things that some people never had the chance to see because they left the world way too early but now I feel completely different
Same but I do hope mine returns as I was happier then.
I sometimes wish I could be hypnotised into forgetting my husband ever existed. That sounds bad but I don’t see the point in this much pain forever. We are the ones who are left behind.
Yes unfortunately we are and there’s nothing we can do to change that. I’m hoping one day that the happy memories I have of our time together will be stronger than the heartache of losing him. I don’t expect that time to come anytime soon but I’m hoping it will one day x
@Dottie72
I agree, I wouldn’t want that to be in my memories of him, he was happy, smiley, fit and healthy and that’s my last memory of him and I couldn’t bare that memory to be tainted.
Like people say it is a very personal, individual choice.
My choice ironically was made for me by my partner as no way would be want me to see him laying lifeless in a coffin and I’m not thinking about it anymore. He’s gone, I cannot change that so my love and memories keep him alive in my heart
Lyn
The good memories will come back in time bit by bit.
Our thoughts needs to “reboot” & adjust to the loss.
It’s okay not to be okay. Don’t let others tell you what to do.
Oddly despite the fact I had a bad experience yesterday and I had decided not to go again right now I’m lying in bed crying and feeling like I should go and see him again. I’m here thinking he was the love of my life, the biggest part of my life for 17 years, how can I not go and see him again? It’s not his fault he looked the way he did, he couldn’t help it. He’s still my baby My feelings and emotions are changing hour by hour and it’s driving me insane
I didn’t go for me, I went for him. I supported him when he lived and I had to support him when he died. Despite my feelings I needed to be there for him and if I could, I would have sat with him every day, to not leave him without the support we had always given each other . X
Even though I know he’s not there and I hated seeing him like that I also feel like I need to see him again for him. We also supported each other all through our time together and we looked out for each other, he’d always worry about me more than himself and I feel like I need to see him to be there with him even if it’s just for a while. Isn’t it funny how our thoughts and emotions can change so rapidly though?
I also feel that not going again because of how he looked is terrible. He was the most wonderful, caring, gentle loving man I ever met. He did so much for me. This is the only thing I can fo for him now
Absolutely. He would do it for you too as mine would have done fore me. The thought of my partner in the funeral home with no one going down to show they cared, it wasn’t going to happen !
Hi Sue
It is isn’t it?
It’s from the Willow Collection and is also called Togetherness…I ordered it from Argos.
When my dad died I also had the Father and Daughter one
Lyn
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My cat absolutely hates other cats, hates most people including me sometimes, she’s happy just sleeping, eating and going up the mountain exploring. She’s never going to be upset over another cat dying and if I die she’ll just go to one of the neighbours who try feed her anyway, luckily she’s really fussy so she doesn’t eat their food tho. What a simple, easy way to live 
take care xx
I wanted to do something uplifting and something to keep as a little memento
