Oh thats really lovely … but it does get easier to bear @Liro … but honestly people are crap in this country at dealing with grief ! They dont give you space for it !! My bereavment counsellor said we are one of the worst cultures …! We really are !!! Xxx
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How far are you along Deb does it really get any easier. Xxx
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18 months and yeh gets less devastating !!! Still sad some days and you go through so msny emotions and stages but yeh it gets easier 
you learn to find joy in other things … i never thought i could say that tbh ! But i don’t cry as much now … and i dont feel as sad xx
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I hope I get there like you.
I cry so much I don’t know where the tears come from.
Its incessant, like a waterfall.
I am getting better at controlling it when I’m out. But not always
X x
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Me and you too Liro, i try so hard but the tears still come. I never thought i could cry as much xxx
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Yeh i was like that !!! Not as bad now … still have rough days but in general better … so i suppose that expression time is a healer is true … although i wouldnt have believed you 6 months ago !! And if you wanna cry … just cry … get it out !! X
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Oh Deb i have never felt so low lost and scared. All i want to do is sleep but i darent go upstairs to bed. I have never been alone before. Xxxx
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Same here ! I never lived alone either !!! But i got a lot of support from various sources and even managed to make some good dog walker friends who helped me so much !! Keep writing on here . It really helps because so many feel like us xxx
I will Debs i just need ppl in my life xxx
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Hiw old are you Sebs i am 59 xx
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Few years older than you … hard isnt it and scary too … understand where youre coming from you know xxx
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It surevis Debs my name is josie . I just aint coping at all. I havent been to bed yet . I lay on the sofa. I have never slept alone. I am a coward and i get annoyed because i am meant to be a grown up. Xxx
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@jevncute Josie, why not take your puppy upstairs to bed with you? Wouldn’t he be a little comfort for you? I admit that I’m still sleeping in the other bedroom as I can’t bear to sleep in the one we shared!
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Try and go in your own bed if you can as you will have a better sleep 
how far are you into this ? early days are awful. You be all over the place xxx
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4 weeks on Sunday. I am all over the place no cleaning no cooking just grabbing at bits . I just dont know what to do. I am so lonely and scared all the time. I have spoken to my doctor who said its normal in grief. But because i suffer from agrophobia and panic attacks it makes it harder as i cant go out and socialise xxxc
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Youre dr is right ! I was just like that honey !!! I guess being agrophobic makes it a whole lot worse ! Try get some help on that and the panic attacks ! I think the panic attacks is part of grief too … try ring some helplines like cruse too to help you xxx
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I have rang cruise u have a telephone call on the 24th. I am hoping they help me. I need something. Xxx
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I have tried sadgirl but i just panic as soon as i go to bed .xxx
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I suffer with agoraphobia, panic disorder and all anxieties, I am not a social person in any way. Every weekend is a nightmare for me, the sickening feeling that I will get as the day goes on knowing that I am going home to no one and have no plans over the weekend. I have started buying things that I really don’t need, I am also using craft kits to try to get me through. I work in a school so only have one week left before the summer holiday and dread to think what I am going to do. Does anyone have any suggestions
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Hiya littlewith is the school you work at far from you. I cant even work as i panic as soon as I am away from home. I like you dread the waste money on stuff i know i will never use.where are you fromxxx