Must admit im tempted too
Jx
I also chose my song today for his funeral. Faith Hill There youāll beā¦itās such a powerful emotional song and the lyrics are just perfect.
I have also had his name engraved on the heart of steel
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Iām afraid to listen to it, I found listening to songs with really meaningful lyrics made me cry uncontrollably when we were picking songs out for the service. We listened to loads of songs, some made me feel nothing but there were two or three that the lyrics meant so much that it hurt 
Iām dreading songs like that coming on the radio or on in shops etc in the future because I know Iāll just break down wherever I am 
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Im the same Lostlil. I cant really listen to any songs as Mike always had music on. Ive not turned my car radio on since he died.
The special song i had at the funeral was Paul Weller, You do something to me. It came on at the end and i just broke down. Mike sang and played it on guitar to me on our wedding day.
I hope in time i can listen to it again.
Big hugs
Jx
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Iāve not been able to put my car radio on since either, before he died it would have been the first thing I would do when I got in the car. He was always singing George Ezra Green Green Grass and he told us he wanted that played at his funeral if anything should ever happen to him and itās always on the radio so I try not to listen incase it comes on. To be honest them words are not that emotional to me so perhaps that song wouldnāt actually make me break down but I still donāt want to hear it yet He only ever mentioned the one funeral song so we had to pick out two more because heād said after his fathers funeral he didnāt want sny hymns played. The two we picked really made me sob because we tried to pick ones where the lyrics had meaning and expressed our loss and love for him x
Oh how lovely that he sang and played the guitar for you thatās so cute 
Aw ā¦ i had lavender by marillion cos he loved that song ā¦ and the words " i owe you for your love" so appropriate - its making me cry again 
oh dear what a day ā¦
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The other song at his funeral is he loved Paloma Faith we saw her twice in concert and it became our song but now very ironic āonly love can hurt like thisā
His sonās donāt know it was our song (small win) they just knew he played it over and over
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How true are them words though
I wish humans didnāt love so deeply 
Here I go again, lying here crying over Paloma Faiths lyrics whilst singing them silently in my head
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Hi i lost my partner in January i was his full time carer we were together 34 years .i .did go to see him at chapelof rest .he was frail towards the end .he had Parkinsons and dementia. I noticed straight away he looked slightly different in the face .i prepaired myself knowing he would look differant ,it was nice to see he wasnolonger in pain and was at rest .i was pleased i went .otherwise notg9ing i would have kept saying to myself that
i needed to check on him .so i was glad i went and i have many memories of him .
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Oh yeh love that song ā¦ only love can hurt like this - got cd in my car 
brilliant 
Hi. I would advise you to go and see him, more than once if you feel like it. My wife died in February last year and I went to see her to make sure she was dressed and ready for her last journey. I then took her sister to say her goodbyes on the day of the funeral. I think it gave me comfort to see her and it is your last chance to say goodbye.
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Thank you but Iām scared it wonāt look like him, he passed 5 weeks ago and funeral not until next weekā¦I never got to say goodbye to him (long story) and it hurts me that he wonders where I am if that makes any sense?
Sorry for the loss of your wife, itās horrible isnāt it?
Lyn
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Go see him sarlyn ā¦ honestly its not that bad ! Its actually quite comforting i think xxx just ask funeral director if he looks ok 
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He will look fine and if you donāt go you may regret it. It is a hard road you are now on, nothing will ever be as it was. My best advice is to leave it a few months and then seek bereavement counselling, mine is with the local hospice charity. Speaking to an expert helps to get your mind in order for the different life you will now have to lead but do not rush things. Hope this helps.
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Hi Sarlyn
I am sorry for your loss.
I went to see my beautiful daughter 4 weeks after her passing. I so wanted to touch her and kiss her one last time but it was not like that as I was horrified and freaked out and spooked and the image of her haunted me for while. Not only had her features changed beyond recognition but she was red as beetroot which I also found alarming. I would have thought the funeral director might have given me some warning but no. My other daughter was with me and I am so thankful I went in first so I could prevent her from experiencing that. She still went in to speak to her but didnāt look at her. Its fine to go to be with your husband but I would spare yourself the possibility of a very bad experience.
Thank you, I will give it a try
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@Ronyag1964
Oh how awful for you and yes this is my biggest fear.
So sorry for the loss of your daughter, I cannot imagine that pain, I donāt like to compare a loss because grief is grief, however, I personally think losing your child is the worst experience imaginable and my heart goes out to you.
I think until we go through this we all believe we will live to old age
Big hugs
Lyn x
Sarlyn
My heart goes out to you because you are in an intolerable situation here.
I feel that because you are indecisive about it and not a definite no you may regret not going.
Could you take a good friend and ask her to go in 1st, to warn you if he looks too different? Also ask the funeral directors for their advice.
I know you could also ask for the coffin to be closed if you wanted to go but not see him.
Whatever choice you make, only you will need to live with so do what you feel is right.
As i said earlier i was so apprehensive but it was a wonderful experience for me. But equally when i saw my parents it was awful. We all react differently.
If you are 100% sure it is not for you thats ok.
I still remember my Husband being alive more than that short time i saw him at peace
Jx
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