@KarenF the poor girls! … if I could afford to own my own place I would love somewhere with land … maybe the boys could have their girls then 
x
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One step at a time 
sort one problem at a time honey. Rome wasnt built in a day ! Sort most pressing problems first xxx
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Sorry to sound like a broken record… im really struggling!
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@Kel2 These early months are awful. Even if we can’t come and help you we can tell you it’s ok to struggle and you have more than your fair share of 
going on. One step at at a time. Hugs
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Thank you @Mike75 … just feeks like its getting harder x
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Hi Kel2
Just want to say I am thinking of you. To His whole situation is heartbreaking for us. I don’t have the answers Wish I did That’s all I can say is I am here for you anytime you want to post.
I check most nights as nights sem to be worse for me
Deborahi
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I agree that Karen Sutton’s podcasts are very helpful, and her Widowed and Rising group is so very caring, and helpful.
Love to you all xx
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Yeh nights are hardest. Thats when i cry x
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Me too.Last night cried buckets even woke up and burst into tears
Deborah x
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I find i cry more night times find it so hard and lonely
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Yeh it hits you more at might doesnt it ? 
cos they not next to you i think - i dream a lot too - sometimes with my husband in it and sometimes just a feeling ive had a strange dream … x
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I find just this last week is the first time I have had anything like dreams (I used to regular as clockwork had long dreams bits of which I could always remember) these are just bits and pieces which I struggle to remember any of. I am finding it so, so difficult this week as it is my birthday on Wednesday and blumming heck I wish it was over, I am certainly not looking forward to it.
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I also do a lot of my crying in the evenings, especially if I’ve been on my own all day. I don’t work so sometimes don’t see anyone. I had my birthday in February and my family made it as lovely as possible for me. I had lots of lovely cards but the only one I could ‘see’ was the one that was missing (if you see what I mean) it was so painful. @Sulane, I hope you get through yours with as little pain as possible and I hope you can enjoy some of it. Have you BBC any plans? Jean xx.
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Unfortunately I don’t have any family, it’s going to be a long lonely day, but we’ve suffered worse haven’t we?
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I’ve no idea where BBC came from…………xx.
@Jean8
I wondered what it meant…I did look it up, & what I found I knew wasn’t what you ment!!
Do not think i can take anymore my husbands Mum has made me feel that what i done for my husband was not good enough . My husband had already told me that if he could not beat the cancer he would like a cremation so that he could come back home to me so now i have him in a chelsea casket as he was a big fan of theirs also one of his sister have had a go at me for leaving his wedding ring on him she said how do you know he still has it on someone might have taken it of him and keep it
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@sue11 You poor love, it’s so hard, isn’t it? I really wish I could give you (& many others on here) a physical hug, but of course I can’t, mind, close your eyes, count to 3 hope you could feel it, it was sent with heartfelt love. Mark threw a curve ball at me a couple of months before he died, as you may know my parents and siblings are all dead & I always said I wasn’t afraid of dying as I would meet them again, where as Mark never believed in that, but he said on day last summer (bear in mind he wasn’t I’ll & it was totally unexpected when he died) he said he wanted his ashes scattered somewhere nice and calm. I thought long & hard, where we got engaged, in our woodhaven, special seaside place. Someone suggested getting a piece of jewellery made with the ashes (I did look into it, but it wasn’t for me, also there is teddy bears you can get with a little compartment you can put ashes into and then you can cuddle, again not for me. What I have decided on is keeping him with me, and putting in my will that our ashes are scattered together. It is completely up to you, you decided to keep his wedding ring on, it was 100% the right choice, it was your choice, she had no right to say that to you, plus do you honestly believe that the funeral directors would tarnish their reputation? I don’t and she should NEVER had put that worry in you head. xxx
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Thank you so much for your kind words all i was doing was what my Husband wanted i left the ring on him as he had asked me not to take it of he said i will still be your husband even though i will not be around any more and in my eyes he still is my husband
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Just had quick read of these messages.
We have all had a terrible time and trying our best to get through each day .
You have done what your husband wanted you to regardless of anyone else telling you otherwise .
It’s so difficult and you dint need this added stress from the family .
Take care xxx
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