He was diagnosed in march 2021 with throat cancer . Fit and healthy . He died September 2021 , we were both sure he would beat it . He was only 59 , been together since we were both 16 . Over two and half years now , I have accepted now he can’t come back or come and get me . And have adjusted to living this sad lonely crap life without him . But I do believe I will be with him again , when it’s my time to go .x
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Thats not nice. Everyone has nasty stories there is nothing nice about losing your loved ones.
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I remember this feeling from when my first Husband died. I had lots or people i loved lots of support and friendship. But, i judt wanted a huge hug, a cuddle, the support of his closeness
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I can’t understand why we get treated this way surely all they should want is to see their father happy and if you as I have welcomed into the home and wasn’t the cause of the parents divorce and in my case both children was in their twenties when we met . I am fine with it but hubby would be mortified at their behaviour. As you have said move on don’t let them get to you I never had any issues over money as it was in both names thank goodness.
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I know exactly how you feel. Its difficult to pick yourself but in time it will happen.
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They were late teens when we met and he had been divorced 4 years due to their mother having an affair.I have never put a foot wrong but they never really tried to get to know me .Like you said their father would be mortified too.
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I hope you find solace
It’s strange when they leave you out as much as you can your husband must have hated also .
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I have found that a deep seated hatred of them all helps me get through each day. God help any of them who attempt to contact they will meet someone they do no know it’s been over a year now
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Once my lady passed last April her two boys were ok as they said we will make sure Dave is ok and we will look out for him and let him keep the roof over his head then the next day the oldest come round and took the will. Then they left there mum in the morgue for 12 weeks which during that time they went on holiday for a week which infuriated me then the 10th week I said to them what the hell is going on , why is your mum still in the freezer so the eldest said because we are trying to get the funds to get her cremated. What a load of tosh as no funds needed till funeral over so I said to him either you get this funeral sorted or I’m taking over then all of a sudden the funeral is happening . So then I sent the bleep a message saying can I carry your beautiful mum into the funeral so the eldest said no because I’m not immediate family which hurt me so I said to him keep out of my way and I never want to see or hear from you again so I just deal with there dad who is the executor of the will as my life is in a bubble with no where to go till our home is sold and they get there inheritance and I get my bit too. As far as I am concerned now is my woman’s family is dead to me and been blocked on all social media and phone too. Sad thing is I’ve known the mum and Dad 40 years and I’ve known those boys since they were six and this how I’m treated . It’s awful for all of us who endure this kind of treatment after our loved ones pass away
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I am sorry to hear how you have been treated it’s sad your poor partner would be devastated to know what treatment you have received and the fact you are no longer in contact I don’t understand as my own children ( He was their stepfather) adored him and miss him terribly especially today being his birthday but he own nothing .
I always knew they were very greedy selfish people the son came to my house after the funeral and demanded to see the will,which I let him see he actually photographed it then contacted the solicitor who was the executor wanting to contest it.Even though he had given them a decent amount of money a few years ago and told them he was giving them money while he was alive and that was what they were getting,he did this to avoid me any hassle because he knew what they were like.He was told by the solicitor he hadn’t a leg to stand on .It upsets me that he could be so heartless.
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Sometimes people disappoint, don’t they? It hurts so much inside - some people have no feelings - I think there are two types of people in life - Givers and Takers.
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People can disappoint, can’t they? It is so sad for you but it sounds like you are the better person. Be true to yourself. You sound like a good person stay that way but be on your guard - Hope that helps.
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I agree with you, i cant stop crying all the time. Its so quiet in the evening, me and my husband used to talk about silly little things and joke to each other, now all i want to do is hide under my blanket and never come out. 
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I can only think it must be jealousy because you were loved by ‘their’ person but its so sad and unnecesary. They shpuld think what their Mum would want
Same , just want to go to bed earlier and earlier , then don’t want to wake up , seems to be the only peace I get is the couple of hours I manage to sleep
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I am selling my house and moving abroad for a totally isolated life they can rot for all I care. My wife will be with me in my heart forever.
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Yes I never thought of it that way but you are right.
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Aww sending you big hugs to both of you
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